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Pregnancy: It's Not Just for Women Anymore

An Oregon man has publicly announced that he is five months pregnant with a healthy baby girl. So all of those hypothetical “If men could get pregnant….” statements may get practically tested after all--although somehow I don’t think abortion is going to become a sacrament or maternity leave is going to last for two years for the sake of Thomas Beattie, a transgender man who had to go through nearly ten doctors before he found one who was willing to handle his highly unusual case.

I must admit that when I first heard about Beattie’s pregnancy claims on ABC, I feared for the reputations of transgender people everywhere: a man gets gender reassignment surgery, then gets artificially inseminated and broadcasts it on the Internet? Plus, according to ABC, a few of Beattie's neighbors were convinced the whole thing was a hoax. “I saw him the other day, and he didn’t look pregnant,” one said. (As I later learned, my concern about Beattie's outspokenness was shared by some in the trans community.)

But after reading Beattie’s moving first-person account published in The Advocate, I had a very different take. ABC failed to mention that Beattie’s wife is unable to carry a child, making their decision to have Beattie be the biological mother understandable. Furthermore, Beattie explains the logistics of his situation in such a way that it's clear this will be a very wanted baby. He has always identified as a man, and years ago underwent chest reconstruction surgery and began taking testosterone to appear outwardly as one. But he kept his female reproductive organs, so in order to become pregnant, all he needed to do was stop his testosterone injections. Not that he wanted to start getting PMS and cramps again, but hey, we all make sacrifices for our offspring.

 


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Comments

 

leahsmom said:

It's so nice to know I'm not the only one out there reading BoingBoing. . .

March 27, 2008 1:21 PM
 

taylor said:

Why not?

I'm a straight female, so I'm not just a GLBT person sticking up for one of my own when I say, "good for them". A married couple wants a baby, and the wife can't have one. Other couples would have to adopt or go with a surrogate, but they are lucky enough that for whatever reasons, the husband is capable of carrying the child for her. I wish them the same congrats and hopes for a healthy baby that any other couple would deserve while expecting.

March 28, 2008 12:35 PM
 

dayzichild said:

I've been hearing about this for a few days and when I finally read his first person account I felt aweful that so many people are giving them so much grief!  Well, I say good for them!  Congratulations!

March 29, 2008 2:08 PM
 

boozenblues said:

So, y'all want us to believe that a "man" is having a baby?  That is no man and she's already deprived her daughter of some of the best nutrients she could use upon her birth - breast milk!  That longterm vision of doing something like this - only in America!

April 3, 2008 8:19 PM
 

Finbarr Smith said:

He should be shot

There is nothing beautiful about this

It is sick

If he wants to be a man then he doesnt get to have babies.

Too much acceptence in the world these days.

God help that kid

April 4, 2008 8:14 AM
 

I Thinkthisisgross said:

I disagree with this situation entirely. I think this is by far the most disgusting thing I have ever read. If the SHE-man wanted to be a man so bad, why in the world is he opting to have a baby? They want to be treated like 'normal' people, then they do something completely abnormal. Go adopt like every normal couple does! You're right Finbarr, too much acceptance in this world. This is morally and ethically wrong...not to mention down right sickening. He should be ashamed of wanting to bring a child in this world knowing the ridicule and harsh words that are going to be said; both to him (shim) and to their child. It's wrong. He will always be considered a woman in my opinion. MEN can't have babies. Simple and Plain.

April 4, 2008 12:44 PM
 

lalala said:

you 2 last comments are rude. Would you not do what you could for your wife if she couldnt have children he did this because his wife cant have babies obvioulsy you never thought about the situation for them i wish him could luck on a full term pregnancy they deserve it people like u just need to leave them alone and stop ridiculing them for wanting a child to be apart of them not just adopted

April 4, 2008 2:42 PM
 

lidia said:

i agree with the last two posts, it doesnt matter if people believe in the Bible or not, she was born a woman and will never be a man regardless of all the hormones she takes, the point is not if she and her partner, deserve a baby, the question is, should they have a baby? they are already in a abnormal relationship, now this? i believe that if people who are confused about their sexuality or gender seek spiritual help from God, they would find their true happiness in life. i will not refer to her as him, and i will not refer to her partner as his wife because to me a marriage is sacred between a man and a woman and no i am not a legalistic religious hateful person, i will pray for them and the baby....

April 4, 2008 2:47 PM
 

disgusting said:

Men cant have babies simple as that, so you are picking your gender as female do the whole transformation then, this is disgusting

April 4, 2008 2:54 PM
 

lidia said:

lalala: our comments aren't rude, we just dont have to "accept" everything. i am so sick of people doing all kinds of immoral things and then expect us to hide our Godly beliefs and when bad things happen, everyone blames God or says "why would God let this tragedy happen"....

God loves these folks, He hates the sin.

April 4, 2008 2:56 PM
 

lidia said:

btw, only because she had her breasts reduced, i am surprised they would not "hide" her breasts in the picture, she is still a WOMAN with facial hair just like many women who wax everyday..........

April 4, 2008 2:58 PM
 

Viktoriya said:

lalalalal what do you mean just adopted, you need to get your self out of your bubble and try saving a child, hopefully that will get through your thick skull, and you wont be placing adoption as a negative act. You are disgusting, your putting their act above adoption is as sickening to me as what they are doing, no let me rephrase that nothing is as disgusting as what they are doing of attention

April 4, 2008 3:06 PM
 

dawn s said:

I not only congratulate these parents -I think it is truly a blessed event!! And the courage to tell their story is admirable!!It takes love and commitment to make a family and be parents -no matter what their gender is!!

Nancy and Thomas and little one.....I bless you  and wish you all the Happiness in this world---YOU DESERVE IT!!!!

April 4, 2008 3:09 PM
 

Viktoriya said:

I meant for attention

April 4, 2008 3:09 PM
 

dawn s said:

lidia...... GOD??? where was he sept 11th---checking to see if parents had the correct sex organ??? please!

At LEAST you Bless this wonderful couple --thats about the only smart thing you have written!

April 4, 2008 3:12 PM
 

NONEOFYOURBUSINESS said:

WE SHOULD JUST BLESS THIS COUPLE AND WISH THEM THE BEST..... WE SHOULDNT JUDGE PEOPLE

April 4, 2008 3:22 PM
 

Matt said:

This is the nastiest shit i have ever read in the news today.they should be ashemed and that baby is going to come out retarted and deformed. I truly consider for them to either leave the country or get an abortion because the baby is going to get talked about.

April 4, 2008 3:26 PM
 

Mark said:

SHE is not a man.  The state might recognize HER as a man, but GOD does not and society should not!  I am happy that SHE is having a baby.  Good for HER!  Simple biology states, a man cannot have a NATURAL baby.

And I am trying to figure out why Dawn brought Sept. 11th into this whole issue.  I fail to see anything remotely close to being related.  So thank you Dawn for your input, we are all alot more ignorant for reading it.

This boils down to a woman...who would like to be a man, but is not a man, giving birth to a child.  WHAT IN THE WORLD IS SO FREAKING SPECTACULAR ABOUT THAT?  The miracle of birth...yes!  The fact that she is doing it...no!  So yet again, what is all the fuss!

April 4, 2008 3:29 PM
 

Michelle C. said:

I believe that if god wanted men to have kids he would have made them that way....I also agree that you shouldn't judge people. So I wish this man and his wife the best of luck with the pregnancy  

April 4, 2008 3:39 PM
 

Ripley said:

Has anyone asked the million dollar question  ??? how much is there to gain money WISE....  Lots i bet

April 4, 2008 3:41 PM
 

Something to talk about said:

I feel it is the choice of the person.  He is lucky to be able to bring a miracle in this world.

And this child will be loved and unique.  And will have a loving mother and father.  Along with a new meaning to "Daddy's Little Girl."  As a woman, I only wonder now, if he understand what a woman goes through, that other men can't comprehend and never will.

Who are you to say it's wrong or disgusting?

For all of you that are against this you are afraid of change and probably a little jelous because you don't have this option.

I believe there is a reason for everything in life, and Beattie's situation proves it.

Congradulations on your baby girl!!!!  Many warm blessings to you and your new born and family.

Sincerely,

CMD Goddess

April 4, 2008 4:13 PM
 

Amanda said:

To those who are saying "This is ungodly.." GET OVER IT.

This pregnancy has already been done with, now they're just waiting for the birth.

I am happy that they are able to have a baby together.

Adoption is in my list [[since I can not have children]] but if they don't have to [[or don't want to]] go that route then so be it.

Now on the other hand I don't truely see him as a HIM at all. He was born a girl and in return has the right to carry a child. Whether she wanted to be seen as a man or not.

April 4, 2008 4:26 PM
 

Just threw up in my mouth a little bit said:

Just don't get this at all, Was Thomas born 100% women?  Then by the miracle of modern technology, decide to change to a man?  If that is the case then there is nothing amazing about this whole thing, other than a woman having a baby.  Now, if Thomas was born with man parts down below and the rest women parts, this whole process is just bizarre.  I guess my personal opinion about the whole process would be to ask, why would you go public with this?  The majority of people would not want the attention that this is going to get.  But I guess where there is a book involved, and this alone would be enough to generate a lot of publicity.  As far as ethics and morality go I would be against this for the sake of the unborn girl.  There are reasons that adoption and child rearing should be done in a normal manner.  O-well nothing we can do about it now!

April 4, 2008 4:41 PM
 

Richard Scott said:

This twisted individual is not repeat not a MAN.  He claims to legally be male, but he is no more that a disfuctional Lesbian.  He is a sick and twisted person who cant hadle the fact that he is a freak of nature.  Men do not have babys...Men dont have a uterus, ovaries, fallopian tubes , a V etc...  If it  not a man has female sex organs it is a FEMALE

April 4, 2008 5:12 PM
 

jackie said:

This person is not a man its a FEMALE OKKKKKKK!!!!!!!!!!!!!

April 4, 2008 5:24 PM
 

bob said:

Is it just me or am I the only one who thinks we all should refer to this person as a SHE?

I guess just me.......

April 4, 2008 5:25 PM
 

Princess April Ann said:

I think some People are confused with their sexuality but it doesn't make them a bad person they are just good People. It depends on what kind of hart they have.

April 4, 2008 7:44 PM
 

Andrea said:

Since God has been brought up several times I would like to remind all of you, as a very devout Christian, that it is NOT our place to judge! Fortunately that has been left up to God.

Who cares what this couple does? Who cares if Thomas is referred to as a man or woman? Yes they chose to make it public, but we can chose to ignore it. I will agree that no, it is not a miracle that this baby is being born in what had originally been a female body. And I don't necessarily agree with the life they have chosen to lead, but again, it's not my place to judge them.

I will say, regardless of what their sexual orientation may be, or has been in the past, they seem like to extremely loving people. That little girl is going to be so very loved. She is going to look at other little kids that are from abusive homes and be so grateful for the parents that tell her they love her every day.

Before you cast a stone.... remember you don't lead a life without sin either.

April 4, 2008 7:45 PM
 

Take god out- said:

If god was out of the picture then what would the problem be. Gays have babies every day. Get over it. Focus on yourself for awhile.

April 4, 2008 7:47 PM
 

anabel said:

omg live your own lifes and stop  complianing about these people.  just dont be jealsous of what you can or cant do. were a  humans. that what wrong with this world now if we dont have we gotta degraded anyone who has a better life then us. grow the hell up!

April 6, 2008 5:50 PM
 

GrowUpPeople said:

Grow the hell up!!

April 6, 2008 5:52 PM
 

Finbarr Smith said:

Once again I will say this is just so messed up.

God has nothing to do with this.

Thomas Beattie is a woman who thinks they are a man

She or should I say it will never be a man never.

No man would ever accept it/her into their circle of friends

The PC brigade has gotten too omnipotent

Jaysus In england you cant say mother and father to students in school in case the kids of gay parents fell bad.

Since when and just how can mother and father become a taboo word

F.U.B.A.R

if you ask me

normality is dead and gone.

A child is not a toy or an acquisition.

Beattie should have its kid taken away from him by social services and save the kid a lot of heartache

and then someone should give him a noose and let it do the decent thing

April 8, 2008 8:19 AM
 

chuk1 said:

You know what i feel sorry for that kid a lot of people are going to insult him.

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April 8, 2008 7:26 PM
 

Let's try paying attention to real issues in the world said:

I am entirely disappointed by the hatred expressed by many of these comments.  

A loving couple having a child in a nontradtional way is the "most disgusting thing you have ever read"?  When there is brutal war in the Sudan, hundreds of thousands dying in the Middle East?  And THIS news item is what you all find so outrageous?  

You are worried about the harsh words the baby will the faced with, but they will be hearing them from people like YOU, the hateful folks writing these posts.  Protect the child by not expressing such hate.

There are more important issues in the world than policing loving families.

Congratulations to the happy family!

PS. Matt for your spelling... retarted is spelled retarded.

April 9, 2008 10:18 AM
 

snags b. said:

why do we have to be so categorical?  man, woman, straight, gay - who cares?  love is love is love is love.  good article.

April 9, 2008 1:12 PM
 

Scarlett said:

I believe that this child will only have a problem at school if intolerant people continue to indoctrinate their own children in hate.

April 16, 2008 7:17 PM
 

Kim said:

"Thomas Beattie is a woman who thinks they are a man". The simple truth is, that he's born as man. Yes, it can happen - and that's part of the truth - that a man can be born with a vagina and uterus (it has to do with the sexual differentation in the seventh week of pregnancy). But to ignore the truth is blasphemy... think about it.

April 20, 2008 10:00 AM

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Hannah Tennant-Moore is a Brooklyn-based freelance writer whose work has appeared or is forthcoming in Best Buddhist Writing (2008); The Sun; Guantanamo: Inside the Prison, Outside the Law; Tricycle; Turning Wheel (as the winner of the Young Writers Award); and elsewhere.

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