I agree that the boomers are nuts, and have probably screwed up the world more than any other generation ever.  However, no one can take advantage of you without your permission.

If you don't like it, don't do it.  Let her have a tantrum.  You don't have to put up with that sort of behavior.  You really don't.

At least with a tantrum you can reply. Anyone else get the full ration of passive agressive guilt?

Treespeed...we should trade stories on May 12th...I'm still living with the passive aggressive guilt over a less than supreme Easter present.  Who knew that you were supposed to get the latest grandma something for Easter!?

I'm giving my mom and my mother-in-law framed photos of the baby...who can say anything bad about a picture of a baby?  Right?

Oh man! I thought I was the only one whose mother had tantrums over mother's day!!

I remember so clearly one mother's day when I was about 12 years old & my mother had gone on a trip to another city, but we were STILL somehow supposed to have done something for her, notwithstanding that she was NOT THERE. When she got home, she was in such a foul mood, she took down all the family photos in the house!

Now my father circulates warning e-mails about a week before the big day, just so that no-one forgets. He does this for her birthday too, because you dare not forget.

Ha ha! That is INCREDIBLY crappy!

I think I might have gotten out of it ... my wedding anniversary is the day after Mother's Day, and according to my midwife, I'll probably still be recovering from the birth of our first child.

So Mom and Grandma can ... suck it. For once.

Why I'm screwed this year: My wedding anniversary falls on Mother's day.

Why I was screwed on my wedding day six years ago: It was the day before Mother's Day and my mother said "How dare you schedule your wedding the day before Mother's Day?"

Yo. Cut me some slack, Ma...

I have never been so grateful that all my mother ever wants is for us to spend the day working on her garden with her.

I have never been so grateful that all my mother ever wants is for us to spend the day working on her garden with her.

Wow, I had no idea that some mom's were like that. My mom is ok with just getting together for a meal on Mother's Day. Gifts are optional.  Sometimes, depending on the financial situation, I bring her something like a hanging basket of flowers for her front porch.  My mom is one cool lady.  

So embarrassed.  First sentence should read:

I had no idea that some moms were like that.

I hate grammar and punctuation mistakes.  

Me Ma's dead. Count yer blessin's. Seriously though.

my mil pitches a fit every year if we do not do something around her, but her fits are full of passive aggressive drama.  it has really made it a non-holiday for the mama in me....

My Mother refuses to accept any gift as appropriate whether it be Mother's Day, Christmas or her birthday. It is always wrong somehow. Either the wrong size, color, something you simply HAD to know was not good for her, she already had it, or never wanted it. She nearly always returns or gives away every gift that is given to her. She will not accept gift certificates for anything as they are too personal. You are not allowed to take her out for a meal or do chores or make a meal for her at home. Basically nothing my brother or I do will satisfy her. Because of this I have come to hate all holidays that include gift giving.

Kate

Sorry, make that gift certificates are too not personal. Does anyone else have a Mother that makes all holidays suck?

Kate

Hmmmm.  I found this while looking for a site for other mothers who hate Mother's Day to commiserate with.  Unfortunately, there isn't one.  I really feel for those of you who have mother's who make you feel like you never measure up.  The advice here is good, but even the best advice is sometimes impossible to take.  I hate Mother's Day because that's when my adult children do manage to call.....after months and months of worrying and no word from them.  My oldest son suffers with bouts of depression.  I can always tell when he's depressed (yes, he sees a counselor and takes meds for it) because he does not call.  This makes me worry all the more.  My last call from my daughter, who's a freshman in college, was when she'd had a high fever for several days and was seeking medical advice.  She never bothered to return my calls seeking reassurance after that.  Yet on Mother's Day, I know I will hear from both, no matter what.  And I know that I will have to fake enthusiasm about their calls while they exonerate themselves, in their minds, from the realm of deadbeat children who never call Mom or call only when they want/need something.  After that magic Mother's Day call, they will be free to do exactly that for another year.

Don't think that this can't/won't happen to you someday because I've been a good Mom and my adult children would agree if you asked.  I also raised them to behave more considerately of others.  It's just that this stage of their lives is sooooooo self-absorbing that they just can't see their own behavior.  It will change someday and I hope I'm alive to see it.  Until then, Mother's Day just plain sucks.    

Quit complaining.  Be thankful for what you have.  You forget that there are many people in the world who lost their mothers as children and cannot have children of their own.  I am both of those.  Be thankful for what you have and be happy because one day you will wish differently.  Try to see the gift in what God has blessed you with.  Having a mother and being a mother are treasures that not everyone can experience.

Quit complaining? I have a mother who wishes I was never born and goes ballistic all the time. You can't have a relationship with someone like that because no matter what you do or say you are a worthless good for nothing be-atch. I have children who constantly fight with one another, destroy my home and demand everything on the spot. I agree on only one thing with my mother, I wish I was never born.  Happy Mother's Day for those who have moms who love them and children who care about you.  For the rest of us, we just pray to get life over with fast and die.

It's heartening to at least know I am not the only one with a heartless cold beast of a mother.  For her mother is only half a word. She is a verbally and mentally abusive woman to her own sisters and brothers, her children and husband who has perpetuated and nearly destroyed our family. A father who hid in the bottle rather than face her sober..and two emasculated sons who did the same.  I am grateful that I left home without any self esteem and slowly found some. Now at 48 my lovely mother who is still furious because I am the only one that she never could control. She issues edicts of conditional love "If you don't do this..I'll never speak to you" which sadly is a promise she never keeps because she continually verbally abuses all her children..and then tells us we should be grateful because "We were raised in a Christian home and were given everything" She has wished us dead..put us down" You're good for nothing, stupid, lazy, never make any thing of yourself..throws us away like garbage via and won't let our father speak to us..but that's also his problem as he's a coward and doesn't want to incur her wrath while he left his children to grow up verbally abused. My latest brow beating is because I refuse to come and mind her stupid dog while my parents go to europe.

She expects me to leave my husband and come and cook for her

dog (it doesn't get dog food) When I refused she sent me a hate letter damming me as selfish and disowning me( for the umpteenth time) but don't worry....she guilted my sister to fly down from Canada (without her husband) for one week and my brother for the other....so they will sit in a house in florida in july without being able to leave..to take care of a dog...crazy?? You bet.  I refused therefore I'm the evil child.

I AM grateful on mother's day for the women in my life that showed me what unconditional love and kindness and what love , family and friendship really are.  I am grateful for the love that they have given me to heal my heart. I am grateful for knowing that there are good mothers that love their children.  I hope that all women who have anger problems GET HELP so they don't perpetuate their anger and destroy lives.

So bless the good ones and if you ever want a knowledge of hell..come and see my child skating queen mother.

thanks peace!