Love is Blind

Sorry and the apologies

 

 

(Believe it or not, this is a fake cry. see, I tld you she was good.)

 

Today, like any other day, GiGi hits me.  She flails around or smacks me (along with the bed, books, chair, doll, etc) out of frustration and a myriad of other reasons Im not quite sure of.   I am 100% positive that this is just some sort of a toddler phase that we will outgrow soon.  In the meantime, GiGi has decided to pick up on the word “sorry” to make up for all the hitting she’s doing. 

 

I started teaching her that when we hit (we meaning her) that we need to say “sorry.”   She caught on abnormally quick to the right moments for the correct opportunity to say “sorry.”  The first 40 times she said it, it was heartfelt and I think we both cried during the apology.  Recently, she has begun to say it, fake cry, and then hit again.

 

Somewhere along the lines of meaning the apology and faking it, she decided that if she simply said the words, it must be okay to continue doing what she was doing before I reprimanded her.   So, now that she has figured out the effects of one “sorry mommy”, on said mommy, she is abusing this get-out-of-jail-free like phrase.  We seem to be back to square one with things like kicking me at the dinner table and then apologizing WHILE kicking some more.

 

Maybe I’m aiding the little vixen in her actress like ways and unsympathetic like protests of guilt and genuine apologies because I laugh every single time she pretends to cry.  So I guess I deserve my thigh full of bruises, right?

 
+ DIGG + DEL.ICIO.US

Comments

 

Anouck said:

Why yes, laughing while she's faking it ("it" being sorry, crying, whatever...) is probably not the most effective way of modifying said behavior. Having said that though, I can totally see where you're coming from. Kids are just so darn amusing sometimes, you can't help BUT laugh, even if you really shouldn't. And man, you're right about Gia being a little actress, too. She'd fit right into a Spanish soap opera, for sure!

July 22, 2009 4:50 PM
 

Em said:

Not sure where you stand on this one, but my personal policy is that if you're (meaning, the kid ;)) is causing harm, they get a warning and then a time-out. Time out is only a minute or two, but Eddie seems to be catching on. At least some days.

July 22, 2009 5:00 PM
 

joanie said:

OK, sometimes when my daughter fake cries (she just started a couple of months ago), I fake cry with her.  Then she looks at me and stops.  If she starts again, I start.  But I try to do a real fake cry, just like she is -- not mock her.  I have no idea if this is a terrible idea or really cruel, but it keeps me from cracking up at her.  Because her fake cry is adorable!

July 23, 2009 12:41 PM
 

EG said:

Will also gets time-out if he's doing anything that hurts self or others, just like his cousin Eddie.  Although we've been refining our technique a little because a lot of his acting out is to get attention, and sometimes ignorning is more effective than battling over timeout.

The insincere "sorry" is funny.  After the time-out when we're giving Will the speech about WHY he's in timeout, why he isn't allowed to do whatever he did, he repeats everything we say quietly.  He's just trying to get us off his back, I know, but it's funny.

Another funny "sorry" thing is that we taught him to sign it before he could say it.  But now still a year later, he signs it on the person he's apologizing to, instead of on himself.

July 24, 2009 10:39 AM
 

JKS said:

My 19 month does the same fake cry! Whenever we are at the store and another child is having a crying fit (not that my little darling ever does:)Emily will look, stare and then turn to me and start fake crying! I laugh and say your not sad!, and then she just smiles. We usually do this a couple times until we are far enough away from the upset kid.

July 27, 2009 12:10 PM
 

lemon3378 said:

Yeah... at 19 months we are working on the no hitting and sorry thing and I think the words get said an awful lot before they sink in. But, this makes sense to me. We can't wait until they actually understand sorry to teach it. I liked the Happiest Toddler on the Block book but like Progressive Parenting and Discipline without Tears quite a bit too. Hang in there and keep blogging it all so all the rest of us can realize we're not alone in this madness!

July 27, 2009 12:34 PM

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Love is Blind

Megg Lasswell in Oakland.

This single mom moved home at age twenty-seven to raise her blind toddler, leaving city buildings behind and trying her best to embrace farm life outside Oakland. She is working on her first book in between indie-rocking out with her daughter GiGi and teaching her the simple things in life.

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