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American Exchange Student Starved By Host Family

Posted by Amy S.F. Lutz

You expect your kid to come back from an exchange program more culturally enlightened, more proficient in a foreign language, perhaps more informed about the critical issues facing different countries around the world.

You don't expect him to come back an emaciated skeleton.

Jonathan McCullum, a 17-year-old from Maine, left for a year in Egypt weighing a healthy 155 lbs.  In just four months, he dropped 60 lbs.

McCullum was hosted by a family of Coptic Christians, who fast more than 200 days a year - something (duh!) McCullum's parents should have been told before his placement.  When the host family did provide food, it amounted to little more than a cucumber and cheese sandwich or a bowl of beans and vegetables.

McCullum wanted to stay the full year, but his parents were alerted to the problem by a teacher, who emailed that their son was "in bad shape" and "really, really NEEDS to go home." Which turned out to be something of an understatement.  McCullum, at risk of a heart attack, had to be hospitalized for nearly two weeks.  He is now recovering at home.

The father of the host family denied accusations he starved McCullum, claiming the boy made it up so his parents would be refunded the money they paid the organization American Field Service (AFS) to participate in the exchange program.  He added that the boy was so active, "The amount of food he ate at each meal was equal to six people."

They say a picture is worth a thousand words, and I suspect this picture might be worth many thousands to the McCullum family, should they decide to sue the AFS.  I mean, come on.  Is there any doubt which side is telling the truth?


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Comments

 

dena said:

Why would the boy allow himself to be starved? Surely it is in ones nature to either get food or remove themselves from the situation in which they have none. If he thought staying in the house just to indulge in some placement was worth his life, one really needs to wonder about his priorities.

March 1, 2008 9:39 AM
 

sks597 said:

I was an AFS exchange student.  If you don't get along with the family (or the family doesn't like you) you usually can be placed with a new host family.  Seems pretty silly that this kid allowed himself to starve.  He is 17 and nearly an adult.

March 1, 2008 12:53 PM
 

allyson said:

I agree with the posted comments..this kid is 17..if you've lost nearly half your body weight..wouldn't that be an "Ah-Ha!" moment for you??  At 17 I was living on my own and in school with a job, a responsible adult by any standards.  If I was sick, I went to a Dr.  If this kid didn't have the common sense to ask his parents or AFS for help, who's to blame?

March 1, 2008 1:10 PM
 

chyna823 said:

Really--wasn't this kid ever let out of the house? Isn't he capable of purchasing food? Or telling someone in his program what was going on?

March 1, 2008 3:44 PM
 

Jennifer said:

While it's clear we don't know the whole story, I'm surprised that the comments don't save any ire for the host family. Clearly, the kid wasn't being fed enough. The host family has major culpability in that.

March 1, 2008 10:03 PM
 

Rachel said:

Something doesn't add up.  I've been to Egypt- there is an enormous variety of extremely cheap street food available. You can get an enormous bowl of macaroni, lentils and rice for a dollar or so.

March 1, 2008 10:48 PM
 

HDCS said:

I don't know. I've known a few teenage boys in my time and some of them have been pretty daft. So I don't find it entirely impossible. However, regardless of what we think, the law in the US at least treats him as a minor and won't necessarily lay the blame on him. The law expects that the guardian is responsible for his safety and well being and would take care of him. It should be interesting to see how this plays out.

March 2, 2008 11:52 AM
 

Jeanne said:

With very little research on the story it is clear that this boy DID try to get placed with another host family, but the only possibility was a family in a very unsafe area.  Also, quickly into the starvation process, the brain stops working properly, so it is not surprising if this boy's decision making process was affected.  Third, when my children went on an exchange, it was all we could do to afford the basic costs, they did not have a lot of spending money besides what was necessary.  Perhaps this boy could not afford to buy extra food.  Remember, on these exchange programs the HOST FAMILIES HAVE THE RESPONSIBILITY to provide food.  So, the children do not budget for that.  

I agree with Jennifer that it is surprising how people want to blame this boy instead of putting the blame where it most belongs- with the host family.  I would guess that this boy was probably raised to be polite and he likely deferred to the hosts long enough for his cognitive faculties to be compromised by the starvation.  

March 2, 2008 12:12 PM
 

Dave M said:

One thing that gets me in this story is Jonathan reportedly ate for 1 hour and a half at the beginning.  Why was he only 155 pounds if that was a normal habit?  Maybe something was up before hand as well and the lack of food he was used to caused more of this than starvation.

March 2, 2008 10:38 PM
 

Lois Dulaney said:

Someone is lying!!! The host family should have been smart enough to feed this child. They sound very selfish. I saw an interview with this family on Good Morning American The boy said they complained about how much electricity and water he was using. Do host families get paid? I hope this child recovers with no lasting ill effects. I was considering letting my son apply for foreign exchange. I have reconsidered after seeing this poor child.

March 3, 2008 4:42 PM
 

anji said:

As a citizen of this country I’m embarrassed that we have tried this Egyptian family in the press, with so little information coming from their side. I’m disgusted that mention of a lawsuit by the parents accompanied the first news items. Here is a student, who is just months short of attaining adult status in the eyes of the law. What are his responsibilities for his own health, even at age 17? They are immense. We would expect him to know not to have unsafe sex, not to drive while under the influence, and to loudly ask for help if he was not getting proper nourishment. In fact, he had a Facebook and Myspace presence, and was constantly in touch with his friends back home–though not his parents obviously. Egypt is a place where one can get food from a street vendor for pennies, shop at mini-marts, or eat American-style fast foods. If you think I believe he never dined out with his friends, I do not. I’m angry we are being taken for a ride by this kid and his parents. They deleted his previously public internet journal of his Egypt experience, and now they have made his other internet presence private. I visited his myspace page before it was made private. My impressions of him and his friends lead me to believe it is ludicrous to believe he could not find “anything under the sun” in Egypt. We are being hoodwinked, misled, and preyed upon by this family. I hope responsible journalism will show eventually that there is much more to this picture that has been told so far.

March 4, 2008 2:24 AM
 

Evy said:

If you read the articles in ABC News, one Study Abroad specialist theorizes that the boy could have decided to go native, and thus thrown himself into the whole idea of fasting, which is perhaps not a very wise decision. I don't know where you got the fact that the McCullum family was not informed the host would be Coptic Christian--they WERE informed he may have to fast; please do your research first because this is something that exchange programs DO.

March 4, 2008 9:39 AM
 

anji said:

Evy, if he decided to go native, don't you think there are native restaurants in Egypt?, with just 2 dollars he can eat about 5 lbs of flava beans and flafel, why didn't he eat in any restaurant? why didn't he inform the embassy? why didn't he tell anyone? he didn't even complain to the host family, if it really happened why was he very negative about it?, I'd say  if the family was mistaken he would be mistaken too equally

March 4, 2008 5:54 PM
 

james kane said:

ITS A SETUP, THE KIDS FAMILY AND HIM SELF PLANED IT OUT TO SQUEEZ SOME MONEY OUT, YOUR SEVENTEEN NOT SEVEN HOW CAN SOME ONE STARV YOU AND YOU CAN'T GET ANY HELP ARE YOU KIDDING ME?  ITS EASY ITS CALL A PREPAID PHONE CARD AND YOU CAN CALL HOME WITH IT AND LET YOUR PARENTS KNOW AND IF THEY DONT CARE OR YOU DIDNT CARE THEN I DONT THINK AFS IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THAT SO YOU SHOULD BE ENTITELD TO NOTHING BUT PITTTY FOR WHAT YOU TRYED (A SCAM) THAT HURT YOUR SELF !!! ITS PEOPLE LIKE YOU THAT GIVE US AMERICANS A BAD NAME, SHAME ON YOU

March 21, 2008 12:12 PM

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Amy S.F. Lutz's work has appeared in dozens of literary journals, including Cream City Review, The American Poetry Review, Puerto del Sol, and Mid-American Review. She and her husband have five children. Amy and her sister chronicle their adventures in communal living in their blog whoelsewantstoliveinmyhouse.com

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