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Of course because I wanted everything to be absolutely perfect it wasn't at all.  I haven't left the island of Manhattan except for an hour in Brooklyn a few weeks ago, since mid-January.  Last week was my Spring Break from Columbia but the kids' NYC public school had a mid-Winter break a few weeks ago and another one in April.  Staring at me on my desk is a coupon from Continental for $300 that I have to use or lose before May, mocking me.  I ached to get out of the city to some place warm for a week on that free ticket but that would have meant their mom would have had to come up from Atlanta to watch them and she happened to be in Germany instead, visiting her boyfriend.  

 

Then my best friend since the fifth grade, Ben, invited us to Easter dinner in Hamden, CT, where I grew up and where he still lives.  Not exactly Aruba but I missed him and was desperate to get out of town.  In the morning I bought one of those enormous, lamp-sized Italian chocolate Easter eggs and the night before I had the kids lay out their one set of sort of fancy clothes.  We are not religious and they don't go to Catholic school so Chet wore a button-down shirt for perhaps the third time in his life.  I remembered to pack the camera and the egg and we were all set to go.  

 

Ava, however, said she was feeling weird.  

 

"Weird?  Weird, how?" I asked.

 

She couldn't really explain but I gave her some baby Tylenol anyway and off we went in the car.  Just as we approached the farthest reaches of the Bronx, just moments from  escaping  from New York City she said, "Daddy, I'm going to throw up."  Now I don't drive often and when I do I might go a bit fast and the kids often tell me it makes them want to puke.

 

But puke she did.   Did I mention that I had given her my camel-hair coat to wear as a blanket during the ride?  It's now hanging in the shower, most of the vomit off it but still, that smell...  

 

I pulled off the highway into a gas station and we cleaned up.  She was so apologetic it broke my heart. 

 

"I'm so sorry daddy. I feel much better now.  We can go. Really."

 

I called Ben and turned us around.  She spent the day dozing on the couch. Chet and I played catch in the long hallway.

 

She developed a rash before going to bed and after some googling and remembering that an email warning from the school  about an outbreak of Fifth's Disease   I realized that that was what she had.   

 

My poor baby. At nine she seems so grown sometimes.  But on days like today she needed me like she needed me when she was in diapers. 

 

 


Comments

 

Libby said:

Hey, I grew up in Hamden too! HHS '92. I live in AZ now, but my parents are still in Spring Glen. I miss the east coast.

And you were totally right in the earlier post about people not knowing real pizza until they've eaten it in New Haven. Nothing compares...

March 23, 2008 10:28 PM
 

Jenny said:

Since having kids it seems there are new diseases popping up every day.  In 35 years I have never heard of Fifth's Disease. Poor baby.  Thankfully it is temporary.  

After living up north for years, my girls and I moved to Florida.  We were at the beach last Sunday...in March!! :)  I get immense joy calling my cold weathered family and friends to tell them so.  As cheesy as it sounds it feels like a vacation everyday down here.

March 24, 2008 8:57 AM
 

Melissa said:

I've never heard of Fifth's Disease either.  Google, here I come.  I wish law firms gave spring breaks.  (But I'm kind of glad daycare doesn't.)

March 24, 2008 12:48 PM
 

LogicalMama said:

As far as throw up smells go, the best thing to rid the smell and infectious bacteria is a product called Bac Out made by BioCleen. Great stuff, can't say enough about it. My son has thrown up at least three times in our car, and of course in the house on the rug-- not a trace within moments of pouring Bac Out on it!

March 24, 2008 2:31 PM
 

Trey said:

Thanks, LogicalMama for the tip.

March 25, 2008 10:58 AM
 

Angel B said:

Get well wishes for Ava!  I also have never heard of Fifths, but I'm happy that Ava has such a great Dad to give her that special tender loving care when she is sick. Thanks LogicalMama for the Bac Out tip! Now if someone could invent a Bac Out elixir for human consumption to wipe out any sickness we get within moments!

Thanks Trey for sharing this with us.  We hope you and Chet stay well and Ava recovers....like NOW!

And as writers, we can always escape to a tropical Paradise in our heads :)

You can close your eyes once Chet and Ava are asleep and you can go to Paradise and frolic in the sun --- sipping a cool and sweet Pina Colada :)

It's not quite the same as actually going there, but it's fun just the same!

March 25, 2008 8:48 PM

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Arthur Bradford

Trey Ellis in Manhattan

The author of Bedtimes Stories: Adventures in the Land of Single-Fatherhood, Trey is busy raising his school-aged girl and boy in New York City. When he’s not shuttling them to public school, he is a novelist, screenwriter, political blogger on the HuffingtonPost and film professor. Visit his website here.

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