Dr Laura: It's Eliot Spitzer's WIFE'S Fault That He Frolicked With Whores

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Willow — Mon, 17 Mar 2008 01:31:23 GMT

When someone cheats, they, and we, should spend less time wondering what their partner was failing to give them in the realationship and spend more time WONDERING WHO THEY ARE AS A PERSON, WHAT is their VALUE system and whether or NOT we want to continue to associate with them, with someone, anyone, like that. IF it was a mistake AND they are contrite AND THEY have examined who they are as a person and what their value system is and how THEY want to live their life, and they can consistently demonstrate that to us, consistently over time then we,their partner, can choose our behavior e.g. whether or not we are going to stay.

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Joyce — Mon, 17 Mar 2008 01:13:25 GMT

Patrick Swayzy has cancer and is taking Chemo. I am sure that he does not feel like having sex, so I guess Dr. Laura would suggest that his wife hire a male escort to fulfill HER NEEDS. Or maybe by Dr. Laura's rules this only applies to men........LOL!

Joyce

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Joyce — Mon, 17 Mar 2008 01:03:52 GMT

Dr Laura needs to be GETTING ADVICE, NOT GIVING it!

I remember one woman called in and complained that she was tired of her husband leaving his dirty socks on the floor. Dr. Laura told her to just be glad that she had a husband!!!

I guess that means if a wife does not flush a tampon down the toliet, then HE should flush, shut up and just be glad he has a wife! I would never take this woman's advice or buy her books. She sucks up to men and blames the women for the man's bad behavior.

She is worse than IGNORANT.

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babblekidzmom — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 09:50:13 GMT

What in God's name kind of excuse is that for a man to do his wife wrong. What ever happend to the marriage vows they said to one another? I mean come on... And there's always 2 sides to the story so how is Dr. Laura really going to make a judgment call on this? She's got a degree in IGNORANT.

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chris — Sat, 15 Mar 2008 09:22:38 GMT

We cannot undo what's done. We have to forgive and forget.

We have to move on from this mistake.

My admiration goes to Mrs. Silda Spitzer for her COMPOSURE and DIGNITY. She's BEAUTIFUL, INTELLIGENT, and CLASSY.

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chris — Sat, 15 Mar 2008 09:01:30 GMT

are you from mars?

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Cynthia — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 15:56:31 GMT

As far as Dr Laura goes, she is the most misinformed person I have ever had the misfortune to listen to. Go back to the dark ages Dr Laura!

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Cynthia — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 15:52:23 GMT

It is also likely that Spitzer felt above the law, remember he was trying to stop prostitution rings. Just call it corruption of the powers that be in our government.

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SuzyQ — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 20:46:27 GMT

Celea,

I'm actually on the opposite coast from New York, and I misinterpreted the "Steamroller" nickname. It apparently was given to him because of the way he tried to destroy his opponents. I googled it and found it was also a nickname for a very kinky sex act, but I don't know if Spitzer was into that.

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Malaina — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 20:41:01 GMT

Kev, I understand your point. That was not exactly what I meant by saying you should know what to expect before marriage. And unlike SuzyQ, I am actually a newlywed. I certainly did not ask for or receive a detailed list of expectations, not subject to change. BUT, I have been incredibly aware of my husband's strong sexual drive, his stance on porn, the depth of his fantasies, etc. So if down the road, a steamroller type inquiry arose, I would not be so shocked;) I do believe people change and that we are supposed to change. But, I also believe that nine times out of ten, a person's integrity and character remains fairly stable throughout their life, unless they become stricken with mental problems or something else of the sort. As has been mentioned, we do not know the Spitzers and cannot make any assumptions. Mrs. Spitzer may have been aware of other wrongdoings or lack of character within her husband for years, even things she herself supported. We just don't know. But I believe there are always clues, IF you are paying attention.

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SuzyQ — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 20:31:25 GMT

P.S., re: stress and depression - both my hubby and I have had our share of that. We've been through some very stressful times over 22 years. I won't get into details, but we were always able to communicate and make the right choice in the end. Nothing can negate free will, except perhaps some kind of mental deficiency. I don't believe most men (or women) are mentally deficient, even though Dr. Laura calls men "simple creatures".

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SuzyQ — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 20:20:25 GMT

Kev, I'm actually in a great, stable marriage that has lasted 22 years. Sorry if that disappoints you. We have three kids. My husband has never cheated. We both take care of each other. That's the key - marriage is a two - way street. My husband actually understands if I'm too tired for sex, and I understand if it's the same with him. I do most of the cooking and housework, and work part time. He cooks sometimes, too. Makes great spaghetti. He does housework, too.

If I have a day off from my job, I don't wear makeup and pearls to vacuum and do laundry. I wear comfy clothes. If I wore makeup and nice clothes to do housework, my husband would worry about me. I don't do as Laura recommends and take care of him because of some ever-present threat that he might cheat or leave me. That's a terrible way to live.

One more thing - what she says is akin to saying that if a wife doesn't keep enough money in the bank account, her husband will "have to" rob a bank. Bank robbery is immoral and illegal, but gosh, the poor guy wouldn't be able to help himself. B.S.

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Lilly Munster — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 19:32:50 GMT

We don't really know how their marriage is and neither does the "Dr.". Maybe they have problems or maybe he does have a great wife, but, like some men, just crave variety no matter what they have at home. However, I think he should have thought about how his actions might effect his children if (as it turned out)he was "found out". They must be so embarassed.

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Carrie — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 17:38:24 GMT

Oh boy! I am so glad you wrote this. I was forced to listen to this dribble in the waiting room at the doctor's office and when she said that first statement about being a "good, supportive wife," I laughed OUT LOUD. Then I looked around me at all the other people who sat there with their mouths agape.

I don't know how on earth that woman (if you can call her that) sells books.

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celea — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 15:18:33 GMT

what is a steamroller???

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Bill — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 14:08:18 GMT

Dr Laura's thoughts are BS! His wife needs to feed his ego MORE! How's about he get more concerned about his families needs. He's supposed to be the leader, not the needer!

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Kev — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 13:25:17 GMT

cont'd...Most men repsond to depression VERY differently than women. One of these responses is that men generally tend to exhibit and become addicted to impulsive behaviors such as gambling or sexual indiscretions. Or maybe the doctor was right, maybe he's a psychopath that gets his kicks out of this kind of behavior or he may be lacking something in the sexual relationship he has with his wife but also has something lacking in the relationship [it's called friendship] that won't allow him and his wife to communicate openly about MOST things. Or maybe it's a combination of all of those things. See how complicated this can get?

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Kev — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 13:24:47 GMT

I totally agree with the person that made the stmt that discussions such as these are never in terms of simply black and white. There are so many different reasons any of this could have happened.

Please read and think about it...

Suzy Q, Stress drives some people to work harder, stress drives some people to want to sleep their troubles away, it pushes others to drug usage, it pushes countless others to commit suicide, and some are driven to perform a combination of them all...... so just as stress can 'drive' a person to do any of the above listed things, some other unknown reason could have 'driven' ex-gov. Spitzer to his 'hooker' as you so eloquently referred to her (smile) - it has been clinically proven that stress most often pushes men into depression.

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Kev — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 12:15:02 GMT

Also, Malaina and SuzyQ-- Are you both in long term relationships? I ask this because of your stance on the fact that the sexual aspect of things should have been talked about before marriage. Question: Once you became committed to your significant other, did you cease to grow and change? Are you and your partners free to change your minds and tastes and interests and really enjoy the many things that life has to offer? You sound very stoic/static. Partners in relationships are often 'driven' away to other interests because life gets boring because people are set in their ways and won't grow or change. How boring life would be if we refused to change and evolve? Think about it.

To All: Let's not be so judgemental. Try to be a little more open minded. We should really take the time to stop and think and step outside of ourselves sometimes and look at circumstances from the other person's point of view. I guarantee you that a car in the middle of the road always looks different from the other side of the street.

Much Luv to ya all. :-D

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Kev — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 12:14:15 GMT

Did you read about the escort involved in this matter? Who on God's green earth knows why she was 'driven' to sell her body [the external attachment to her soul] for money? She sells her body for money. Maybe she is one of those types of girls/women that just enjoys the carnalality of freaky and nasty sex. But wait, did you see how she came from a very dysfunctional home and ran away at the age of 17, bascially following the footsteps of another sibiling that had already run away? Did you read about the abuse she witnessed and experienced? Her 'drive' as well could come from a combination of both. In fact, the very reason she seems to enjoy nasty freaky sex could be a direct result of the abuse she experienced.

People do all kinds of things for different reasons. We just don't know. And if everybody's house has windows, no one should throw rocks.

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abbey — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 05:46:15 GMT

you've got to wonder why he would risk everything, his family, marriage, career, reputation for sex with a prostitute. and wonder how many times he has pulled the same stunt before getting caught... what a selfish prick!!

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Remy — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 03:51:32 GMT

I love DR. Laura and respect her opinion. I won't go as far as to say it was the fault of Silda Spitzer, who by the way is not so bad looking, but I don't know all of the details of their marriage. Eliot Spitzer's a pig and I wished that his wife would have stayed home and told her cheating husband to attend the media by himself. My wife & I have been married for 16 years and she's still a frisky thing in bed. Perhaps Mrs Spitzer should read cosmo mags.

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sure thing — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 02:16:30 GMT

hes human..less famous people out there do the same thing or worse...hes just stupid to get caught

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Dawn — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 01:04:09 GMT

Dr. Laura knows NOTHING about sex/pornography addiction which is CLEAR to me that Spitzer has. It has absolutely NOTHING to do with the wife and EVERYTHING to do with him. I can not wait for Dr. Laura to get her head handed to her on a platter when she realizes someone in her own life (husband or son) suffers from this and is not even man enough to admit and uses her scapegoat of the wife/girlfriend that it is all her fault completely absolving the man of any personal responsibility. In fact, the more I think about this - I'm reminded of my mother-in-law.......

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SuzyQ — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 23:52:47 GMT

Triz, nothing wrong with wanting "adventure in the bedroom". Whatever floats a couple's boat. But as Maliana said, the details should be worked out before marriage, so both know what they're getting into.

Ho'ing around and blaming it on the fact that women want careers is lame. Next thing you know, Laura will be saying women having careers causes STD's.