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You Can Order a Buttery Nipple but Just Don't Show Yours at Applebee's

Posted by ChagHolland

Brooke Ryan was enjoying lunch with her children at a Kentucky Applebee's restaurant when she was asked to cover her nursing son with a blanket. When she stated she didn't have a blanket, the employee again requested that Ryan cover her child, which caused Ryan to leave the restaurant in tears. As a result, a nationwide "Nurse Out" has been planned at many Applebee's restaurants on September 8th.

Applebee's handled this situation poorly. It was perfectly legal for Ryan to breastfeed in the restaurant and she should not have been asked to cover her child. And the restaurant's contemplating providing blankets for future nursing mothers is not only lame, it's pretty gross as well. Ryan feels this concession is "like telling Rosa Parks she still had to sit in the back of the bus, but we'll give her a blanket to make her more comfortable."

But Mike Scanlon, president of the company that operates the Applebee's in question, noted "with interest that she had a copy of the statute with her." Scanlon feels Ryan may have had an agenda. Truthfully, I wondered the same thing.

Look, I have no problem with women breastfeeding in public. I am pro-breastfeeding and feel it is healthier than formula and increases the bond between mother and child. That said, I think carrying around a copy of a law that states it is ok to breastfeed in public is more than a little strange. People are harassed all the time for things they do that are well within the limits of the law. Around here, bicyclists are up in arms about automobile drivers sharing the road. But I wonder how many of them carry around a copy of Rules of the Road.

You might think it's ridiculous for me to compare breastfeeding to cycling. I think it's equally as ridiculous for Ryan to compare herself to Rosa Parks.


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Comments

 

Mom2Two said:

I don't think it's weird at all.  Plenty of waitresses and retail workers don't honestly know that the law protects breastfeeding mothers.  A friend of mine delivered her baby at a hospital in VA, and part of her bag of freebies was a wallet sized laminated card, listing the legal protections nursing mothers have and in which states.

September 3, 2007 6:42 PM
 

Judith said:

I'll be having my son within the month and plan on breastfeeding.  I also plan on carrying a copy of the law stating that I can breastfeed in public.  Why?  Not because I have an agenda, but because so many people do not know that I have a right to breastfeed in public without any harassment.  It's a sad fact that women are harassed and made to feel ashamed for breastfeeding even when they are protected.  

September 3, 2007 6:42 PM
 

Dawn said:

I carry my license with me when I want to buy beer - I know I'm legal to buy beer and way over 21, but I don't assume that the person working the counter knows this.

The law in Kentucky is fairly new (2006), so it's perfectly reasonable that not every single person in the state knows it's legal to breastfeed in public - I'd carry a copy of the law around with me too.

September 3, 2007 7:15 PM
 

Amanda said:

The lactation consultants at my hospital, my midwives, and my LaLecheLeague leader all recommended carrying copies of the local laws protecting breastfeeding. Not every breastfeeding mother is comfortable confronting those who try to deny her right to nurse, but I was and so I carried a copy to educate anyone who tried to interfere. It never happened (or rather, it hasn't happened yet), but I don't think I'm looking for a fight by carrying it in a pocket of my diaper bag. Honestly my intention is to educate if the situation arises, hopefully in a non-confrontational way.

Anyone who is in a minority (breastfeeding being the minority vs. formula feeders) has to sometimes fight to protect their rights. Especially when most people you encounter will be completely unaware of the laws pertaining to the situation.

September 3, 2007 7:51 PM
 

K. C. said:

So it would have been better for Brooke Ryan had she NOT been carrying the statute?  Hmmm.  I think it's sad that she has to protect herself from harrassment while she's simply feeding her child.  I'm a breastfeeding mom, and I am going to start carrying a copy of the law with me, thanks to Brooke.

September 3, 2007 8:00 PM
 

Susan said:

Well, I guess it's clear that Chag is pretty clueless on this particular subject.

September 3, 2007 8:49 PM
 

A Time when Breastfeeding and Applebee’s Don’t Mix « Alex Year One said:

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September 3, 2007 8:50 PM
 

Syrreal said:

Many nursing moms here in KY carry a card with the law on it.    As a pp said, the law is pretty new.  There is no "agenda" to it unless you count not wanting to be harrased as an agenda

September 3, 2007 8:53 PM
 

chyna823 said:

It seems to me that by carrying a copy of the statute with you, it's almost as though you're hoping for confrontation so you can thrust the statute in someone's face. Seems a little excessive to me.

I've breastfed 2 children almost everywhere possible, and I never once had anyone even look at me askance, much less say anything negative to me. And if anyone told me I had to cover the baby or leave the premises, I'd simply say 'no'--what are they going to do about it?

September 3, 2007 8:59 PM
 

HL4HAND said:

The really sad thing is that I read a comment that was from a pregnant woman here in Lexington that said because of this controversy she had decided not to breastfeed her child.  It changed my mind about going to the nurse out.  I will be there with my beautiful breast fed baby.

September 3, 2007 10:00 PM
 

Liane said:

My lactation consultant also recommended that I carry a copy of the statute (which I did) due to ignorance like this.

I did not look at the poster before I read this, but I knew it was some clueless guy before I had gotten to the end.

September 3, 2007 10:03 PM
 

Whit Honea said:

Who says breastfeeding is the minority?  I have never known a single woman that didn't breastfeed, at least initially.  

Carrying around a copy of the law, any law, is ridiculous. It's the law, you don't have to prove anything to anyone.  If questioned let them call the cops and make themselves look like an ass.

September 3, 2007 10:59 PM
 

MissB said:

"Who says breastfeeding is the minority?  I have never known a single woman that didn't breastfeed, at least initially."

Well, I don't know anyone who voted for George Bush.  And yet, I have to assume that somehow I'm in the minority.

September 3, 2007 11:40 PM
 

creative-type dad said:

Well whatever - it's not like anybody I know eats at Applebee's anway...

But I don't know (MissB) maybe I'm in the minority too!

September 4, 2007 12:06 PM
 

mcglory13 said:

Well, if flight attendants weren't throwing people off planes, baseball fields tossing moms out of their seats, and craptastic restaurants like Applebee's not harrassing moms they probably wouldn't need cards clarifying the law. With all this negative press (ooh... Maggie Gyllenhall breastfeeding, how gross!) no wonder moms feel they need a good defense prepared in case they're harrassed.

September 4, 2007 6:54 PM
 

Alexia said:

Obviously you don't know what it's like to nurse a baby in public.

I have never been confronted, yet every time I'm in public and have to nurse I get a little nervous. Why? Because so many people look badly on us moms who want to feed our children. I never know if someone will give me dirty looks, make a comment or I may even be asked to leave.

I've considered carrying the laws in my bag as well (I still might). And while we could just let them call the cops, all we want to do if feed our baby in peace without a lot of mess and attention. Pulling out the law seems like a much quieter way to prove our rights than having cops walk in and FOR SURE have everyone around you watching!

September 5, 2007 1:19 PM
 

Tana said:

I'm appalled to hear so many negative views about breastfeeding lately!  C'mon, it's natural... I breastfed my 2 yr old until recently weaned and will be nursing again soon- baby #2.  I feel uncomfortable bf in public, due to disgusted glances and stares. Am I supposed to hide away in a dirty bathroom, sit on toilet to feed my baby? That's the only private place in many public situations! With next baby, I don't think I'll have to carry a copy of law though~ with all the publicity now-a-days, it will be known to everyone, right?  Let's keep it up!

September 5, 2007 6:13 PM
 

Qtpies7 said:

I am a nursing mom. I have nursed all 7 of my children in public uncovered. I have never had someone say something to me. Why? Because they can't see anything! I can't imagine that this mom was not exposing herself and got that treatment. It is definately a server's right to not see someone's breast while working. It is very, very possible to nurse in public and not show anything. But some mom's just unbutton their shirts and let it all  hang out because "the law protects" them from having to cover up? No, it allows them to nurse in public, not show their breast.

I have a right to prevent my sons from seeing a breast in public, don't I?

Staging a big protest all over Applebees and showing off more breasts is NOT going to help, it is going to make women afraid to nurse and make other people even MORE determined to make it stop.

Boycott Applebees, IF the mom was not exposing herself.

September 5, 2007 9:19 PM
 

Strollerderby said:

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