Babble

a magazine and community for the new urban parent

Strollerderby

The Mommy Makeover: Post-Partum Must-Have

Posted by Karen Murphy

mommy makeoverThere's a new "mother's little helper" in town, and it isn't drugs. Nope, it's surgery and lots of it, because those badges of motherhood have turned into badges of shame and if you're the one caught without a tummy tuck then you won't get invited to the party. That's right, everybody needs a "mommy makeover."

As much as I acknowledge my own struggles with body image and secretly want the $30,000 surgery trifecta of tummy tuck/lipo/breast lift, it peeves me no end that something as drastic as surgery, as this blatant non-acceptance of one's own body in whatever shape it happens to be in, has become so pervasive.

So it's not the fact that women are flocking to plastic surgeons in droves for this sort of thing (the rate rose 11% for women ages 20-29 from 2005-2006) that bothers me, it's the fact that now it's sort of expected. Sure, we may poke fun at the extremes taken by the Real Housewives of of Orange County, but at the same time we want to be them, want the sort of surface perfection we see in them.

Oh, and here's the other thing that irks me. Its not only for themselves that women are willingly going under the knife in multiple procedures to re-create their bodies as if to proclaim they never had kids, but they are doing it to please someone else: the husbands. In describing one woman's experience: 'As for her husband, that's a no-brainer. "He loves it."'

Would you consider having surgery to erase the toll of motherhood? Or have you already?

 


Comments

 

Lion and Magic Boy » Blog Archive » two tastes of fame today said:

Pingback from  Lion and Magic Boy  » Blog Archive   » two tastes of fame today

October 4, 2007 2:36 PM
 

Jenni said:

No, I would not consider having the surgery.  I still think of my new body as a badge of honor.  Hopefully I'll continue to feel this way no matter what some other people might think.

October 4, 2007 2:41 PM
 

RachelZ said:

Hell no, I won't be getting surgery.  And if my husband were to suggest it?  It's a good thing we already have the kid because he'd be getting a size 9 to the nuts, no question.

I'm proud of my body the way it is.  I mean, think about how amazing it is that my body incubated a WHOLE OTHER PERSON for the better part of a year and then fed said person for the better part of the next year?  That's amazing shit, that is.

Sure, I have some work to do in the way of getting the body back into fighting shape, but I'm going to do it the old-fashioned way - by eating less and moving more.  Surgery should be a last-resort for the desperate, not the first line of defense for the stupid, weak, and insecure.

October 4, 2007 2:47 PM
 

Susan said:

I was NOT proud of my body,

up til 44, i had no problems,

then, the bathroom scales raced,

from 128 lbs to 171 lbs,

my body fat, from 20% to 42%--

in less than 2 years.

I thought i was going to dye ... it was horrid.

i would have done almost anything to get rid of it,

but, it was NOT budging...i tried pills, diets, nothing worked.

the solution for me, was ironically,

was a rather simple,

i think a lot of it, had to do,

with what i was shovelling in,

and, my diet had to change.

i tried, almost everything,

and, NOTHING worked !!!

Until i heard about a product,

a "living plant diet", and,

within 12 weeks, i was back to 128 lbs / 18% body fat

without losing my muscle mass /

keeping my breasts,

and, losing just the fat.

we are input / output machines,

so, what you put into you, makes a huge difference,

this product has

NO SOY/NO WHEY, it's just low carb/high protein

a living plant diet / mediterranean diet,

that  mixes with water.

i put one pack, on 16 oz of water, and blend,

then pour over 8 oz of ice tubes, 8 oz of it,

and, it makes two meal of less than 112.5 calories each...

i believe, if you pay attention to

what you are feeding yourself,

your body can morph back to normally,

even after having children --

this rich combination of

vegetable pea/brown rice /super greens/essential fatty acids, anti-stress blends, and, plant calcium has what you need, so, thta your body has a chance,

to be fueled properly, and, has in it,

what will burn the fat out,

and, having you morphing back to normal,

in NO TIME.

I've built a business from home with it,

where, part-time hours, field full-time pay.

Surgury is NOT the solution--what you input in the way

of your food, is what will help you,

to move the excess out of your body ...

it worked for me, i'm sure it will work for you

check out my website at

workingwonders.awarenesshealth.com

Perhaps, this is the solution you are looking for,

i know it was the solution i was looking for,

it worked !!!

Brightest blessings / Susan

October 4, 2007 3:56 PM
 

Cosmetic Surgery » The Mommy Makeover: Post-Partum Must-Have said:

Pingback from  Cosmetic Surgery » The Mommy Makeover: Post-Partum Must-Have

October 4, 2007 4:21 PM
 

Autumn said:

Tummy tuck here.  Totally okay with getting rid of the loose skin (jowls) but you have to control the fat and make muscles yourself. But after 40 no matter what you have done you still look over 40.  

October 4, 2007 8:12 PM
 

Claire said:

Karen, I loved your quote in the Times article. This trend is unsettling to me, too. I know there are women who decide to have surgery and they are happy with that decision. It's certainly not my place to judge. But I do worry that a growing number of women are using these "quick fix" procedures as way to cope with deeper, more serious body image issues that no nip or tuck can really solve:

5resolutions.blogspot.com/.../new-moms-depressed-and-unhappy-with.html

October 4, 2007 8:50 PM
 

Diane said:

This kind of thing irks me to no end.  Karen, thanks for your quote in the newspaper on this.  Seriously, it is becoming so totally unattractive to even consider having kids at all.  If I were a young woman today looking at this kind of pressure, I'd opt out of having kids.  It's not so much the fear of messing up one's body, it's the realization that our society expects us to have kids but not be impacted in any way by it.  Don't miss a beat at work, don't let your body show it in any way.  Our society disrespects mothers so much we ought to call a strike.

October 5, 2007 2:09 AM
 

Marisa said:

Karen, thank you for your quote in the Times. I am a young woman who would like to think that when I do have children I will wear my new body just as proudly as my mother did. It disgusts me that something as miraculous as motherhood would become "the ultimate indignity" to quote Cookie. I was surprised to hear that a parenting magazine would be so superficial. Well, kudos to you moms who are wearing it proudly!

October 5, 2007 9:16 AM
 

jenseju said:

No kidding!!

My body has been through a lot of surgery. When I was a kid, my mom called me her "Scar-Bellied Sneetch," which made me feel special and strong.

I have a Lethal Weapon pride in all my marks (remember the scene they were all comparing gunshot scars), and a surgeon who insisted on going *around* my belly button 3 times (including when he assisted at my C-section), and a husband who loves ME.

That other quote in the Times article:

There is more pressure on mothers today to look young and sexy than on previous generations, she added. “I don’t think it was an issue for my mother; your husband loved you no matter what,” said Ms. Birkland, who recently remarried.

That's SAD. How shallow can people get ?!?  Or is this an East Coast thing, or just a class phenomenon?

I live in the Lower Midwest, where maybe 2% of the population would include the demographic showcased in this article.

(All that being said, I wouldn't mind getting my DDD's down to a C someday. But I don't feel BAD about them, they're just inconvenient when riding horses and chasing toddlers.)

October 5, 2007 3:46 PM
 

» Blog Archive » A ‘Mom’ Job said:

Pingback from  » Blog Archive   » A ‘Mom’ Job

October 5, 2007 7:36 PM
 

plastic surgery » The Mommy Makeover: Post-Partum Must-Have said:

Pingback from  plastic surgery » The Mommy Makeover: Post-Partum Must-Have

October 5, 2007 8:30 PM
 

Mom Jobs & Mommy Careers : Elaine Vigneault said:

Pingback from  Mom Jobs & Mommy Careers : Elaine Vigneault

October 7, 2007 10:13 AM
 

stefanie said:

No surprise that the Times put it under "fashion" rather than "health."

Re: husbands - I really don't think that many of them care one way or another.  And no, I would never under any circumstances do that.

October 9, 2007 5:08 PM
 

plastic surgery » The Mommy Makeover: Post-Partum Must-Have said:

Pingback from  plastic surgery » The Mommy Makeover: Post-Partum Must-Have

October 12, 2007 1:50 AM
 

plastic surgery » The Mommy Makeover: Post-Partum Must-Have said:

Pingback from  plastic surgery » The Mommy Makeover: Post-Partum Must-Have

October 12, 2007 1:50 AM
 

Strollerderby said:

You too can look as good as Mike Adamick (pictured right) and win friends and influence people call yourself a writer... all while having a great time covering today's breaking news about parenting and childraising and everything in between. Here

October 31, 2007 1:47 PM

in

GROUP BLOGS

  • Strollerderby

    The smartest, funniest, most exhaustive parenting blog in the blogosphere.
  • drool.icio.us

    The top million must-have baby products.
  • FameCrawler

    Your daily baby celebrity fix.
back to blog homepage