Baby Squared

Mommy's turn to cry

Remember how I said I wasn't going to write about bodily functions anymore?  I lied. Well, sort of. This isn't about Elsa and Clio's bodily functions, but my own. Puking, specifically. I spent several hours last night engaged in this delightful activity, my stomach repeatedly, violently insisting on purging itself of its contents long after there was nothing left to purge. It was wretched. On the bright side: at least there was women's gymnastics to watch in between pukes. And the US kicked ass!

 

After the medal ceremony and some final, valedictory heaves, I basically lay in bed moaning for awhile, because I felt so completely awful -- aching, shaky, spent. Eventually I fell asleep. Today, fortunately, there's been no more puking. But lots of aching and nausea and feeling exhausted. As I write this, I am snacking on my children's Goldfish crackers, bringing my total caloric intake for the day up into the triple digits, I hope. (Another bright side: easy 2 pound crash diet!)

 

Seriously, though, what is the deal with parenting and getting sick? I think I have been sick more times in the past nineteen months than in the previous ten years of my life combined. Colds, stomach bugs, headaches, even pink eye once, for God's sake. And the girls don't even go to daycare! I take as good -- or better -- care of myself than ever in terms of diet and exercise, and the girls have been consistently sleeping through the night for almost a year, so it's not like sleep deprivation is the culprit. Has anyone else had this same experience? Maybe it's just the overall intensity of having to juggle so many things and be so "on" for the girls all the time. Or maybe I'm just getting old.

 

Alastair has also gotten sick quite a bit, too, though the lucky bastard always seems to get a milder version of whatever virus is sweeping through our household. He wasn't feeling well a couple of days ago -- nauseous, tired, etc. -- but he did NOT spend three hours praying to the porcelain god every twenty minutes. Now, of course, I'm just waiting for the inevitable: Clio is going to get sick (she always seems to catch stuff first), and then Elsa, though probably not as bad (like her Dad, she seems to get the "express" version of everything).

 

I suppose I should count my blessings. At least it's a weekend (what a way to spend a weekend!) and at least Alastair is here to help out. And at least 19-month olds are totally understanding and accommodating when you say stuff like, "mommy feels sick and is just going to lie here on the couch and sip ice water while daddy runs an errand. Can you two just play nicely with your blocks together for at least 30 minutes? And not whine for me to give you sips of my water? And fix yourselves some lunch if you get hungry? You're the best."

 

My apologies for such a lame and mopey post. I just can't bring myself to write up any amusing yet poignant anecdotes or shockingly profound musings on the nature of parenting. You know, like I usually do. But here: a cute picture of the girls to tide you over until such time as I don't feel like utter shite. Be well, my friends!

 

 


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Comments

 

Barb said:

Have been reading for a while but never left a comment. Had to write today.

First off, sorry to hear you're so ill. Being sick stinks and being sick with kids is even worse!

Second though, I actually found a bit of relief in your post about how often you and the kids are sick, despite them being at home with you and not in day care. I am a teacher and have 20 month old BG twins who are in DC full time during the school year. It seemed they were sick at least once every other week this year! It was maddening! And each time we went to the pediatrician, he'd ask if they were in DC and nod his head. I got quite the complex about it and feared I was making my kids sick by sending them to the sess pool of germs at DC. Thankfully another friend who goes to the same pedi, said he asks her the same question and her boys are not in DC, but were sick almost as often.

They both reassure me that their frequent illnesses now mean fewer in the future once they enter school. I sure hope so!

I think for the tots, this is the stage where they are constantly putting their hands everywhere and said hands and toys and germs end up in their mouths, hence transfering lots of germs. I think as they grow, they do build that immunity and encounter fewer unfamiliar germs and less ends up in their systems, too.

Interestingly too, opposite of you, my DH seems to be the one who always gets sick along with the kids and I just get the mild stuff. I think it may be b/c I'm so immune after years of teaching kiddos in school.

One more irony...I'm assuming your Clio is pronounced like Clee-oh and I live in the town of Clio, but with a long I.

Ok...I'll stop writing a novel here. Hope you feel better soon.

August 15, 2008 8:46 PM
 

lla.ma. said:

what perfect swimsuits!

August 16, 2008 12:49 AM
 

Greer's Mum said:

Sick?! All the damn time! I was so relieved to read your post. I thought it was just me. My daughter is 9 months old and I swear I have  been sick for 3 of them if you add it all together. She had roseola, and when Mummy caught the virus? 5 days in the hospital with viral menangitis! My husband? Uhhh... nothing. Okay maybe the occasional case of the sniffles. I think motherhood automatically cancels out your immune system.

August 16, 2008 7:51 PM
 

churlita said:

If I've said it once, I've said it a hundred times: Kids are grubby little germ breeders. It's a good thing they're cute, huh?

August 16, 2008 8:50 PM
 

Michele said:

I hope you feel better, thanks for another adorable photo...

August 16, 2008 10:39 PM
 

Susie Felber said:

Ohmigawsh -- I'm amazed you can post at all!  Feel better and so sorry.  I myself am on the Internets today because I think I have strep throat.  Feeling crap all weekend ad feel your pain.  Daddy took H to the lake beach, thank Thor.  And yeah, I'm till meal prepping and ring around the rosey-ing but not all day.  What single parents do, I've no idea!

August 17, 2008 6:14 PM
 

Rachel said:

Poor thing!  Hope you have recovered a little and that A. is taking care of you.  And the girls.  And the cat.  How DO single parents do this?

I, too, have been sick a lot more since becoming a parent.  Two weeks ago Evie had a 2-day mild cold, and I ended up home from work with a cold, fever, chills, etc. for three days, and I am still trying to get rid of the cough.  Yuck.

Evie got sick a LOT between the ages of 12 months and 2.5 years - chronic ear infections, stomach bugs, random 24-hour fevers with no other symptoms, roseola, coxsackie virus, etc.  But since then, she has only been sick 2 or 3 times and she seems to have a really strong immune system now...which is what everyone promised when we were in the midst of the string of sicknesses.  I'm hoping that when she starts kindergarten next fall, we'll be done with sickness.

Hope the girls stay healthy and you recover quickly!

August 18, 2008 10:33 AM
 

Marie Eve said:

Take care, OK? We're the same, we never used to be sick and suddenly we always have something... It did take me by surprise too, we expected that kiddo would be sick, but us? We're just finishing the dreaded "first-year-at-daycare," which everyone told us was the absolute worst. We're keeping our fingers crossed but given our northern latitude (Montreal), I'm still dreading the return of the cold season very much.

August 18, 2008 12:44 PM
 

April said:

I actually posted this message on my blog: "Taking care of twins is pretty easy. Taking care of sick twins is hard. Taking care of sick twins when you are also sick is impossible."  

August 18, 2008 1:29 PM
 

Tracey said:

Cade was at the pediatrician's office every other week the first year of his life. Just last week we had to take time off and tag team to stay home with him, sick again. I think it's a rite of passage, daycare or not.

As for you? Stress makes you very vulnerable to viruses and colds. Even though parenting is great, the constant go, go, go can be very stressful.    

August 18, 2008 1:42 PM
 

MidLifeMama said:

I am fighting the 4th cold in as many months right now. Cooper gets it, then I do. Sometimes the husband gets it, but like your husband, it always seems to be milder and shorter. When we all got the stomach bug, I was being attacked at both ends, he had the runs. My neighbor's kids don't go to daycare and are as sick as mine who does. Kids are just vectors. Pint sized petri dishes attracting and harboring all manner of disease, incubating it to perfection, and then unleashing it on an unsuspecting community, namely your household.

August 18, 2008 1:54 PM

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