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Friends Think Depressed Surrogate Mom to 8 is Crazy

Posted by Madeline Holler

There are a couple of things going on in this story of a surrogate mom that are just, nicely put, very interesting. First, she is trying to get pregnant for the eighth time on behalf of someone other than herself. Wow, eight pregnancies is a lot of babies for any woman to bear. (Please don't confuse her with the surrogate mother to 12. Twelve!)

The other thing is that this mom who has made a second career as a baby-haver is  43 years old and things are getting tough and she's starting to get depressed. She wanted to bear a sibling for the little girl, Isobel, whom she gave birth to in 2006, but nine weeks in to that pregnancy -- her egg and the 51-year-old father's sperm -- she miscarried. Her family is starting to worry.

But the most striking thing for me is that this woman is not a mother. She has no children of her own! 

Here's what she says about surrogacy:

"I really love being pregnant and my body is very good at it," she said. "I am very proficient at giving birth. But I still don't want children of my own, not in the slightest.

"A lot of people won't understand how I feel - but everyone's different. After seeing how happy Isobel and her parents are, I really wanted to provide them with another child so they can complete their family.

"Her parents have become my friends and I see this pregnancy as helping friends out. But this one is definitely my last. I can't keep on going for ever."

What now? 

 

 Photo: Daily Mail


Comments

 

Autumn said:

Having a child and raising a child are two completely different things.  I can see where she is coming from.

January 22, 2008 7:57 PM

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