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When Mom F's Up: Kids Who Swear

Posted by Alisyn

Being the designated "Pottymouth" of StrollerDerby, it probably goes without saying that I have been known to cuss.  More than I should.  Yes, I really, really try to censor myself around my kids, but I'm not so good at it.  I've always - to my own detriment - been the kind of person who reacts (verbally, emotionally) first, and thinks later. 

And yeah... the kids pick up on that.

 I'm not proud of it... but sometimes is kind of funny.  Oh, come on.  It is!  Hearing "oh, shit!" come out of a helium-voiced, baby-talkin' little sweetheart whose marker has just hit the deck can be giggle-inducing.  Hearing that Rebecca Woolf's two year old feels "like ass," might be similarly smile-making.  The juxtaposition of the cuteness and the the potty talk can crack even the steeliest of faces (hidden behind shirt sleeves, backs turned, of course). 

The trickiest part of having toddlers who swear is that we can't make too big a deal out of the little buggers borrowing our more colorful vocabulary word.  We can't ignore them - that's not cool.  But we can't harp on them too much, because then they'll use the choice words all the time, or we'll have a power struggle on our hands, or both.  I have been unbelievably lucky - my kids have never sworn in public. I don't know why, but they seem to instinctively know that if they drop an s-bomb in public, I'll feel like major ass. (No cuss therapy for us, thanks). 

C'mon - confess.  Has your kid ever cussed?  How did you handle it?  Have you ever had to deal with it in public?


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Comments

 

Spiff said:

Not to sound self-righteous, but my 3 1/2 year old has never cussed, nor been cussed around.  It may seem funny when a 2 year old swears, but believe me, it is not so cute when they get into school.  I also have trouble buying the, "Mommy and Daddy can do it, but you can't" excuse...

September 28, 2007 3:01 PM
 

LogicalMama said:

When my son was around 2.5 to 3 years old, he saw my husband walk out of the mini-mart with a frappucino in his hand and and said (he was in his car seat in the car with me so no one else heard...), "No! No daddy, no fucking frappucino!!" From the front seat, I silently giggled and reddened, knowing that I had just commented about the "fucking frappucino" forgetting he was in the car with me. He knows that there are "grown up" words that even we should not say, but that they sometimes slip out. I try my best to sensor, but I do slip. I am the definite potty mouth in the family.... I'm from NJ, what can I do?! Fortunately my son knows he should avoid these words and he does really well with it-- we've not had to deal with it in public.

Some every day words are not acceptable in many circumstances and used far more frequently. For instance, butt! We may innocently say it from the very beginning and then the child naturally uses it as well. In school, it is unacceptable so you have to retrain your child using another term like bum or bottom and it can be more challenging to break that habit. I hear kids being reprimanded all the time for using the word butt in school, ect. Because I was warned early from a teacher-friend of mine, we started using bum in our house and I often hear my son telling his cousins that we don't use that word. A seemingly innocuous word that causes more trouble in public than cursing.

September 28, 2007 3:19 PM
 

JuliansMom said:

I'll never for get the first time...

I was driving down the street and I honked my horn at some AssHat in front of me.

All of a sudden I hear from the back seat out of the mouth of my then 3 year old

"fucking car"..."Fucking car"

Over and over again!!!!

Also read about my latest encounter with the Bad Words

raisinboychronicles.blogspot.com/.../bad-words.html

September 28, 2007 4:46 PM
 

The Simple Family said:

My daughter, at three, can say several different curse words. None are aloud and she's told "we do NOT say those bad words" if she does. If she keeps it up, there are more consequences.

Oddly enough, I'm much more careful about saying words such as "dumb" or "stupid" in front of her.....

September 28, 2007 6:53 PM
 

Angel said:

I was teasing my son at my mom's house, and he was teasing back, but then he said "I'll kick your ass."  In front of my GRANDMOTHER.  OMG.  We all just about died trying not to laugh--because really, it wasn't funny--but....

I don't even use some words on my blog because my grandma reads it LOL.

October 1, 2007 2:49 AM
 

cursmom said:

My kids are older now, 6,7,& 9.  I used to be so good at not swearing infront of them when they were younger.  It was to the point that I spelled out swear words in regular convo over lunch at work & co-workers would point out to me that there were no kids around & it was OK I did not have to spell it.  Well, I divorced when my kids were 8 mo,21 mo,& 3 1/2 yrs old.  Went through some rough times on my own with the kids (I was 22yrs when I divorced) & I believe I started swearing then.  Mornings are the worst with my swearing.  I can't seem to get through one morning without swearing that I am going to f-ing late for work.  I cannot seem to break the habbit.  My kids do not swear & they scold others for swearing, but not me.  It's as though they are used to hearing it from their stressed out mom.  I don't want to be that mom though.  My mother swore whenever she was stressed & I cannot believe that I have turned into her.  Is there anyone else out there like me?  Does anyone have some advice?  

October 4, 2007 10:32 AM

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