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Co-Sleeping: Is 13 Too Old?

I'm admittedly anti-co-sleeping -- not because I think it's not cuddly and bond-forming, but because I usually wake up with a footprint on my forehead or an eye gouged out and lying on the pillow next to me. So whenever I hear about someone co-sleeping with a child, I immediately think: "sucker" and "Hope you have a good helmet!"

But when I read this Dear Abby about a dad who co-sleeps with his 13-year-old daughter, I immediately thought: "Well that's just bizarre. For both of them, really."

The letter goes that a woman dating "Jim" doesn't like the fact that Jim's daughter, Jenna, sleeps in dad's bed. (Jim is divorced and Jenna also co-sleeps at mom's house.)

It gets a little more bizarre actually. 

Jenna also shares her father's master bedroom and closet with him as if she were his wife. Please understand, this girl has a lavish bathroom of her own connected to a princess-style bedroom that contains everything a girl could ever wish for. 

But she prefers to shack up with dad, and dad is just fine with it. If you were Dear Abby, what would you tell him?


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Comments

 

mcglory13 said:

I was completely weirded out by Abby's response that it could be "stimulating." My guess is that the kid has taken the divorce hard and misses her dad. I don't have enough info to judge though, and I'm really not going to trust the version the wicked-step-mom-to-be tells. She sounds jealous of the kid and not at all impartial.

March 31, 2008 7:39 PM
 

mistress_scorpio said:

I disagree with the first poster. If you read the article, the parents have been divorced since the girl was 2. There is nothing appropriate about a 13 year old girl and her father regularly sharing a bed.

March 31, 2008 7:48 PM
 

BBBGMOM said:

Uh I think it's wrong.  Can't think of a reason why it would be "right" unless the girl is very developmentally challenged or terminally ill and needs constant physical closeness from a parent.  But that probably would've come up in the original letter so I just think it's a bad idea.  Odds are the kid already has her period.  She's almost a woman... it is weird.

March 31, 2008 7:57 PM
 

Treespeed said:

Sounds like a fake letter to me from a very sick and disturbed man. See this weeks Savage Love in The Stranger for more on spotting these sorts of letters.

March 31, 2008 10:34 PM
 

bookmama said:

Makes me wonder where the girlfriend is sleeping!

March 31, 2008 10:40 PM
 

Mike Adamick (Cry It Out!) said:

My thoughts exactly!

March 31, 2008 10:58 PM
 

Sam C said:

That's just wrong. I'm not sure how he works in the girlfriend but it's not right.

April 1, 2008 7:29 AM
 

Combermere said:

Sounds like a prank letter to me.

April 1, 2008 7:45 AM

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