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Kids Today Think They're So Special

My daughter loves the mirror. Any mirror. Get her within eyesight of one and she drools. Bring her closer, and she smiles. Leave her alone with one, and she tries to eat it. I don't think it's narcissism; I think she's just weird.

A recent study says college kids think they're so special -- too special. We're apparently raising a generation of self-centered narcissistic brats who love eating mirrors and controlling the universe, according to these researchers. Only something called authoritative parenting -- whatever that is -- can get us back on the right path.

Elisa over at Mother Talkers has the right come back. Asked if they feel special, what do you expect students to say? "No?" Then we'd have problems. While I whole-heartedly agree with the recent New York Magazine parenting article -- the one about praising hard work over inate ability -- I still think David Brooks is behind this latest study. I can just imagine him adjusting his monocle and shaking his fist at my daughter's latent narcissim, "Kids today!"


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Comments

 

creative-type dad said:

Doesn't every "in-the-house" generation say this about the youngest generation?

February 28, 2007 5:48 PM
 

Peter said:

So it's NOT a bad thing that I'm raising my sons to think they're worthless?  That's a relief.

February 28, 2007 6:28 PM
 

viciousrumours said:

Raising your children to believe that they have something unique to offer the world is one thing.  Raising them to believe they are entitled to special treatment because of "who they are" is something different.

Having worked in customer service related positons for the last twenty years, I can tell you that there has been a definte shift in teenagers and young adults towards the latter.  They believe that it is okay for them to treat people badly because they are spending money...and usually not even their own money....in an establishment.  They are rude.  They are beligerant.  They have little or no respect for anyone, not even their parents.

Oh, and authoritative parenting is a fancy-shmancy way of saying that while you allow your children to have opinions and you respect them as people...they still know that when you say no, it means no.  

March 1, 2007 2:36 AM
 

B said:

Working in a placement agency for graphic designers, many just out of school, there is a definate sense of entitlement in the younger candidates.  This coming from a 28 year old...

They would rather (in general) not take something they see as "beneath" them (ie. a starting position in what is often a great company) and wait for the design job they feel entitled to.  It's scary.  And the ones who do get a job...we never get thank yous.  Not even an email.  I don't know if that's their fault or the parent's though...

March 1, 2007 9:55 AM
 

B said:

Sorry, one last thought.

It's different to be "special" for something you've earned rightfully.  I don't like this, "mom told me I'm special and I deserve it no matter how rude and crappy I treat other people" attitude.  I think that's what gets me in particular.  

March 1, 2007 9:58 AM

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