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I'm Such a Cry-Baby

These almost two weeks here in France, just the kids and I, have brought us even closer.  We are hardly ever out of each other’s site and I must say it’s been wonderful.  Yesterday was the huge Bastille Day fireworks on the beach, four barges worth in the bay.  We sat in the sand with hundreds of French and tourists, and watched the show (which started at 11:30pm. It doesn’t get dark till ten.)  It was easily one of the most spectacular fireworks shows I’d ever seen. They’re nuts about fireworks here in France.  Even on your birthday cake they stick in a roman candle. 

What I also love about it here is how safe I feel for the kids.  I was up in the village borrowing some wifi and the kids were complaining about how boring it was waiting for me.  Ava asked, “Can’t we just go home by ourselves?”  It hadn’t occurred to me but I thought about it and gave her the key.  Watching the two of them march down the hill to our tiny little room all alone, rose vineyards and the Mediterranean glistening in the distance, I had to breathe so I wouldn’t cry. 

I wonder if we’ll ever be closer than we are this summer.  Maybe not.  They haven’t made any friends this year so it’s just been the three of us. Our own tiny little team.

I think our closeness now will make it easier to start really blending my family with Amanda’s when we get back.  Chet especially, needs to be reassured that he’ll always be my boy. 
 


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Published Jul 14 2008, 07:59 AM by Trey
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Comments

 

Jen said:

Amanda? Woo-hoo! Progress...

July 14, 2008 5:44 PM
 

steffmarcusky said:

Jen, I had the same thought. . .

July 14, 2008 9:30 PM
 

Tracey said:

Blending the families, eh? Congrats! Are you talking married-blended or just plain ol' we're-hanging-out-all-the-time-and-together blended? I'm nosy and I don't honestly expect you to answer that question. I'm happy for you though.

Question: when one is divorced and has children and considers blending families, when do you decide to tell the ex about all of it? How much does the ex deserve to know? Tricky.

I still believe that Chet would ease on down if he knew what was happening. There are some kids who have a need to know what's around every corner once they've experienced something that feels as unstable and earth shattering as divorce. I do agree that reassurance and attention are very good for him at this time.

I'm so glad you all had the time together. Your posts about your feelings for the kids almost always make tears spring to my eyes.  

July 14, 2008 10:40 PM
 

Trey said:

My rule with my ex-wfie, the one actually in our divorce decree is to be with someone six months before introducing them to your kids. Around the same time I think it's right to tell the ex because the kids are gonna blab anyway.

July 15, 2008 5:50 AM
 

Tracey said:

Makes sense to me!

July 16, 2008 9:21 PM
 

AngelB said:

Bonjour Trey! That's great about the closeness in France with Chet and Ava! You 3 make a great team!

Woohoo for the blending of families!

Love is a beautiful thing!

Let Love Rule!

July 19, 2008 9:56 PM

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The author of Bedtimes Stories: Adventures in the Land of Single-Fatherhood, Trey is busy raising his school-aged girl and boy in New York City. When he’s not shuttling them to public school, he is a novelist, screenwriter, political blogger on the HuffingtonPost and film professor. Visit his website here.

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