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Elizabeth Hasselbeck's Maternity Leave Brings Second Showers?

Posted by Kelly Mills
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It is very important that you know this: Elizabeth Hasselbeck is going on maternity leave from The View in early November. Something about toxic fumes... Okay, I don't begrudge her the leave at all even if she is utterly stupid, I think working while pregnant sucks. And those of you who have come to rely on her wise words to carry you through the day will just have to read tea boxes or pamphlets the government dropped out of planes or something for a while to get you through. But of course there is a big dilemma facing the ladies she's leaving behind--since this is kid number two, is a shower in order?

Now, Jessica told me she's heard the second-child shower referred to as a "sprinkle" (gack) but whatever you wanna call it, many folks have very strong opinions as to whether it is appropriate or not. I'm more Ms. Ill-Mannered than in the Judith Martin camp, so I always think a party is fine, even the ever-awkward work shower, just make the gifts optional. But other people believe the expectation that they should have to visit the baby registry for the same person on more than one occasion is gauche. I'm guessing Babs will oppose the idea, Whoopi will be good-naturedly in favor of the second shower, that Sherri thing will bump into walls a bunch, and Rosie will make a special guest appearance and leap out of the cake shaking a rattle. Remember, you heard it here first. 

But feel free to weigh in on shower for second and third kids: yea or nay. And whether you think she's about to kill Elmo with her eyes.


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Comments

 

Mom2Two said:

I definitely think it's tacky to throw your own shower.  Come to a party for ME!  And bring me PRESENTS!

But if your friends or coworkers want to throw you a party, I think it's a lovely gesture.  Every baby deserves a celebration of his or her life.

October 16, 2007 11:52 AM
 

AmyinMotown said:

I think second showers are TACKY. TACK-Y to the nth degree. I know people wh got pregnant like right away with their second  and STILL had showers. Hello, the ink's probably not even dry on the thank-you notes for your first shower! You DO NOT NEED more stuff!  It just comes off as super greedy and self aggrandizing.  I am pregnant with #2 right now and if someone wants to buy me a baby gift, lovely, but a shower for the express solicitation thereof would be a cheesy move.

I understand the idea of welcoming the second baby, but it shouldn't be gift-centric (since the point of a shower is to help you get ready for the baby). One thing some friends have started doing is a welcoming/blessing while the mother is still pregnant, where we gather and everyone reads different sectons of a prayer welcoming the baby and often we do some sort of craft  together as well, as a symbol of good wishes and welcome. It's much more meaningful than a bunch of stuff and could easily be secularized.

A second shower just seems so "God forbid my child should have hand-me-downs or used stuff from their sibling."

I can see it being justifiable, though, if for example there is a big gap between #1 and #2 because of life circumstances--couple has a baby, divorces, mom remarries and gets pregnant with husband #2 years down the line. Then, another shower would be OK if it's not too over the top.

October 16, 2007 12:29 PM
 

Alisyn said:

I think the word "shower" has negative connotations -- but I think a party to celebrate a second, third or fourth baby is totally appropriate.  A shower isn't really supposed to be about gifts, after all, it's supposed to be a celebration of the mama, of the family, of the new life.  Why wouldn't you want to celebrate every child you have?  

October 16, 2007 12:46 PM
 

CoolAuntieTina said:

My sis-in-law had a shower for her third kid, thrown by our mother-in-law. But instead of registering for big-ticket items, guests brought sundries like lotions/soaps, diapers, onesies, and stuff for mom. The party wasn't centered around gifts, we were celebrating the baby.

October 16, 2007 1:10 PM
 

Sheri said:

The difference in age between child one and two--almost 13 years.  So I had two showers.  No biggie.  It is up to whoever is having the baby.  When you receive an invitation to something, you have the right to decline.  I don't watch the View.  If I need political information, I sure am not going to get it from a day time talk show.  Best of luck to her.

October 16, 2007 1:38 PM
 

Jane said:

Superstition prohibited us from counting our eggs before they hatch. (I'm Jewish.) This meant no showers for either pregnancy.  And hardcore jews don't even buy the crib until the baby is born.  

Anyway, what ended up happening is that people sent us gifts after we do the birth announcement blitz.  And it's not like we got significantly fewer gifts after #2 versus #1.  But note that we didn't solicit gifts for either child.  We've never registered for anything.

October 16, 2007 2:11 PM
 

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October 16, 2007 2:23 PM
 

babysinblack said:

I'm pregnant with my second, and the midgets will be about four years apart. Having another shower for myself has never crossed my mind. I agree with most of the other posts in that it's a little greedy, especially if the kids are close in age. Having said that, I wholeheartedly agree that there are exceptions - 13 years between kids? Multiples the second time around? Go for it. And that isn't to say that all gifts are inappropriate for baby number 2 or 3; just the idea of a party where you're supposed to get stuff.

October 16, 2007 2:35 PM
 

Karen Murphy said:

MUCH better than a shower is a blessingway, which totally focuses on the pregnant woman.  Why not?  When I was pregnant with #3 a bunch of woman friends came over, rubbed my feet, and totally made a big deal over me.  For #4 everybody gave me a special bead that I made into a necklace for the birth and we drank champagne.  Awesome.

October 16, 2007 2:47 PM
 

charlita said:

I did throw a shower for my sister on her second pregnancy because she was having twins. And we threw a shower for my cousin for her second and didn't think anything of it. I guess we never really thought it was as much about gifts as an excuse to get together, have great food and have a good time. It's just a party to us and we love parties in my family :)

October 16, 2007 3:08 PM
 

LogicalMama said:

I second Karen... I had a Blessingway/shower and it was great. Everyone was told to bring a bead and a wish for the baby/family. A friend made me a wonderful necklace of all the beads that I wore during labor (while I could stand it around my neck). I still have all the wishes in a box that I will save forever.

October 16, 2007 5:08 PM
 

julielynn said:

I love showers for second, third, or fifth babies.  I think a shower for each Duggar kid would probably be pushing it, but I see no need to marginalize the poor second kid with the attitude that they always can just use the hand-me-downs.  :(  Second kids are all set up to get the shaft from conception -- who has time to avoid hot dogs with pregnancy number 2 when that's all Big Sis will eat? -- so be a sport and spring for a new swing for the poor kid.  Plus, there's cake.

October 17, 2007 11:23 AM
 

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October 22, 2007 11:59 PM

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