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Bye-bye, Great Grandma

I'm sad to report that last night Alastair's grandmother, the girls' great-grandmother, passed away. Bertha, or "Bert" as she was called, was nearly 97 years old, and was loving, gracious and whip-smart. Elsa and Clio won't remember meeting her, but they brought her a great deal of joy in her last months. And right now, they're providing a great deal of comfort to the whole family with their happy presence. They're (very cute) reminders that life goes on, new generations continue where the old left off, and that for as much sadness as there is in life, there's equal measure of joy.

 

Bert was wonderful with the babies the several times she visited with them. Though she couldn't always remember their names or who was who (then, plenty of people half her age can't either) she showered them with affection. "You're a shayneh kepelah!" she'd tell them. (Yiddish, meaning, literally, "pretty head.") And then she'd ask us, a twinkle in her eye, "You feeding them steak yet?"

 

 

Bert with Clio, 7 weeks old

 

I think it's so cool that someday Elsa and Clio be able to look at pictures like this and know that they were held in the arms of a woman who lived through two world wars and the Great Depression -- things that will no doubt seem like ancient history to them. Bert was the child of immigrants from Eastern Europe who came to Manhattan's lower east side at the end of the nineteenth century, looking for opportunity and religious freedom. They were garment workers, dressmakers. Bert was raised in Brooklyn, along with three sisters and a brother. When she married, she and her husband moved out to Long Island and up into the middle class. Bert's daughter (my mother in law) has a PhD from Columbia University and is highly respected in her field. Who knows what Elsa and Clio will do?

 

Bert and Elsa

 

Great Grandma, you will be missed.

 

 


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Comments

 

Eva said:

Sorry for your loss. But so wonderful that the girls were able to meet their great grandmother. I wish S&J had the chance to meet some of theirs. I could totally imagine my grandmother speaking yiddish to them.  

November 4, 2007 10:47 PM
 

nancyt said:

My son met his 93-year-old great-grandmother this summer, and you're right. It's a totally amazing thing to have the generations come together like that. Thank you for sharing such amazing pictures--she looks like such an elegant lady. We should all be so graceful and stylish into our 90s! Our sympathies are with you.

November 5, 2007 10:17 AM
 

SarahH said:

I love Bert! I don't know her but I love her scarf and her earrings and imagining her talking in Yiddish. Thanks for posting the pics and a little about her life. It's great to see a people generations apart loving each other.

November 5, 2007 10:19 AM
 

Don Mills Diva said:

What a lovely tribute to her. Sorry for your loss but glad for you that you have those wonderful pictures for your girls.

November 5, 2007 10:51 AM
 

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November 5, 2007 11:25 AM
 

julielynn said:

I am so sorry for your loss......what beautiful pictures.

November 5, 2007 2:33 PM
 

GirlsGoneChild said:

I'm so sorry about your loss but you're so right about life going on. The relationship, the bond between the youngest family members and the oldest is something so human and beautiful. So glad she got to know your little girls. It's obvious from the photos that it gave her such joy.

November 5, 2007 10:02 PM
 

Cara said:

So sorry for your loss.  My girls will probably lose their great grandfather over the next month as he is in the hospital and going down hill fast.  I have been looking over the pictures of my oldest daughter with him and it just makes me smile that she indeed got to know him.  

Again, I am so deeply sorry for your and Alastair's loss.

November 6, 2007 9:36 AM
 

chyna823 said:

My daughters' great-grandmother died when my oldest was 2 and I was pregnant with my youngest. I'm sorry she never got to see my youngest, but I love the pictures of my oldest with Gram.

And you're right about having babies around at a time like this: At Gram's wake, my then-two-year-old didn't know what was going on--she was just excited to see her family all together at once. When we walked in, she bolted through the crowd, yelling, "Hi, Papa!" and leaped into his arms. That couldn't have gone better if I'd planned it.

November 7, 2007 3:01 PM

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