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Special-Needs Kids: In-Your-Face or Mainstreamin'?

Posted by Karen Murphy

bipolar kid bumperstickerI'm not yet sure what to think about this new book and website called "Shut Up About Your Perfect Kid!". It's billed as a humorous alternative to the "My Kid Is An Honor Student" bumpersticker mentality, but it just comes across as a lot of sour grapes to me.

I'm the mom of a kid with special needs, and while it may be that we've yet to experience some of the discrimination and rude comments that many kids with special needs and their parents seem to face, I wonder whether the best way to address this ignorance is to throw the rudeness back? I don't know, maybe I live in a big rainbow-colored Happy Bubble, but it seems to me that education, not a big in-your-face "Shut Up About Your Kid!" is what will really change people's misperceptions about kids with special needs and their, well, needs.

And, too, why the need to continually set these kids apart? Yes, it's good to acknowledge and honor their differences, but I think there's a fine line between acknowledging and shoving it in someone's face. I want my kid to be regarded as a person first and foremost, not as his special-needs label. I'm afraid that this "Shut Up" site is only creating a wider gap between the so-called "perfect" kids and the "imperfect" ones. "Perfect"?? None of my kids are perfect, and neither am I, but I don't go around wearing a label about it.

Can't they all just be "kids"?  Wonderful, beautiful kids?


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Comments

 

viciousrumours said:

Unless I'm missing the "in your face" part, I saw noting rude or volitile about the book, it's authors or the website.  I read through several pages of the blog and all the stories related were humourous recountings of a day that could have been in my household....except that these parents have children with disabilities..not physical, but mental.

I don't know what your child's special needs are, but speaking as an adult with mental illness, I can tell you that there is a need for this kind of thing.  People view mental illness and illnesses like Asperger's Syndrom as things that people and children should "just get past".  Children with these disorders are often viewed as "bad kids" and parents who have them are often shunned in public for having "out of control" children.  

Education through humour is one of the best ways to help people understand the mental illness is just as real as any other disability.  Having a child in a wheelchair, people can see and understand immediately what the challenges are. Having a child with Asperger's or Bioplar Disorder, all people see is a child "acting up".  

I applaud these women for stepping into the spotlight and bringing attention to the fact that these children are just as lovable and bright as others...just a little less "perfect".  

May 16, 2007 12:18 PM
 

Karen Murphy said:

I guess that's where we disagree....I see every kid as "perfect"!

(Mine has Down syndrome, and I have another who's Asperger's-ish)

May 16, 2007 12:58 PM
 

Grammy said:

I didn't mind the message but I did not like the title.  I think all children are wonderful.  I especially like the ones who are a little different from the others.  I am very good with ADD and ADHD kids in my class.  I have a nephew who has asperger's and is in jail not because he could follow the judges orders. He is an adult.  I don't know how to get around that.  But the in your face title is off putting.  

May 16, 2007 3:20 PM

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