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Help Me, I Think I've Become a Grup. Is That Bad?

Posted by Karen Murphy

I think I only heard this term yesterday:  Grup.  It refers to an old Star Trek episode (which I remember seeing) in which Captain Kirk and pals land on a strange world (didn't they do that in every episode?) where some awful virus knocked out all the grown-ups and the world was ruled by children.  Now, though, according to this excellent in-depth article in last April's New York Magazine, it refers to a new group of parents who still act like children, at least when compared to the parents of yore.

Ouch.

But look, I have lots of the signs: count with me!  I have an iPod. And I'm plugged in, in public. While listening to Death Cab For Cutie. And I play Sufjan Stevens for my kids (how does New York Magazine know what's on my iPod?  This is eerie!). I have worn nothing but jeans for 10 years. With holes in the knees. zThe sneakers. I haven't worked in an office since 1995, don't shave much anymore (sorry; is that TMI?) - and I just stated so publicly.

So....what's wrong with this, I ask you?  Happily, the article ends with this:  "Being a Grup [is]...about re-imagining adulthood as a period defined by promise, rather than compromise." Gee, when you put it that way, it sounds like being a Grup is good (except for the label thing: alternatives, though, all seem to involve a variant of the word yuppie, and we won't even go there).  Is it?

So, what about you?  What defines you and the way you parent?  Do you see yourself being similar to your own parents?  Or do you think you're forging a new model of parenthood?  What is the face of parenthood these days?  From Momtinis to The Wiggles, where do you fall?


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Comments

 

Peter said:

Yeah, I can't understand why this is supposed to be a BAD thing.  I have nice clothes that never see the light of day, and I usually wear retro T-shirts and jeans that need to be washed.  I think one of the best parts of parenting is getting to play with toys.  I "use" hip "lingo" "ironically."  I dance around, even in public.

Beats being a suit.

When I was young and aspiring, I wanted to be an Important Guy on Capitol Hill.  A few months after my lads were born, I was toting them near the White House, exhausted and unkempt, when a young go-getter in immaculate clothes strode by, phone in one hand, briefcase in the other.  We made eye contact and I could tell by his expression that we were both thinking the same thing:

"I'm sure glad I'm not THAT guy!"

January 13, 2007 5:41 AM
 

RachelZ said:

Now that I am a parent, I can really appreciate how well my parents raised me.  They were hippies, so there was a lot of democracy in our house.  For instance, I never got grounded, but my civil rights were suspended on many occasions.

From an early age, they gave my brother and me the freedom to think for ourselves and make our own decisions about things, as long as we were able to understand the consequences of our actions.  They never tried to micromanage us, is what I'm trying to say, and that gave us the chances we needed to be whoever it was that we were going to be.

Sure, they made mistakes, and I know there are times when I wish I would have had more guidance than I was given, but overall, I can only hope that I will be able to be as wise as they were.

January 13, 2007 11:05 AM
 

Sarah, Goon Squad Sarah said:

I was nervous when I read about being a GRUP. The article I read mentioned dressing your kid in Misfit onesies.

In my kids birth announcement they were wearing Misfits onesies.

I think I am okay though, because I am nowhere near being hip otherwise.

January 13, 2007 8:53 PM
 

Peter said:

There are far worse shirts out there...

http://www.babywit.com/oneliners.html

January 14, 2007 4:44 AM
 

Jah RastaYid said:

I dunno.  The part by Alternadad Pollack made Jah chuckle.  I think that Pollack hasn't figured out that his kid will do whatever daddy does and like whatever daddy tells him to like until he gets to be about 8 or 10.  Then, the independent thought really starts kicking in.  I think Pollack will Grup-shit his $450 Rogans at that point.  And when little Elijah is 17, sullen, and anti-Pollack?  Yikes!  But, it'll be grist for yet another memoir . . .

Kids, job, marriage, love, life are all to be enjoyed.  The article showed just how much hard work it is to demonstrate an in-your-face level of enjoyment.  Life is a Carnival (2 bits a shot) and Life's a Ride (every bit of the way), but a Cool Life shouldn't require so much studied work.  At least it isn't so hard here in the LandofOZ.

Jah

January 14, 2007 6:00 PM

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