Father of the Year

I'm Such a Sap

 

 

I can't believe how clean their room is when they're not in it.  And I can't believe how I much I miss those loud, (sometimes) pains in the asses. I'm having a deep and wonderful time here with just A and M and I'm spending some alone time just with M so A can write and that has been a treat, but I really, really miss my other kids too.  I'm flying to Georgia on Tuesday for Chet's birthday and just can't wait to wrestle him, can't wait to squeeze Ava till she giggles.  This is the only time of the year that I'm away from them so long and I know it's good for them to spend time with their mom and grandma and I know it's good for us three to get a little break from each other, but geez. It hurts.

 

We talk every day on the phone, Ava much more than Chet, who still does little more than parrot back to me what it was that I just told him.  I can't help but think that eight years from now when she goes away to college I'm gonna be a wreck.  

 

I've been thinking a lot about love and such these days and still can't believe that I'm surrounded by so much of it.  I went out for a BNO the other night (which turned out to be us three guys staying in and watching Harold & Kumar Escape from Guantanamo, one of the funniest comedies this year and one of the smartest political satires).  My friend Mustapha asked me how I was doing.  Without even thinking I replied, "Never better," and then had to smile.  It's true.  I feel surrounded by people that love me and for that I'm ridiculously lucky.

 

How about you?  Any pithy revelations this summer?


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Comments

 

AngelB said:

Woohoo Trey! So happy to hear about your new Brady Bunch family! It's great to be surrounded by love!  I'm a rom com writer and for me, love makes the world go round!  All we need is love!  Love is the answer!  It's hard for me, being a young widow, but my kids are always showering me with kisses and hugs and piles of love.  Love is a many splendored thing!

August 10, 2008 9:35 AM
 

Melissa said:

I do think that a good relationship, though trying at times itself, makes the hard times in life easier.  When two share the joy and the burdens, the joy is better and the burdens are lighter.  Jeez, I'm a sap, too!

August 10, 2008 9:26 PM
 

Tracey said:

Harold and Kumar? Really? I'll have to check it out. I can't pass up a good comedy. They seem so few and far between these days.

About the kids: I miss my son daily. As I'm driving around rural SC visiting patients I think about him and wonder what he's doing. I can't wait to see him every single day. The first time I left him and my husband and went out of town, I took a photo album with me and I couldn't bear to look at it, knowing it would make me cry. I also called about 20 times a day to see what they were doing. I was only away 2 and 3 days.

<-------------wuss

August 11, 2008 9:46 PM
 

Jim said:

I miss my kids too, sometimes deeply. But I also relish the self time I am getting via joint custody.

My thoughts are that we are the best parents we can be when we are the best people we can be.  Well rounded, full of live both inside and outside of the parenting relationship.  And for sure, I try not to let on to the kids how sad I get or how much I miss them.  I celebrate each experience they have away from me, spinning it as positive as possible.  Because they have to know and learn that one day they will leave the nest.  And that Dad will be planning his around the world trip using the funds he no longer has to spend on THEM!!!

August 12, 2008 10:44 AM
 

Trey said:

I know what you mean, Jim.  I adore my kids but can also see now, at 45, how wonderful it will be to be a grandparent, part-time showering kids with affection and the rest of the time relaxing on a beach in Costa Rica.

August 15, 2008 12:17 PM
 

Mocha Dad said:

Trey,

I understand how you feel about needing a break. I thought that I would be able to write posts for my blog each night. With kids, it's not so easy. I'm truly amazed that you got your kids to clean the room. Mine are like wrecking crews.

September 6, 2008 10:49 PM

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The author of Bedtimes Stories: Adventures in the Land of Single-Fatherhood, Trey is busy raising his school-aged girl and boy in New York City. When he’s not shuttling them to public school, he is a novelist, screenwriter, political blogger on the HuffingtonPost and film professor. Visit his website here.

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