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Is Workplace Parenting The Wave Of The Future?

Posted by Amy S.F. Lutz

It's been a while since I worked in an office.  It hasn't been long at all, however, since I've had young babies around (call it 'ongoing').  And based on my experience trying to write and think with those babies crawling all over me, I find it hard to believe that infants in the workplace wouldn't be . . . distracting, to say the least. 

But Carla Moquin doesn't agree.  As founder of the Parenting in the Workplace Institute, she's compiled a database of over 70 companies that permit employees to bring babies to work, and she suspects many more allow it even if it's not officially recognized.  Although there are obviously some professions less baby-friendly than others (i.e., doctors or teachers), a 2005 study found that babies have virtually no effect on productivity.  In fact, babies can actually vitalize the work environment and lead to higher morale among co-workers.

I'm still having a tough time imagining how my kids, none of whom would spend more than ten minutes in the exersaucer, would have fared in an office.  Maybe this arrangement works best with those mythical babies I've heard of but never actually encountered - the ones that spend hours contemplating life from the confines of their infant car seats, or sleeping in papooses strapped to their mothers' backs.  After all, it worked for Kansas governor Kathleen Sebelius, who took both her sons to work when they were babies.  Now over 20 state agencies in Kansas allow workplace parenting.  And as we all know, where goes Kansas, so goes the rest of the country. 


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Comments

 

aaustin said:

My husband and I own our own business - I do the bookkeeping - so it was natural for us to take both of our daughters to work for a while.  It works really well when they're little and they sleep a lot.  It works slightly less well between the time when they sort of wake up and the time when they get mobile.  Once they start to crawl, it doesn't work at all.  We started having a sitter come when my older daughter was 1, and now that my younger daughter is 10 months, she's going to start staying home during the day, too.  Fortunately I live within a few miles of our office, so I can come home to nurse her.

I only work part time, though.  It would be cruel to expect a baby to be at work (and largely ignored) for 40+ hours a week.

If you're nursing, it's better if you have your own office (away from clients, especially) where you can have some privacy...  Especially in those fumbly no-head-control early days.  We have a lot of young male college students who work for us, and they were always very cool and respectful about the breastfeeding, but more than one of them got flashed, and it was sort of awkward for everyone.  I'm all for nursing in public, but it's somehow a little different when it's your boss.

The study that it had no effect on productivity, though, is bullshit.  It takes me 10 times longer to get anything done with the kids there than when they're not.  I still take them in occasionally when the sitter is on school break, and it's miserable.  We're always very glad to see Allison again.

I have no idea what I'm going to do this summer.  Hopefully we'll be able to find someone who is taking summer school.  Last summer was really hard.

The real hardship, though, for the parent is that you never get a break.  When working moms go to work, they get to be grown ups and not worry about sippy cups and dirty diapers for a while.  When stay at home moms get a sitter, they get to do something fun and have a break.  I use all my "sitter time" to go to work, which isn't a break at all, and while I'm there I'm still Mom.  It's double duty, and it sucks sometimes.  Fortunately my husband is there, too, so he can take them (without attitude, after all, they're his kids!) when I'm on the phone and stuff.  An assistant, or a co-worker, might get crappy about that.

I could go on and on...

January 9, 2008 9:48 AM
 

Amy Kuras said:

I am against kids at work in all but emergency situations. I just remember sitting my office trying to work while my coworker's baby (we  shared a wall--both our doors were closed, even) wailed for HOURS. His childcare plan was for  his wife to work nights and he would have the baby at the office during the couple hours of overlap--sounds good, but it wasn't. I got nothing done, and I can't image he did either.

It's happened other  places I have worked and some parents are great about it, keeping their kids busy and warning them to stay in their parent's offices.  Those kids tend to be well-behaved and a pleasure to have there. Other parents let their little maniacs run up and down the aisles yelling, barge into people's offices, take over the conference room, blare cartoons, etc.  I pay for daycare and sitters so I can concentrate when I am working and so can everyone else, so I find  it really irritating when people can't do the same. Again, emergency situations (sick sitter, snow day) are one thing, but all the time is another.  I work from home now and it's so damn distracting, but at least I am the only one impacted when she's antsy and running around or when I need to stop what I am doing to go color with her or whatever.

January 9, 2008 10:24 AM
 

rrr said:

My coworker brought her baby to work about 20 hours a week when the kid was 3 to 6 months old and we all loved having the baby in the office.  She was on a waiting list for a daycare, and we were all disappointed when she got in earlier than expected!

January 9, 2008 10:39 AM
 

Joce said:

I take my 3 month old into the office with me, and it usually works quite well.  That being said, I only need to be in the office about 2 hours a day, I go during his morning nap, my husband works there as well (so he can help when the boy wakes up), and there is a grand total of 5 employees.  Also several empty offices where I can nurse, store our pack and play, etc.  I would get absolutely nothing done without all of those lovely elements coming together.  Oh, and we live across the street, so I walk home if there is an issue.

January 9, 2008 12:48 PM

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Amy S.F. Lutz's work has appeared in dozens of literary journals, including Cream City Review, The American Poetry Review, Puerto del Sol, and Mid-American Review. She and her husband have five children. Amy and her sister chronicle their adventures in communal living in their blog whoelsewantstoliveinmyhouse.com

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