This is a bit of a catch-up post, and also a plea for advice. First for the catch-up; I have a new job…and I LOVE IT. Seriously, I am pinching myself every day because I love my new job so much. I am the new Social Media Manager for the shelter brands (HGTV, DIYnetwork, etc) for Scripps Networks. It’s a fantastic job in my very specific field with one of the most successful and progressive media companies in the world. I feel hugely lucky to have landed here. While there are many terrific things about my new job, one big one is the fact that this company really supports working parents. In fact, “work-life balance” is even listed as one of Scripps’ key principles. Unlike other companies with which I’ve been employed in years past, this one has working mamas at every level, right up to the very top management. This says a lot to me. So anyway – in case you haven’t picked up on it from my gushing – I am REALLY psyched about my new job, which I started just a week ago. After everything I’ve experienced in the past year, making something of a fresh start in a new work environment is a Very Good Thing.
The other new thing I have going on is a new blogging gig here at Babble. I’ll be blogging regularly for the next 12 months about Baby G’s development and milestones at Babble’s brand new Baby’s First Year blog. If you become a reader, I can promise you lots of supercute baby pix of Baby G…like these I took day before yesterday, for example… Swoon.
And now on to my desperate plea for advice from other parents – it’s about potty training, You see, C is now 38 months old. She is a big girl, weighing in at 36 pounds. She has an extensive and quite advanced vocabulary, and she’s loving her new two day a week preschool. She no longer drinks from her beloved “boppies” and she sleeps through the night. She’s learning to pedal her trike and she knows her shapes, colors, alphabet, etc, etc. In other words, she has evolved from toddler to delightful preschooler since turning three on July 31. And yet…and yet….my girl shows NO interest whatsoever in getting out of diapers or in using the potty on a regular basis.
C, age 3
My other children were all potty trained by now. My boys, H and E, both potty trained the month they turned three years old. I let them run around naked in the yard and pee on the bushes and they just sort of figured it out on their own – sort of like a modified “Lord of the Flies” approach to toilet training (hey! It worked!) My oldest daughter, J, announced at 22 months that she wanted “real underwear.” My sister and I took her to Target, where J picked out some princess-themed underpants, and that was that – seriously. She put on the big girl underwear and never wore another diaper. In each of these cases, I did nothing but sort of mention using the toilet now and then, and suggest in a mild, haphazard way that getting beyond diapers was a worthy goal. The kids took it from there. It was low stress – for them and for me.
But Miss C seems determined to remain in diapers. She has a very clear idea of what it is we’d like her to do, and she will randomly choose to use the potty every day or two. But she is also perfectly happy to wear diapers and to sit in wet diapers. She is in cloth diapers much of the time, so it can’t be too pleasant, but she’s definitely dug her heels in on this; she will not budge on this issue. If she senses that I am being persistent or pushy in any way about this issue, she becomes even more adamant that she will NOT sit on the toilet. I have tried bribing her with treats, suggesting that she can’t watch her favorite first-thing-in-the-morning TV show (Powerpuff Girls) until she’s at least tried sitting on the potty for a moment or two, and I’ve tried reasoning with her – all to absolutely no avail.
I am totally stumped here. And I have no personal experience with a child this old (barring kids I know with special needs) who is still completely in diapers. I know I shouldn’t let it bother me, but I’ll ‘fess up – it’s starting to kind of embarrass me. I know it shouldn’t, but it sort of is. I feel guilty about that. So I need to hear from some other parents with late toilet-trainers. This is okay, right? She won’t get her learner’s permit wearing Pampers? Is there something I am doing wrong? Or could be doing differently? Hit me up with your best words of wisdom on this one, fellow parents, because even with FIVE kids under my belt, this particular issue with this particulat kiddo is throwing me for a loop. I’m baffled. And just a wee bit frustrated.
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