Someone asked in a recent comment if my girls break
into fights pretty much any time I leave the room for more than five
seconds. And the answer, sadly, is yes. YES! It's ridiculous how much
of our parenting these days involves playing referee. And damn, it's
tough. We're not even to the stage of She said / She said yet. There's
no "she started it," or "she's lying." There's just...fighting.
And
it seems to go in waves where it's either Elsa's fault all the time or
Clio's fault all the time, and I start questioning my ability to be a
fair and impartial judge, because I fear I am biased against one child
or the other, based on her recent behavior. Or I worry that I'm
subconsciously trying to even things out by under- or over-reacting to
one or the other of them. (If you're having trouble following this
paragraph, then you can begin to get a sense of how confused I often
feel in the moment.)
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