I'm sorry, but don't most kids have difficulty adapting to their parent's culture and food.  Sheeesh!  What? They've never met a kid who eats only chicken nuggets (and not ones stuck together or touching any other food dammit) and certain fruit (again, sliced just so and not touching anything else).  

the one that's going to need therapy is this little girl.  My heart breaks for her.  And I thought for sure this would be about an American family.  I guess the Dutch can be jerks too.  

This makes me absolutely sick.  It really sounds like the problem is that the parents don't like her not matching their perfect family, not her dislike of clogs.  Poor little girl.  I can only imagine how lost and unsure she is.  

I'm afraid this says it all: "The father, a diplomat, and his wife, who adopted the girl after FAILING TO CONCEIVE, handed over the girl to Hong Kong social workers last year. The family, WHICH NOW INCLUDES TWO BIOLOGICAL CHILDREN... "

Guess they don't need the backup anymore. Assholes.

This pretty much makes me sick to my stomach.

I'm just speechless. And I have to wonder, given the political controversy surrounding international adoption - Guatemala closing its doors, Vietnam-US visa problems, and the bitter Russian editorials after several adopted Russian children were harmed by their American families in recent years - what impact is this going to have for families struggling to adopt overseas now and in years to come?

Jackie

aPARENTly Speaking, www.ibabuzz.com/aparentlyspeaking/

What selfish assholes! And if they have had her since 4 months then she should be acclimated to their family (and their food?!). Not that that makes a difference in the fact that these are horrible people. Obviously they were just bad parents and they blamed the poor girl for not fitting in. I bet they would shove their biological children back in the womb if they could.

Since when is this an option?? Well, I'm just glad to have proof that Americans don't hold the monopoly on pure, unadulterated douchebaggery any more.

When are people going to take the biological hint that if they can't conceive, it is clearly because they are not cut out to be parents?

The most recent issue of Newsweek talks about adoptive parents  whose children have some serious problems and how they are unprepared to deal with them (problems stemming from abuse the children experienced with their birth parents and/or in the orphanages). So if I had read this yesterday, I would have been outraged, sickened, and agreeing with all the commenters that these people have shown themselves to be selfish assholes, today I want to know more before passing judgment. Better that they give this girl up if the alternative is they abuse her and kill her in a moment of rage (as did the women profiled in Newsweek).

I'm not saying this is right, I'm just saying there has to be more to this story than just "she doesn't like tulips."

This happened to a friend of mine.

Her first set of adoptive parents gave her back to the agency because she was "too ugly". It really says that in her file.

How selfish can people get?

I really do not think that they would disrupt for frivolous reasons.  For all we know the child is psychotic or has harmed the other children.  What I do know from being a member of the adoption community is in every case of adotion disruption it is the best for the child.  If they parents do not want them they need to be placed with parents who do want them.  It is much worse to be raised by people who do not love you.  With some luck this child will find her real family at last.

Family's former Indonesian servant who raised the girl told a British media that the girl was a "normal girl".  This girl was just flat out neglected, and now the parents are blaming her.