Band on the Diaper Run

Nursing-the breastfeeding kind vs. the hospital kind

 So, we've spent the past two weeks totally sick.  We had to admit little baby June, into the hospital due to RSV and bronchialitis.  Hospitals, especially the childrens' ward are depressing places even though you are getting help. Amidst all the sickness and germs and millions of nurses (your best friends in the hospital) and nursing students and a few doctors, there are parents.  Parents with little glimmers of hope in their eyes.  You can't help but wonder, what's wrong with each one of their kids.  At least June only stayed 4 days.  It could have gotten so much worse and it didnt.  

I decided, however, after staring at a small cubicle of grey, sitting next to a jail cell type crib,  listening to beeping heart monitors and such hooked up to my month old child, I never, ever want to have to come back if we can help it.  I will do everything in my power to prevent it. 

 

 

 

 

 She was a champ though, didn't even cry when they ripped off the tape from the tubes on the day we left.

 


Nursing, the other kind, the feeding kind, really helped June.  In fact they say breastfeeding was the best thing going for her while she was so sick.   Which leads me to what I last left off with: public nursing.  I'll be doing it as long as it works for the two of us.  And if anyone scowls at me for doing it in front of them while I'm miles away from home, on tour, I  will remember that it possibly can help save my kid's life.   

 

 

 

 Next time, happy moments...and the photo shoot from our next album's artwork.


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Comments

 

delftwaves said:

I think a mother nursing her child is the most natural and beautiful thing to do in the world.  I have never seen a problem with it.

Glad June is okay!

February 17, 2008 11:57 PM
 

Kelly said:

I'm glad that June is in the clear and safe at home with her mama!  I'm a nursing student that just finished a rotation for pediatrics and labor & delivery/postpartum/nursery and I have to say that there is nothing more gratifying than helping a new mom successfully breastfeed.  Breastfeeding is such a beautiful thing and I really wish that people could get over the fact that women breastfeed in public...you are feeding your child and helping him/her stay alive for goodness sake!  I can't wait to hear about the new album!!

February 18, 2008 8:07 AM
 

Miggy said:

As a mom I agree with the fact that you've just got to take care of your kid and not worry about everyone else.  Glad the babe's OK.

February 18, 2008 8:23 AM
 

picturegift said:

Oh I wish I had the where-with-all to attach a photo here...I was in the hospital with my 1 year old son last year for dehydration due to a roto-like virus(??).  He too was a champ.  I'm glad June is okay. Scary stuff. Thank heavens for the flowin' b-milk!

February 18, 2008 12:00 PM
 

Kaleigh said:

So glad to hear that your daughter is doing better now.  I imagine the entire hospital stay was pretty traumatizing.  How did Magnolia deal with it all?

February 18, 2008 1:56 PM
 

Carol said:

Sheesh, I think this sick bug is hitting everyone this year. I have 3 kids under 3 and our house has been sick going on a month now. My youngest (5 mo.) was in the ER last week, but luckily no hospital stays. I'm sorry you guys had to go through that. I have found there is little in the world that compares to the feeling you have when your babies are hurting. Your comments on BF make me miss it. Maybe that would have helped my little one this time too.   Cant wait to hear the new album. And anxious to see you guys play again.

February 18, 2008 2:09 PM
 

Ali said:

Sorry to hear about your little one!  My son had only a mild case of RSV when he was only a few months old, I can imagine how frightening it was for you.  Don't worry about public breastfeeding either, most people will be respectful, and I've found that looking at them like they are a small child throwing a fit works best when they aren't.  You are doing what's best for your baby and yourself. I'm from a small Texas town that recently made national news for censoring artwork of a breastfeeding mother- now I nurse my one year old daughter in public as often as possible in protest.  People who are offended by public breastfeeding are the ones who deserve the scowls.  Keep up the good work!

February 18, 2008 10:25 PM
 

teri*sue bailey said:

UGH! I spent a week and a half in the hospital with my last baby in 2006. He was 2 weeks old and his heart was beating at 320bpm. He was diagnosed with supraventricular tachycardia. Super scary stuff. Like 12 doctors over him, reading from their big book of medical stuff and punching in numbers to their calculators trying to figure out the right amount of medicine to push through his veins to try to slow down his heartbeat. We too were lucky that this was something that could be treated with medicine (but for the first week of our visit it just seemed like he kept taching and they wouldn't be able to regulate him). It is such an awful, awfuly feeling to feel like you might be losing your baby. I can't even describe it. Then once they start to think about discharging you to the time they actually discharge you feels like an eternity. I understand! And more power to you for nursing in public! Why are boobs hot for guys when thinking about sex, but when they're being used to nurture a baby all of a sudden they are gross and taboo??? And why are some (or even most) of the critics of breastfeeding in public women????

February 18, 2008 10:31 PM
 

Lauren said:

Korie I'm happy to hear your baby June is back with you & doing better, i did'nt even know you were expecting another one! Last time i saw you two perfrom, you deffinitely were not preg. But Yay! Congrats on your beautiful family or 4 & magnolia is so adorible! I love that you post these little blogs because i love you guys!

February 18, 2008 10:45 PM
 

Jenn said:

Don't let those haters get to you woman! You do what's best for yo child and let them be Negative Nancys and deal with their own issues.

February 18, 2008 10:47 PM
 

Boo said:

Two of my nieces have been hospitalized several times for RSV, it's so sad and I know how helpless you can feel, even if i'm not their mommy. Luckily none of them were that young, but glad to know baby June is doing well! That's always good news. Forget all those jerks who glare to breastfeeding, there's nothing wrong or perverted with feeding your child in the healthiest way possible. Keep up the good work with raising those precious babies and making amazing music. I'm super excited to hear the new album and even more excited to see you guys!

February 18, 2008 10:49 PM
 

becca said:

i'm so glad little june is better!  i just wanted to tell you that you guys are an inspiration to me. thanks for doing what you do

February 18, 2008 11:17 PM
 

Dannielle said:

When I would serve people at the restaurant where I used to work, I'd get really weirded out by public nursing. you changed my p.o.v. i'm glad she is/you are you ok. it's all wonderful and i will make buttons that say 'i support public nursing'

February 18, 2008 11:37 PM
 

miss alexandra said:

also remember there are so many women who wish they could breastfeed your child but can't for one reason or another. so that's a big thing to be thankful for.

i think it's rediculous that public b-feeding is such a controversy.

February 18, 2008 11:54 PM
 

amyddiane said:

I'm so sorry your little girl was sick.  As a NICU mom (and mom to a baby that also just got over RSV) I would also do anything to keep my little guy healthy.  He self-weaned at 2.5 months but I was adamant and kept pumping so he would continue to get the good stuff.  Kudos to you for doing what is right for your family!  I'm looking forward to seeing you when you make it over to Illinois!

February 19, 2008 11:36 AM
 

Ashish Thomas said:

Dont let anyone else tell you otherwise its for the good of your child thats all that matters.

February 19, 2008 3:50 PM
 

Laurel Sears said:

I'm so glad you've decided to nurse (publicly or whatever)!  I am a big breastfeeder and got over the public nursing issue pretty early.  It gets easier as your baby gets to be a better nurser- less anxiety (yours and hers), etc.  90% of people don't even notice what I'm doing when I nurse- experiment with a sling too!  I found that this calmed my daughter down and got her latched on well.  Best of luck! Just remember that most people support you and those that don't won't say anything... we hope :) (and I'm from Lawrence KS- fan from way back)  

February 19, 2008 4:42 PM
 

caitlin said:

Our 5 week old daughter was admitted to the hospital a year ago tomorrow for RSV/bronchiolitis. Ventilator, IVs, blood transfusion, etc. Although it was hard, she got better. The hardest part has been forgetting the other children that I saw there. Like you said, seeing parents who had no hope of bringing their children home was a stark reality and I don't think that memory will ever leave me. The nurses were our lifeline too and they did such an amazing job. I hope you daughter gets better with each passing day. The link above is our tribute to nurses at CHOC Hospital.

February 19, 2008 5:22 PM
 

JustLia said:

RSV & bronchialitis sucks. My 8 month old is fighting it right now and so far he managed to get an ear infection and a throat infection on top of it I think we've seen more doctors this last 3 weeks than ever before. So far no overnight stays at the hospital though thank goodness.

Good to hear that your little girl is doing better and we're looking forward to see you play next time you come to Montreal.

Lia

February 20, 2008 9:10 AM
 

bandmum said:

You keep rockin' the breastfeeding! as the wife of a roadie...er, umm, "stage manager", & newish mum i have done the nursing thing in some odd places & the responses are tricky sometimes but its completely worth it. off this topic, but on another one from awhile back; you mentioned getting headphones for magnolia so she could see bands w/o hurting those precious young ears.we have been looking all over, have you found noise reducers for babies/children?would love to know what they are. hope that is not too insensitively off topic, all comiserations & empathy on your hopital stay, cheers.

February 22, 2008 5:59 PM
 

Jennifer Stankovits said:

I'm so stoked I found this blog, I love your music very very much and am a mother of three.  Yay for breastfeeding (I've been doing it for over six years minus one short break between babes) and yay for incorporating your family into your music life!  

Funny sidenote:  I had heard you named your first daughter Magnolia, I love that name and so I almost named my nine month old Magnolia, but instead I named her June!  I saw you guys play in L.A. when I was barely pregnant with her and we enjoyed the show excessively!  

February 22, 2008 6:46 PM
 

hollym said:

i'm really glad that june is ok...how scary. :(

and yay to not caring about the public nursing haters and new album artwork!

February 24, 2008 10:26 PM
 

cydne said:

Hello,

  I just discovered youover the summer and my husband and 3 boys love your music! we are all huge fans. even the 1 1/2 year old bops around!

 Sorry to hear little June was sick, but am glad to hear she is better. As a prior public breast feeding momma,  Much happy nursing. you go momma!

 Can't wait to hear what's next for you guys!

Cydne

February 24, 2008 11:30 PM
 

Lynda said:

I am glad little June is feeling better!  And Nurse on with you bad self!  our little guy was born in January and I am on the nursing train as well.  I am all set to flip off any naysayers.  On another note I have the chance to participate in an international sports tournament this summer, so this means I will be going to finland with hubby and baby in tow!  You guys and your success on the road show that its possible to follow your dreams while being successful parents!  Looking forward to the new album, know you have a big fan in Vienna Austria!

February 25, 2008 3:47 AM
 

korkor said:

Thanks for all the kind words..

On the sidenote above, headphones for babies:

I get asked this nearly everytime we are at a show.

We found ours, oddly enough through a police department-they are sold as junior hearing protection for firing ranges!?

We had zero luck finging baby or child headphones for concerts.  I've seen them at shooting ranges but not at any kind of music stores. Go figure.

I did hear that you can get some in the UK called pentar or pentax or something of that nature (pictures of Gweneth and Apple with them on have popped up in the tabloids)

And, I heard a rumor that Gwen Stefani will be marketing some through her clothing line.  

Good luck, just call some gun shops near you.  (How lame)

Kori

February 25, 2008 2:23 PM
 

JustLia said:

Hi

just to add a note to Kori's message. The headphones are called Peltor Kids ear defender or kid ear muffs and they are avaliable on eBay from eBay stores in the UK and in Australia.

Lia

February 25, 2008 4:14 PM
 

Cece said:

Kori-I love your blog and your band. I feel so badly that cute baby June had to go through this, but even more so I feel for you. My daughter was hospitalized for a week with jaundice and I stayed there with her for a breastfeeding marathon and I ended up getting really sneaky about public breastfeeding. Not that you need to be sneaky, I just hate drawing attention to myself anyway and don't care to have people looking for the money shot. Anyway, I got a light pashmina shawl that rocks for nursing in public. I gave up the band life when my babies came and really admire you and your husband for doing your thing -  you rock!

March 4, 2008 2:47 PM
 

marlene said:

glad your little one is feeling better. mine got the same thing during our road trip to arizona. we were stuck in the hopsital for 8 long days.

April 4, 2008 3:17 PM
 

Maggie May said:

I had my first baby at nineteen- i'm thirty four now- and made my share of mistakes. But long term nursing is one thing I will eternally be glad I had the sense to do. If anyone gives you a look, squirt em in the eye. ;)

July 30, 2009 3:53 AM

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