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It's All Happening At the Zoo

The good news, I guess, is that my last post got folks talking. The bad news was that I had no idea so many people out there think I'm a jerk.  Oh well.   But my biggest  critic of my Mother's Day lament was A, the hardest-working, most-wonderful single parent in the world.  When I asked her what she wanted to do for Mother's Day she said, "Ha!  I thought you didn't believe in it."  To get myself out of hot water and to show her how much I appreciate her, our blending tribe all drove out to the Bronx Zoo.  We weren't the only ones with that idea. It seemed as if the entire tri-state area had a sudden craving to watch animals. 

 

Although I'd grown up in the City I had never been to the zoo before last year.  It was very crowded that day too so when the kids had whined that they just had to ride the camels I looked at the endlessly snaking line and convinced them to forget about it.  Kids apparently have memories like elephants when it comes to riding camels and this time they insisted.  Just as they sat atop the charming, yet stinky beast I realized that I was about the only parent in the entire zoo who had forgotten to bring a camera.  To the zoo.  Again.  It was then that I distinctly remembered that I'd forgotten the last time too and vowed to remember the next time.  

 

Out of desperation I whipped out my cellphone and took a shot.

 

I didn't say it was my best shot.  It looks like they're riding a dumpster. But at least they're smiling.

 

I pride myself on my photographic prowess and I swear if I'd remembered my real camera I'd have taken a decent  picture.   I'm so embarrassed.  Undoubtedly the "Father of the Year" committee will  take off twenty points for this gaffe.

 

The rest of the afternoon was wonderful, all five of us laughing and gawking and laughing some more, until I noticed some Nikon-wielding dad taking a great shot of his kids feeding a llama or waving at a mountain gorilla.  I tried to be zen about it but it was hard not to complain.  Finally wise little Chet chimed in, "You're a writer daddy. Why don't you just remember it?"

 

Hearing this, my heart, like the Grinch's, suddenly expanded a few sizes. 

 

So although I might sometimes whine about being a single parent, doing twice the work on half the two-parent income,   most of the time, most all of the time, I remember that I'm the luckiest guy in the world.

 

 


Published May 13 2008, 11:48 AM by Trey
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Melissa said:

I think some of my favorite pictures of my son are the ones I take with the cell phone.  They're a little grainy, a little blurry, but it gives you a sense of being in the moment.  They are, like memories, sort of imprecise.  

I know your kids had a ball.  I grew up in the Bronx and have spent lots of time at that zoo.  When my son's old enough, we'll take a zoo road trip.

May 13, 2008 1:23 PM
 

Scott said:

Well, at least your kids seem to be enjoying the camel ride. When I was little I'm pretty sure I would have just screamed my head off if anyone even tried to put me some kind of big animal. I wouldn't even sit in Santa's lap.

May 14, 2008 5:51 PM
 

SingleMomSeeking said:

Such a sweet post... But I can't help but want you to back up a bit here (please, for my own selfish education, as I attempt to navigate dating with an 8-year-old).

How did you introduce your new girlfriend to your kids? I can only imagine that Ava asked you a million and one questions. Yes? When we went out to dinner, recently, with the boyfriend, my kid asked, "Are you coming to our home afterwards? How long are you staying?"

I'd briefly considered spending Mother's Day with the guy I'm seeing (although he hadn't asked), but I knew that it would kind of strange to have him honor me as a Mom. I mean, he didn't really have a part in it all... and we've only been dating for a few months.

Tell us more. Please.  

May 15, 2008 1:13 PM
 

SingleMomSeeking said:

Addendum: I did just back up and read "Busted"... I knew your girl was super smart. I still want to know how you introduced A.... as more than a special friend. Thanks Trey!

May 15, 2008 1:19 PM
 

Rachel Kramer Bussel said:

Chet's comment is totally adorable. They're smart cookies, arent't they?

May 15, 2008 6:21 PM
 

Tracey said:

I have to agree with Rachel. Your kids are smart and loving and intuitive. I constantly forget my camera for things like that, special outings and events. I try to atone for it by remembering to bring it during more mundane events like trips to the park, grocery store, friend's houses. I've decided that pics of our everyday lives will be more interesting to him in the long run anyway.

May 16, 2008 9:21 AM

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Trey Ellis in Manhattan

The author of Bedtimes Stories: Adventures in the Land of Single-Fatherhood, Trey is busy raising his school-aged girl and boy in New York City. When he’s not shuttling them to public school, he is a novelist, screenwriter, political blogger on the HuffingtonPost and film professor. Visit his website here.

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