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The Bias Against Homeschool

Want to have some low cost fun with nary a hangover afterward? Get some homeschoolers in a room with some public schoolers and some attachment parents with some bottlefeeders and then yell out "Hey.  What's with you people?!"

If you include a mud pit and a video, you could make some bank.

Seriously, though, homeschoolers often get a bad rap (weird right-wing Christian types whose children lack social skills), and seem stumped as to why non-homeschoolers seem so exercised rude about their choice.  The Eclectic Homeschooler describes an exchange with a curious onlooker and wonders at the questioner's obvious belief that homeschooled children lack social skills as well as access to sports opportunities.

The bias against homeschool isn't simply that people are critical of what they don't understand.  It also relates to a fundamental belief that children should be educated in a classroom, along with their peers, though clearly the days of the peaceful one-room schoolhouse, or effective public school are more or less long gone.  On another level, many parents are critical and/or defensive about homeschooling because they feel threatened by someone else's apparently superior committment to their children.    

In a day and age when "Are you a good parent?" is the subtext of nearly all dialog about childraising, it's no wonder that everyone's choices are under fire (and investigation). 


Comments

 

Dwtintx said:

This is an interesting post.  I am all but convinced that I want to homeschool my daughter, and any other children we may have, though NOT for particularly religious or moral reasons.  I'm just not at all confident that she will receive as good an education in any school, public or private, as I could give her myself.  And my dad is all, "She needs to get socialized."  Like there is no other way to socialize kids except in school?  It's such a knee jerk reaction, it drives me crazy!

On the other hand, I remember some of my school days (mostly in elementary school) fondly, and I wonder if I would be depriving my kid(s) of a common experience that unites most of us by not letting them go to school.  Is it fair for me to decide that she/they won't have the experiences of shopping for school supplies, meeting and getting to know one's class and teacher, learning within a daily structure, learning alongside kids with different abilities, winter breaks, summer vacations, recess, etc.?

I still have time to decide, I guess, since my first is only 18 months.  But it's something I think about a lot.

February 27, 2008 8:29 PM
 

Heather said:

I would also like to add that I think it's important to understand that people do homeschool for many different reasons. These reasons can be religion, learning difficulties, advanced education/giftedness, jobs or lifestyles (military/travel) as well as just choosing not to place your child in a setting you feel is non-conducive to your values. We've gone both public school as well as homeschool paths, and although I don't feel homeschool is the right choice for everyone, it is a great alternative for some. I also want to add that those I know and chose to spend time with in the homeschool community, do not think we're superior parents or have better parental skills than others, we have just made the decision to do what we feel is best for our families.

Thanks for linking to my blog.

February 27, 2008 9:39 PM
 

eo said:

I have many relatives that have gone the home-school path...which partly has led me to my opinions.

People relate to each other based on their shared experiences and commonalities.  When I was an exchange student in France, I connected the first night with my exchange student because we shared music taste.  We relate to other Americans based on a shared language, history, etc. Part of what most Westerners share is the fact that they all went to school.  You can take two people that were raised in different parts of the country, by completely different parents with opposing parenting styles, but they will still relate to certain childhood memories surrounding their schooling (play yard bullying, doing best on an exam, etc, etc-both positive and negative, but character building).  Home Schoolers and the Home Schooled can relate to each other, and will argue with this point, but I strongly stick by it.

Secondly, many of the reasons people choose to home school-religion, morals, overly gifted children, etc-cannot be avoided in university or the working world without great concession.  When I talk to my home schooled cousin, she has access to science classes, sports and social gatherings, but feels uneasy about socializing with "non-Christians." Of course, there are always ways to live your life where you can stay in your comfort zone, but it drastically reduces your options. How many jobs are there that will cater to your strict moral code? or stimulate you/work at your pace?

In the end, everyone has their reasons and their different expectations for outcomes, but home schoolers can't expect people to not approach them with some trepidation given that there is a different culture that surrounds it.

February 29, 2008 9:31 PM

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