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The View's Shepherd Won't Let Her Son Wear a Dress

Posted by Madeline Holler

Should I just start watching The View, because I’m telling you, that Sherri Shephard is just the kind of train wreck that makes me slow down and crane my neck to look. I'm holding up traffic on YouTube because I stop so often to stare, dumbfounded, at her daily collisions with the outside world.

This time, Shepherd is unwittingly (witlessly?) sucked in to a discussion on trans-gendered children. Sort of.  Sherri says she would not let her son wear a dress, not even for make-believe. Not until he's 18 (the age of fashion majority?). Whatever. We know some people like that, so, granted. Go for it, Sherri.

Incredibly, though, she would also expect a teacher to ask him to remove the dress were he to try one on over in the dress-up corner. Even when there's a play dough fight across the room? Or a light-table glitch? What about butterfly wings? Or the patent leather belt meant for a Madeline costume but which also fits the firefighter's jacket? Should the teacher be discrete, or just call him a sissy and get it over with? (Incidentally, Sherri should never let her son play with my girl, who manages to get every little boy that comes over to drop the trucks and stuff a doll under his shirt yelling, "Mom, I got pregnant!")

The gals on The View, who won't leave this discussion alone, get diverted into a lot of irrelevant talk of Scotland and man skirts and premarital sex in your mom’s house, before finally coming back around to the teacher’s responsibility to make sure children are reminded of gender roles.

For the record, Shepherd would still love her son if he were gay. But dressed appropriately, we assume?

Would you expect a teacher to step in if your son put on a dress (or your daughter a cowboy hat)? Don’t answer that. But feel free to give us your take on Sherri Shepherd's conversations with America.

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Comments

 

Margaret said:

As the mother of a son this infuriates me! Why is it that we have gotten to a place where we would NEVER tell our little girls that they can't do something just because they are a girl; but it is still ok to do that to our little boys. If my 3 year-old sees me painting my toenails, he wants some too! And I don't think it has anything to do with gender identification. It has to do with the fact that Mommy is a rockstar and he wants to do what I do. Why can't it just be that simple? Freakin' Sherri Sheperd...............

December 6, 2007 6:37 PM
 

Amy said:

I'm with Margaret, I think it's awful that we're telling our son's that they can't do things but we would never dare tell our daughters the same thing!

December 6, 2007 7:31 PM
 

Sarah said:

She's obviously an idiot.

December 6, 2007 8:10 PM
 

Andrew said:

My son is almost five - one of his (male) friends at daycare wears a dress often, at school and at home. The one he wears at school is usually a purple and pink shiny number - the teachers seem fine with it and the kids seem to just accept it. When we went to his birthday party last summer he was romping around in a gray dress, playing soccer with the boys and princesses with the girls. His parents seem to be very cool with the whole situation - I'm not sure if they have much choice although their son seems quite mellow so not the kind who would kick up too much of a fuss.

Basically it just doesn't seem to be a problem to anyone although I'll grant you it's a tad unusual. I hope that as he gets to 5th grade or whatever his friends continue to be as accepting of him.

December 6, 2007 8:32 PM
 

chyna823 said:

She also says that if her son were gay, he wouldn't be able to sleep with his boyfriend in her house if they weren't married. Sounds like an easy way to condemn to me.

December 6, 2007 8:39 PM
 

Mom2Two said:

She'd probably shit herself then if she saw the picture I took of my son clomping around the house in my heels...

December 6, 2007 9:39 PM
 

HDCS said:

Am I the only one who thinks Baba Wawa goes behind the set after the shoot and repeatedly bangs her head on the wall of the studio while muttering 'Stupid, stupid, stupid....'?. No? Just me then.

December 7, 2007 12:20 AM
 

mcglory13 said:

Studies have shown that boys wearing a dress when they're little has no impact on their sexuality. Which makes this extra stupid. Personally, as long as my son is happy and healthy (and not a moron like Sheri) I don't care what he wears or who he loves. And I expect teachers to reinforce that, especially the moron part.  

December 7, 2007 9:11 AM
 

Erin said:

I think we need to stage a "dress-in" at the View! My son would look so adorable in a little dress, hee hee.

December 7, 2007 10:11 AM
 

Betty said:

Totally OT (I agree with all of you, nothing to add there) but does Baba Wawa frighten anyone else? Her face doesn't move; she appears to be facelifted and Botoxed enough to last until 2020.

December 7, 2007 3:31 PM
 

Autumn said:

Yeah, but I bet she never denies him food!  She worries about his gender identification but I bet she is not worryign about his cholesterol or heart disease.  She is humongous!

December 7, 2007 3:45 PM
 

LogicalMama said:

Go Autumn, I bet you are absolutely right about that food point you bring up!! I also agree with everyone here! In a child's mind, clothes are clothes and dress up is having fun and playing. Imagine telling girls they couldn't wear pants, have short hair, wear sneakers, fart, burp.......

December 7, 2007 4:07 PM
 

Clare said:

OK, I watched the YouTube clip but have a different read altogether: B.W. is the one with questionable judgment. She honestly thinks that a preschool teacher should take parents aside and tell them that their 2- or 3-year-old son is wearing princess dresses during free play and, by the way, this could be an early sign that he's transgendered? This is preposterous for so many reasons. As for S.S., I just don't think she comes off that bad. Her rules are for her children. I have rules for my two boys (not involving dresses--I'm fine with that and so is the world we live in). Many of my friends have different rules for their children (mostly involving TV and videogames). We all do. What would the world be like if we all thought alike? She says she'd love her son regardless of his sexual orientation. I think she's trying to protect him in her own way (in her own world--not ours, remember) and that's her business.

December 7, 2007 10:11 PM
 

Mark said:

I am a gentic male,(52), I played "house" with my cousin(female, 4 months older than I) Early on like 4/5. We were pretty much twins albeit cousins. My two older cousins were boys and 4-6 years older than me. I fell into the small ditch just outside the house.. Mom wouldn't bring xtra clothes for me so I would "have" to wear my girl cousin's clothes and play Barbie and or house untill it was time to go home.. which I had no problem with.so...S.S.,Be a big enough "person/adult" to let the children be who they are,, you only gave birth to them..you cannot dictate their gender,, as it is determined in the brain at the begining of conception. Love the Child for who they are and not WHAT they are or aren't! regards, M

December 7, 2007 11:36 PM
 

crunchy said:

That woman....Joy was quoting some Greek philosopher the other day and they had to explain that the dude had been around BEFORE Jesus to Sherri.  She just kept wittering that Jesus and Christianity were always around and so on....what uptight Christian planet does she live on?

How is she on tv????

December 8, 2007 7:55 AM
 

John said:

   To respond to Claire:

BW is correct.  If I child has gender variant behaviors (as defined by the particulate culture, generation, etc.)  It may mean things down the road.  Kids with gender variant behavior may grow to be gay, transgendered, or nothing at all.  It's too early to tell, but what parent would not want any information so they could provide the best guidance for their kids?  

You can be the matriarch of a household and establish / enforce all the rules you want.  The problem is when the rules tell your child that you do not approve with who they are.  You will be telling them that their core sense of being is bad and wrong.  You can not "parent away” someone’s sense of self.  You will only apply shame on your child and will resent you for it.

I knew I wasn't like the other boys for as long as I can remember, by the time I was 4 I knew to not tell anyone.  It took a lot of work to realize that what I like does not make me a bad person.  My parents can make all the rules they want.  I am a fully self-sufficient adult, husband and father.  The statue of limitations of my mother’s rules have run out, and now she has to pay for the consequences of her actions.

December 8, 2007 10:20 AM
 

Strollerderby said:

Every afternoon when Emmeline goes down for a nap, I try to busy myself with writing, cleaning or baking sweet, delicious cupcakes. And by try , I mean I think about one of those things briefly before curling up in a fetal position and falling asleep

December 8, 2007 5:59 PM

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