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Parents of Snackless Kindergarteners Complain

Posted by Karen Murphy

kids snackWhen parents start referring to the time period their kids have gone snackless at school by the exact count of days, you know they're pretty ticked off.  And parents of some kindergarteners in my state of Pennsylvania are complaining to the school board because their kids have been missing their afternoon snacks since the beginning of the year.  While I can certainly relate, having contended with some hungry, grumpy kindergarteners myself, I'm thinking there could be a little more compassion here.  You see, the reason these kids have gone snackless is because one student among them has severe allergies, so severe that they could go into anaphylactic shock if they consume or even come near one of the potential foods they're allergic to.

It almost looks, though, like a classic case of "he said, she said."  The school contends that they submitted a list of "safe" snacks that can be brought into the classroom for parties, holidays and on every Friday, while the parents claim they have seen no such list.  But meanwhile, you've got a classful of hungry kids and one that could die if the wrong food is brought in.  What to do, what to do....

What my kids' school did was to ban the offending substances, not only from the classroom of the allergic child but from the entire school.  Yep, because one child is severely allergic to peanuts and tree nuts, all the other kids are eating Sunbutter (made from sunflower seeds and actually quite tasty!) and soy butter.  No big deal, you get used to it.  And at least you know you're not going to inadvertantly cause a death one day when you send lunch along with your kid at school.  I'm wondering if perhaps a little education about anaphylactic allergies could help these parents, and maybe a big dose of compassion.

What do you think?  Have nuts or other foods been banned in your child's school to accommodate someone with allergies?  How do you feel about that? 

 

 



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Comments

 

RachelZ said:

I don't like the idea of a school-wide ban of peanut butter or whatever just for one kid.  That seems a tad excessive, to me.  I think it's up to the parents to be hyper-vigilant and to reiterate to the kid over and over and over about what he can and can not eat.  Growing up with a condition like a sever allergy or, say, juvenile diabetes - you learn to adapt.

It's like the school banning pork because of one kid who keeps kosher.  I know that's an oversimplification, but to me it seems the same.  The onus is on the kid and his parents to monitor what he eats, not the school.

April 5, 2007 8:03 AM
 

Karen Murphy said:

In my kids' school's case, the girl in question will have a reaction if she's simply in the room with someone else eating the allergenic food.  Or if someone has, say, a PB&J on the way to school and then talks to her face-to-face afterward.  I did think that the school-wide ban was burdensome at first, but jeez, this kid could DIE.  That kind of puts things in perspective.  

April 5, 2007 8:48 AM
 

Naomi said:

NOT the same as kosher restrictions -- at all.  We're talking death.  And it's not enough to expect the child in question to just "adapt," especially when the allergy is severe enough that merely shaking hands with a child with peanut butter residue on his palms could be the cause of death.  Remember the story a couple years ago about a 16-year-old girl who died because her boyfriend ate a peanut-butter sandwich TEN HOURS EARLIER and then kissed her that evening?  

Absolutely, require Sunbutter.  It's really really not a big price to pay to keep a child safe.

April 5, 2007 9:18 AM
 

Aidan Aberrant said:

You KNOW you're privileged when you can afford to be outraged by your children's school banning certain foods for the safety of other students.

Interesting how what's really at issue here is the "tyranny of the majority."  

April 5, 2007 9:39 AM
 

RachelZ said:

"Remember the story a couple years ago about a 16-year-old girl who died because her boyfriend ate a peanut-butter sandwich TEN HOURS EARLIER and then kissed her that evening?"

That story isn't even true - that girl died from something else entirely.  

And no, of course it's not the same as kosher restrictions but I still think it's excessive to have a school-wide ban on something for ONE. KID.  However, if it's the case where even airborne particles can cause a fatal reaction, then I suppose there's no choice there.

April 5, 2007 9:47 AM
 

tm said:

 Can't the kids brings fruit or cut up vegetables to school for snacks?  No peanuts and it's healthier than anything prepackaged.  Kids need food at regular intervals to really perform and to behave.  I remember as a child when my lunch time was noon and school started at 7:15 how absolutely horrible I felt.  Sick, headachy, difficulties in concentrating, all around yucky.  

April 5, 2007 10:24 AM
 

Sheri said:

How about sending in money (similiar to lunch money) that would go into a fund for snacks.  There are so many ingredients in foods that don't specifically say "peanut" in them, or foods processed in the same plant where tree nuts are used that could also contaminate that particular food.  M & M's are the perfect example...the plain ones are just as scary as the peanut ones because they are processed in the same plant.    I'd send in say, $2.00 a week to assure I didn't inadvertly kill someone's child.

April 5, 2007 11:34 AM
 

Kelly said:

We have a peanut ban at our school and as a mother of a child who has a peanut allergy I'm relieved.  And before we discovered this allergy I was not offended by the ban.  I just don't understand why people would be.  

I do think, however, banning snacks is too much of a solution.  On the other hand, if you can't get your parents to notice things that are coming home to them, and I guarantee they came home to those parents, then what are you to do?  You can't cause other people children to die because you're too lazy to read the stuff that comes home in your kids backpack.  

April 5, 2007 11:52 AM
 

ashley said:

I fail to see why anyone can be justifiably outraged about a peanut ban.  Given the choice between being inconvenienced and causing someone's death, I think I'd rather be inconvenienced.

Sadly, I've seen this exact same discussion get very ugly, with allergenic people being called "peanutards" and recommending they be completely isolated from other students.  What a great way to teach compassion and compromise to our youth.  :\

April 5, 2007 12:04 PM
 

RachelZ said:

After re-reading that article and a couple of related articles I'm thinking that maybe the parents should all just calm down.  Maybe they all need a Paxil snacktime.

I hate little articles like this because they never answer the good questions.  So this has been going on for 172 days, great.  Was a list distributed or not?  If not, and there was supposed to be one, why didn't these "concerned" parents keep asking?  Call the school, call the teacher, call someone and get some clarification.  Don't just let it go for however long now and then get all pissy.

I like the above commenter's idea of fruit cups or something fairly far-removed from this kid's allergies.  I also like the idea mentioned in the article that food be limited to the cafeteria only.  There are ways to deal with this (seemingly widespread) problem without going all crazy-like.

It sucks to be allergic to something that few other people have a problem with.  I used to be very allergic to bees, including honey and beeswax but I grew out of it, thankfully.  Do kids grow out of peanut allergies or do they stick around forever?

April 5, 2007 2:02 PM
 

tori said:

Packing my kids snacks is my least favorite chore.  I search through all the ingredients on each thing my kids choose and try to find something that is ok.  Honestly, I would prefer if the school would let me send in money to purchase a for sure safe food instead of me sitting here worrying that maybe what I sent might not be completely fine.  My older daughter has braces, so I can't just send an apple like I do with my other two kids, but most days I send a banana or something because I know that is safe.

April 5, 2007 2:45 PM
 

mary said:

why is it that when I was a kid we never had any of these ridiculous bans, and no one every died from an allergic reaction either.

That kid should probably be home schooled if the allergies are life threatening. No one can guarantee the safety of that child and the risk could still be very high- ban or no.

April 5, 2007 3:04 PM
 

Karen Murphy said:

Mary, it's true that these severe allergies are on the rise and weren't as common back in the day.

It begs the question, though:  What if it was YOUR kid?  Does homeschooling still sound so attractive?  

Is this a disability covered under the AWDA?  It certainly could be.  

April 5, 2007 3:16 PM
 

mary said:

I sure would- would you be willing to take the risk of your  child dying through the mistake of another kid or adult at the school?

April 5, 2007 4:37 PM
 

EmKay said:

My daughter's preschool is peanut free and, really, it's no big deal.  We just don't pack peanuts or peanut products in lunches, and snacks (provided by the school) are peanut-free.  The school knows who is peanut allergic, and there are epi-pens in the classrooms.  We all know the reasons for being peanut free, it's explained at enrollment and no one to my knowledge has ever even considered objecting.  

Of course, it helps that the majority of parents at the school care about all the kids, not just their own.  

Oh, and hey, that kid in a wheelchair?  Shouldn't he be homeschooled too, since accomodating him in the classroom might be awkward for the other kids?  Or require parents to explain to their kids that, GASP, some kids have bigger issues than not having a peanut butter sandwich in their lunch?  

April 5, 2007 5:11 PM
 

spartic99 said:

I am highly allergic to peanuts myself, however I refuse to burden other people with my problems. I do not eat food that I am unsure about and I bring food with me to places where I can't be sure.

It is ridiculous to expect such a hassle for ONE child. Yes the child is hyper allergic, but if it were my child I would choose to not burden every other person in that class with it.

Imagine how much everyone must hate that kid!

April 5, 2007 7:39 PM
 

mary said:

a wheelchair isn't comparable to a life threatening condition. I stick by my statement: if you have a life threatening allergy you (or your parents) need to take personal responsibility for your safety and not foist it off on people who don't want to have to take responsibility for it.

April 6, 2007 11:51 AM
 

Emily said:

Yes, it is worth it for ONE kid.

For people with allergies like these, bringing peanuts into their environment is as dangerous as bringing a gun... maybe even more because of the lack of understanding so many parents (obviously) have about the issue.

My husband has a severe peanut/tree nut allergy, which influences just about every part of our lives. It is so incredibly scary to think that eating something even slightly contaminated, touching something that had traces of nut on it, even smelling (breathing in) nuts could kill him in just a few minutes.

It's scary enough with him - as an adult, he can take care of himself. But if it were my child, I can't even imagine the constant fear I would live in, the overwhelming anxiety that this would cause me. As it is, I am terrified that my son will develop the same problem.

The school has a responsibility to ensure the safety of their students. They don't allow weapons for that reason, or poison. Why would they allow something that could prove just as deadly to a growing percentage of their students?

And suggesting that these otherwise normal kids be homeschooled so that your kid can eat a sandwich is absurd and insulting. Shame on you for being so selfish.

April 6, 2007 3:46 PM

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