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5 Mother's Day Do's and Don'ts

Only a fews days until Mother's Day and there's no time like the present to plan a gift that strikes just the right chord of sensitivity, uniqueness and sophistication. To get you steered in the right direction, here are 5 things not to buy for your girl, as well as 5 stylish alternatives:

1. Sappy Statuary - These are lovely sentimental gifts that grandma will cherish, but for today's modern mama messages such as "You Color My World with Love" are likely too cloying.

Alternative: Why not get her some woman-centric art made by a hip mama? Since taste in art is highly subjective, play it safe by buying her Indie Fixx's Art Print of the Month.

2. Keepsake Jewelry - Nothing wrong with jewelry, even jewelry that is commemorative of motherhood, but tread carefully and try and avoid jewelry that says "#1 Mom."  A misstep here and all of a sudden lead-filled resentment is coursing through her bloodstream.

Alternative: Try a more unique approach and buy something original and unusual like the necklaces they sell at Childish Boutique.

3. Inspirational Book -  A few clues.  If you buy a book in the card aisle that begins with "Dear Mom,  you gave me everything, you gave me life..." chances are this will hurt her teeth and make her cry (but not in a good way).

Alternative:  Have the kids make her a book with photos and handwritten captions, or order a snapbook from Shutterfly.  Even better still, how about the new book featured on Babble?

4. Embroidered Wall Art - Of course there's nothing wrong with embroidery crafts, even those expressing love with a small message in a petite wooden frame.  The key here is language.  If she's under 60, she most likely won't find these words resonant: "Mothers are angels sent to Earth."

Alternative: Instead of a statue collecting dust, why not give her  Mommy & Me wearable punk art? She'll be touched and stylin. Or, buy her some beautiful original art from a local artist, something pretty she can put in her office or over her bed.

5. Domestic Gear  - Here the key is how the gift is given. If your mama doesn't cook and isn't particularly domestic, giving her anything kitchen or cleaning or domestically related will be interpreted as an insult.  And even if she does enjoy preparing meals and entertaining, vacuum cleaners, or cleaning implements of any kind are generally a no-no.

 Alternative: If, however, she is a culinary powerhouse, pick out something she wouldn't buy herself, like a beautiful tea set, or a set of le creuset cooking pots.

On the other hand, many mothers are very easy to please.  

What is the best or worst gift you were ever given for Mother's Day? 

[Hat Tips: Droolicious and Cool Mom Picks

Edited to add: Clearly the subject of Mother's Day gifts makes some people very very angry.  Here's a suggestion: Why not take out some of that anger on all the horrid toys out there

 


Comments

 

BBBGMOM said:

Worst?  A size X-Small (I am typically a 10-12) schoolbus yellow tee shirt.  I can't wear yellow - My face becomes the definition of "sallow" when I wear that color.  Supposedly my first child (then not quite a year old) picked it for me.  Hm.  I gave the baby plenty of thank you kisses, and later - much later - that night informed my hubby that he might've facilitated the "choosing" of the gift a little more adeptly.  Things have been much better since.

May 4, 2008 7:49 PM
 

Doppelganger said:

For my very first Mother's Day, I got my best and worst gifts.  Best: cool hoodie with a "Mother" tattoo graphic on the back. Worst: a gummy candy the exact shape and size of a giant banana slug. My husband claims he picked out the latter to prepare me for the kinds of gifts I'm going to get once our boys are old enough to do their own shopping.

May 4, 2008 8:47 PM
 

LogicalMama said:

This is what I want:

www.youtube.com/watch

May 7, 2008 11:35 PM
 

Manjari said:

LogicalMama - that's too funny!

May 8, 2008 6:47 AM
 

Kris said:

I nearly choked when I saw Le Creuset pot set on the list. When did Mother's Day become a $400 holiday?  I'd love that set, but I'd bean DH over the head with it if he spent $400 without consulting me.

May 8, 2008 1:54 PM
 

Diane said:

An air-pop popcorn maker.  Okay...EW! 1. an appliance  2. something that I never even HINTED that I would want or like  and 3. a subtle hint?

May 9, 2008 10:56 AM
 

Bryan said:

While situations like Darfur and Myanmar are currently happening around the world. I have to read articles like this on Yahoo's homepage.  I could've respected your article if you listed donating to "Mom's favorite cause" or "Give a donation in honor of your Mother."

My mother taught me about helping others and giving of my time to the world.  Not buying useless toys or worthless trinkets on a day that is meant to honor the things your mother taught you, not disgrace her by giving her something that could just as well be thrown away in 6 months.

Rachel, if you have dreams of being a "real" writer focus on trying to get the best out of your readers, not contribute to the fluff that fills our airways, local media and now Yahoo/MSN/etc homepages.  Lead your children by example!

Bryan,

"A father who is disappointed in how we show appreciation to our Mother's, wives and grandmother's!"

May 9, 2008 11:02 AM
 

Suzzie said:

I think all you MOTHERS are a little self centered. ANYTHING iI get is a great gift. You Should be glad to at least get something and to know that  you are thought about. What happen to the thought is great!!!!!!!!

May 9, 2008 11:06 AM
 

Ken B said:

Are you kidding - I am a man with 5 mother-like people to purchase for - Son's mom (ex), Girlfriend, Mother, Step mother, Sister - lets see - that would be $400 tea set multiplied by 5 hmmm.  So this Hallmark card inspired holiday designed purely as a business stimulus should run me 6 car payments?  I would rather spend my meager dollars on my son's care.  Not to be a snot here, but come on.  

May 9, 2008 11:08 AM
 

Dixie said:

lol, I told family (7 kids and hubby) that if you all get me any cleanin, cookin, or sappy stuff, it will make it to the garbage can,,so they safe with art supplies or craft stuff,

May 9, 2008 11:11 AM
 

Theresa said:

My son was born on Mother's day, so every year I share that weekend with a birthday party with many children doing children like things.  That is a good mother's day to me, the day with my son.  He is writing me a story, complete with pictures for a gift.  I love how well he writes for his age and am very happy that's what I'm getting.  My husband?  Helping me with the party and house stuff for the weekend and saying happy mothers day is enough.  If there is something I've been wanting for awhile but won't spend on myself, sometimes he'll use the holiday as an excuse because he knows I'd get upset with him wasting money on it randomly but I can't get upset on mothers day.

May 9, 2008 11:19 AM
 

Bobby said:

my mom gets a card and thats it if shes not happy to bad, when did the amount of a gift=love?

In a time when people cant even afford gas or pay their bills on time that last thing we need in life is another excuse to spend money we dont have!!!! If u wanna get mom something try paying one of her bills

May 9, 2008 11:21 AM
 

Jackie said:

Mother's Day started out as it should have; to honor our mothers. Only after its creation did the commercialization of it run rampant. As far as the donation in the name of your mother--LAME GIFT!! Actually, not even a gift. Donate if you want, but your mother should still get something from you that is personal. It doesn't have to be expensive. I'm totally with the woman who said she freak if her husband spent $400 without consulting her. The gift should be something you know she'll love. You should know these things.

May 9, 2008 11:21 AM
 

best gift getter said:

The best gifts I get are the ones they make for me. I personally love opening a card that opens the wrong way and is signed with a first and last name :) I don't care what they get for me it's always cute. I love it.

May 9, 2008 11:22 AM
 

Adrienne said:

My favorite Mother's Day present are flowers...enjoy them for a week or so (if you're lucky) and then throw the dang things out!  My worst Mother's Day present is:  anything else, cuz no one gets it.  It's either not right, or they ask what I want and then I just feel like I'm having someone else do my shopping for me, which isn't all bad I guess.  

I'm with Ken B though, Mother's Day should be a remembrance, not a shop-a-thon!

May 9, 2008 11:25 AM
 

G-daddy said:

How about a t-shirt with june cleaver and the quote "I belong in the kitchen"?

May 9, 2008 11:27 AM
 

Jerry said:

My Mom is in heaven, but I remember when I was young anything I came home with was just like it came from Tiffanys. Just like According to Jim, Young Kyle gave Jim a stick. He liked that more than anything store bought he received. Just honor your Mom with your "being there". Once when I was an adult, I gave her 5 things I could do for her. Her Husband was one of those guys that that could not use a screwdriver. She used everyone. Be thankful you have a Mommie and Mommie do not complain about anything unless it is an appliance or a regift  If it is a regift, give it back to as a birthday present!! Like stated earlier, a new Coffee pot is okay. Happy Mothers day Mom....I know you watch out for me. I love you.

May 9, 2008 11:34 AM
 

Megan P said:

Geez, these are just fun ideas, I know my husband and son won't spend $400 or even $20 but some people go all out becasue they can.  This artical is just for fun and I think it is cute.

May 9, 2008 11:35 AM
 

Lolie said:

I cant believe you guys are all about getting this or that, or even the comment about it making it to a garbage can.  I am a 27yr old mother of a 3yr old, I dont care to even get a gift.  You women need to realize your family and children are gifts enough.  Atleaste they are there, misbehaven or good children, eighter way its better then any gift or not having them at all.  I am ashamed of you all and your shallow and selfishness!  In all reality, we should be celebrating our children, if it wasnt for them we wouldnt be mothers!

May 9, 2008 11:35 AM
 

Rachael Brownell (Redsy) said:

For heavensakes people, these are JOKES JOKES JOKES

remember HUMOR??  LEVITY?

May 9, 2008 11:38 AM
 

Scott Bacon said:

OK, so if you really care about your mom... you should give her a french horn.  I think it would be much better than any tech gadget out there, and it has nothing to do with house chores.  Seriously, while everyone is away, the mom can play.

Why not?  

May 9, 2008 11:40 AM
 

Sue said:

Every year on Mother's Day, my husband watches the kids for a couple hours so I can go out and have some peaceful me time, then when I get home we make dinner together, my kids make something crafty and we all go for a walk together.  It costs nothing and means everything.  If they did buy me a little something, I would love it because they thought of me...but anything over $20 for Mother's Day is rediculous.  A mother just wants to know she is loved and appreciated and big gifts don't do either.

May 9, 2008 11:43 AM
 

onebludragonfly said:

Honestly, I'd rather not receive a gift. With the exception of my favorite flowers. They're always appreciated and can be tossed when their life expectancy is over.

Other suggestions: Take her out to my favorite (really nice) restaurant. My favorite: Treat her to entire day to do whatever she wants on the day she chooses (not on Mother's Day) and kids stay home and clean the house while she's gone. :) Have the whole family go out to have some fun such as an amusement park, ball game, or whatever is HER choice. All the other stuff, whether liked or not, ends up in a box in the closet/garage and eventually regifted or sold in a garage sale.

Worse gift I've ever received: My father suggested he and my brother come over to my house for dinner (as in I cook it for them). :{ My brother had nothing to do with that suggestion. And father wonders why I don't speak to him anymore. lol

May 9, 2008 11:49 AM
 

rb said:

Hi,

 I got my mom a perculator(sp?) for Mother's day and a card and I think that's enough.  Those things give the best homemade coffee I've ever had in my life.  I think gifts are good.  They should reflect the idea that they should be fun and within your budget without being cheap.  

That's my opinion.  Get something that will last and make that statement:"I want the best for you."  

rb

May 9, 2008 11:53 AM
 

james said:

keep in mind women are crazy, so whatever you give will not be appreciated and probably returned , so don't sweat it

May 9, 2008 11:53 AM
 

Mike Adamick (Cry It Out!) said:

Moms should only get hand-written notes of love and appreciation in ink formed from rainbows and kisses. But for father's day, I want an iphone. And other stuff.

May 9, 2008 11:53 AM
 

Julaine Schexnayder said:

Last year because I was planning a vacation to Europe, my children gave me guide books, a language translation book and a big laminated map of the area we'd be visiting...Oh yes, and a airplane pillow, blanket and booties.  I was then well prepared for my trip and I'd have memories of them while I was away.  Great ides, don't you think?

May 9, 2008 11:55 AM
 

Nina said:

WORST: For my second Mother's Day, I got cash with a little note that said "We didn't know what to get you so now you can buy something you like." For the rest of the day, when anyone asked me what I got for Mother's Day, I burst into tears.

BEST: On the first Mother's Day after the divorce (snicker), my Little Guy made me a book that his teacher helped him bind and on each page was a story about something that was my favorite. It's awesome.

May 9, 2008 11:55 AM
 

Sierra said:

My son will be 2 in June and all I want for mothers day is for my husband to make me feel like i am appreciated! I told him there are 2 days a year I take off (i don't cook, clean, do laundry or anything) mothers day and my birthday! So I'll be happy if he even makes an attempt to let me relax and enjoy the day!

May 9, 2008 11:59 AM
 

Ebony said:

A day of no cooking or cleaning, snuggled up with my hubby and son, just relaxing

May 9, 2008 11:59 AM
 

weedy said:

Hey,..my husband is the KING of bad gifts, if I get one at all. lol. "Here's that knife set I'VE ALWAYS WANTED, Honey"

My Mother's Day present is all the cute cards from my kids and NOT having to go shooting with him.

AND ITS THE BEST PRESENT EVER!!!!!!

May 9, 2008 12:03 PM
 

Libby Medina said:

The two best presents I ever received were 1.  A plate with my child's art work on it 2.  A shadow profile of my other child.  The plate is still on my wall--the child is 30.  The profile shadow was framed and keep for 15 years until it faded and fell apart.  

I don't want my children to spend a lot of money--they have bills to pay! (I'd hate it if they went bankrupt or did without what they or the grandchildren needed to buy an uneeded expensive present).  I want to spend time with my children and grandchildren.  I prefer happy memories of time spent together and photos.

May 9, 2008 12:04 PM
 

Lyds said:

How about instead of complaing about the holiday and not being appreciated relize you don't do it for the appreciation, you do it because it's your family and you love them. Last year I didn't get a thing for mothers day, my husband power washed his mothers house and bought her barstools while I sat around not being recognized. But hey, that's not what it's about for me. I know that when I get home after working all day that I have to cook dinner and clean up after everyone and no one takes notice. It's just a part of life, if my kids make me something or just tell me they love me anytime not just on Mothers Day it makes me happy. Even tho my mother is older I still will make her gifts, because it's not the gift, it's letting her know how much I love her and know how much she has done for me in my life. That should be done all year long because you never know what tomorrow brings & if mothers were paid for all the work they do it would bring men to shame.

May 9, 2008 12:05 PM
 

Keda T said:

The most important gift of all is simply spending quality time with your family.

May 9, 2008 12:07 PM
 

Matthew said:

Via the Yahoo posted story, you told us not to purchase a $600 Dyson for Mom as we are in a recession.  Wrong, there was growth last quarter.  More gloom and doom from the 'media'.  

May 9, 2008 12:09 PM
 

Sonia said:

My favorite mothers day present? Having the husband take care of the four kids while I spend the day with my own mother (and best friend) going to the museum, movies, dinner etc (using his credit card of course!)  

May 9, 2008 12:12 PM
 

Mara said:

Well, I'm a nine year old girl and this year my Mom is getting a Chiwawaa painting I made and a story to go along with it, I thought she'd love ti but after what all this says I'm thinking a little differently.....

May 9, 2008 12:13 PM
 

TigerGulp said:

I don't really have a bad/good gift as I want the same thing every year and also on my birthday: BOOKS! Lots and lots of books! :D

May 9, 2008 12:14 PM
 

Kym said:

I know for me the best gift I get on Mother's day is time spent with my children and husband. I love the silly cards the kids make, I keep them all and see how each year their spelling gets a little better and pictures get more dimensional. I love the things they make me at school and have them hanging on the fridge or in the window sills. In this crazy busy life for me its just spending time with them that means the most.

Ofcoarse day off from cooking is wonderful too!

Happy Mother's Day!

May 9, 2008 12:14 PM
 

jilldapill said:

The best gift I've received (so far) is a card from a friend with a photo of a mother giraffe nuzzling her baby.  Inside it says, "You're such a good mom."  This from the friend who mentored me by helping me open up to and embrace my nurturing abilities when I became a mom.

My 16 y/o son is disabled (developmentally) and I am up to my elbows in poop (OK, I exagerate, maybe just my fingertips) more days than not.  There is no one to cheer me on, and that's not why I do it.

So when someone takes the opportunity of this day to acknowledge that my job is hard and they admire me for hanging in there, it is meaningful.  What I hear in a lot of these posts is that mothers want to be acknowledged and loved.

Now is that so hard?  ;-)

May 9, 2008 12:15 PM
 

RCS said:

My best Mother's Days are the days when my girls make an effort not to fight with each other. I love it when we play games, go for bike rides or plant something out in the yard. They let me have the first turn or let me choose what path to take. They make the day about me and it's nice because they recognize what it's all about. They started doing this when they were about 6 and 7 and I still haven't tired of this gift...A beautiful day together. Once they wrote me poems about what they thought it would be like to be a mom. I laughed, I cried. It was great! In my opinion, it truly is the thought that counts!

May 9, 2008 12:19 PM
 

warrior mom said:

Hello people taking this so seriously. This was intended to be light hearted! No one hear sounds ungrateful or unappreciative, its merely a supposed safe forum for similar experiences to be shared...dont burst anyone's bubble and make them feel bad for all the work they do as a mother, woman, partner, daughter etc...for god's sake, lighten up! I hear you momma's and I would also like a day off. I dont need any half hearted piece of crap from my hubby or kids, the day to day things are the best and that is what make beign a mother amazing! The smiles, the need for hugs, the new discovery, the creation. Don't judge you naysayers! Momma's please vent as needed. I applaud u as a parent and woman. Sisterhood amongst us is more important then negative influences. Happy Mother's Day! The world is nothing without you!  

May 9, 2008 12:22 PM
 

Jennifer from Dallas said:

I do not care what my husband and kids get me. I am not into fancy gifts and all the must haves that the society makes us think we need or want. I want my family to feel appreciated no matter what the gift is, if anything. The economy is real bad right now, and as a business owner, I have other things to worry about then gifts for a day that really has no meaning. I am a mother 365 days a year, and my kids and husband shower me with stuff all year, so Mother's Day in my opinion is just another day with the family. I will be happy with anything; because in all reality nothing can replace the love my family has for me.

May 9, 2008 12:23 PM
 

warrios mon said:

Jilldapill...you are amazing! I honor you and the love you have for your son. I have worked with developmentally disabled kids and its very hard work, and I only do it for a few hours a week! Your son is blessed to have you! Enjoy your day!

May 9, 2008 12:25 PM
 

Monica said:

What's with all the negative comments? Let it go! This is supposed to be a place we are able to give sarcastic and funny comments without being reprimanded. We're all having fun here!

May 9, 2008 12:25 PM
 

Annie said:

I love whatever I get for Mother's Day from my kids and no one is "obligated" to get me anything.  I don't even care if I get anything, period.  I'm just happy to go to Church, eat lunch with our family and go home for a relaxing Sunday with my husband and kids.  The day is not about a tangible "gift".  It's about the gift that God gave us, which is being a Mother.

May 9, 2008 12:26 PM
 

helen d. said:

i did not rec'v any md gifts until my sons were a least 4&7 yo. dad said i was not his mom so i did not get anything until the boys were old enough to get or make of gifts their own. one of my boys is now in kuwait and the other in tx. just knowing they are safe,they love me is plenty enough....dad? got rid of him yrs ago. i have told all my children(5) only that they tell me they love of their own accord with a hug and kis is all i want. who could ask for anything more. again..without our kids we would not be moms..right?

May 9, 2008 12:27 PM
 

JESS said:

I have a 4 and a 1 1/2 year old and i have gotten nothing ever!!! My husband does like to stay in bed so i can get up with the kids. "because aren't you supposed to spend time with your kids on mothers day?" (I'm a stay at home mom) The answer is yes, but I want to at least sleep until 9:00......

May 9, 2008 12:37 PM
 

LA Steve said:

Yeah, let's skip all that trivial candy and flowers, and instead, make the world a better place.  Give her an orphan from Darfur.

May 9, 2008 12:40 PM
 

Scott said:

I don't pretend to be the best husband or father around. I don't have a lot of money to spend to start with. My wife is a stay at home mom of 2, 5 yo and 19 months, who knows I love her. I tell her everyday.

Mother's day, I cook her lunch...or attempt to. Restaurants are extremely crowded, long long waits, and with 2 kids...it gets old fast....

After lunch we pile into the care and go Strawberry picking. The kids love it and we spend quality time together as a family. We then go for ice cream.

It turns out to be a nice relaxing day together.

May 9, 2008 12:44 PM
 

Julie Zimmerman said:

I am an adoptive mom and a foster mom - so, I tend to stay in the shallow end for my little gang all have birth moms as well as me their second mom this year, we are celebrating 'all the moms'- because my children (or temporary children) do love their moms and miss them.

- this year is a bit tough for me for my mom passed away on February 12th of this year and I am missing her very much. Here's to us - I love it when my significant other gives me vacumn cleaners and household stuff for God Knows I need them and often I don't have a ton of xtra cash to buy them myself.

May 9, 2008 12:47 PM
 

Charlette Bratcher said:

The worst Mother's Day gift I got was an iron.  Needless to say, my sons learned a lot from that mistake.  None of us will ever forget it

May 9, 2008 12:49 PM
 

Lia C. said:

Mother's Day is even more blessed with the arrival of 3 grandchildren - miracle gifts from God, my daughter, and the Fertility Center.  What more could I ask for than these little arms around my neck???

May 9, 2008 12:49 PM
 

Patty said:

When my kids were small i thought the the homemade gifts were the best. I love my macaronie necklis. The best thing iget from them now is when they say" I love you mom, Happy mothers day" I just love hearing the words " I love you mom".There were the teenage years i would have givin anything to heat those words.Now that they are adults I get them in abundince.

May 9, 2008 12:55 PM
 

katherine said:

All I want is a clean house ( not cleanned by me) and a Sunday drive to the beach ( not that much on gas I'm only 2  miles). Instead my daughters working all day (17) and I'll be stuck cleanning the house, weeding and planting the garden, cooking dinner and mucking stalls. We live on a sustanable farm ( sheep, pigs, cows, llamas, chickens and turkeys )but just once I would like a day off!!!

May 9, 2008 12:57 PM
 

Mom101 said:

Hilarious Rachael. I love the picks and anti-picks and the great range of prices. I think we'd all be happy to get anything from a handmade card to a diamond necklace from Childish if it's chosen and presented with love.

I also fear there are a lot of Hummel lovers on this thread who took a wrong turn on the way to the Good Housekeeping Mother's Day Gift List.

May 9, 2008 12:59 PM
 

Teresa said:

Last night when I came home from work, my 5-year-old daughter had "decorated" the house with Christmas curling ribbon and bows hanging from the ceiling fan and various other places. When I entered the house, she opened her jewelry box and let the music play. It was all her idea. I thought it was the best mothers day present so far!

May 9, 2008 12:59 PM
 

MommaLia said:

Mom's are celebrated on Mother's Day because they are sooooo taken for granted every other day!  It is the over-enthusiastic applause we give for someone we depend on, but suspect we have neglected for too long.  If you don't get any other recognition during the year, stand up for yourself and your day!  Getting no recognition is the ABSOLUTE WORST.

Our family celebrates Sabbath every week which kicks off with a time for everyone to show each other gratitude for all they have done that week.  It is great to hear my son thank me for the homemade spaghetti and meatballs he loved for dinner Tuesday!  On Mother's and Father's day its all about experiences:  alone time/down time for me and camping/BBQing/hiking together time for Dad.  Plus Mother's and Father's day is a whole weekend event.  Its Friday, but I have to get ready for my massage and matinee my husband surprised me with last night.  For father's day were going tent camping for three days.

May 9, 2008 1:00 PM
 

Patty said:

I just rememberd a gift my ex hubby gave me for christmas.

This will make you roll. He gave me a vaccume for christmas then he wraped the bags in a box to make me feel like i am getting somthing wonderful. The best part was we didnt have any carpets for me to use it on.

May 9, 2008 1:03 PM
 

Siouxiecue said:

I love this article! I laughed so hard! My husband is terrible about giving gifts! A few years ago we were at a store and my husband asked if I wanted an ice cream maker. I said "Not really. You know, I'm not a fan of ice cream." Two weeks later, I opened a box containing that same ice cream maker. I was about to get upset but the look on his face showed such excitement, I let it go and smiled and said thank you. I still have that ice cream maker, in the attic. His best gift was a trip to the zoo and picnic with the kids! The gifts that my kids get/make for me I absolutely cherish. Even the rings that turn your fingers green. I wear it on a chain around my neck! His worse gift by the way was a pair of earrings that were the same pair he got his mother, but smaller.

May 9, 2008 1:03 PM
 

you people are wacked out said:

to ever say you got a bad gift shows how materialistic you are,a nd if i ever found out i gave someone a gift and they called it the worst gift ever i would never get them another one, ever, so mom im checking the history and if your on here that BMW is going back to the dealer

May 9, 2008 1:04 PM
 

Mimi said:

My DH "surprised" last night with an early Mom's Day gift, a bonsai tree and a stand that he and DD made. The stand is wonderful and I love it! However, you should know that my thumb is anything but green! It kind of hurt my feelings because I felt like it wasn't really something "for me." When I mentioned that it would probably die within 24 hours he said "Don't worry I will take care of it for you." So...he bought it for himself?

May 9, 2008 1:05 PM
 

Christy said:

I love the little projects the kids bring home from school. It's the time and love they spent making it for me that makes me feel special.

May 9, 2008 1:05 PM
 

Kari said:

I got a tool set. I hated it at first but it is the gift I use the most now. That sounded Redneck, I know....but I always need a screwdriver for the packaging and battery compartments on my son's toys.

May 9, 2008 1:10 PM
 

LP said:

I have 3 girls at home; 9, 12 and 17.  The only thing I want is a day where they get along, be polite and do what is asked of them the first time (not the 4th).  My husband is wonderful...he does all the cooking anyway so that's not an issue.

Oh...and for the first time I asked for something.  A Roomba...the robot vaccuum  The funny thing is that my husband asked me where he could get one :)

May 9, 2008 1:12 PM
 

judy said:

I love the idea of going and paying a bill for mom. In times like this, peace of mind about something is priceless.

May 9, 2008 1:12 PM
 

Pak said:

I have 4 siblings: both older and younger.  Growing up, my mom used to take pictures of us around our house, but then the camera broke and we couldn't afford another one, so that was the end of our picture album (you can see the little me at 3 and then nothing at all after that until I was 10).  One year, my dad decided that we should at least have a family picture album for us to look back to it.  So we all went took pictures together and made an album.  We gave it to mom on Mother's Day.  My mom looked at the album as if she never wanted to let go of it.  Once in a while I saw her take it out and look at each picture as if she was remembering the moment.  It was wonderful, not only to her, but to us as well.

May 9, 2008 1:17 PM
 

RH said:

I can't believe how serious some people are taking this article. If your mother would like for her mothers day gift to be that you donate to her favorite charity, that's great, that is what she likes. If you are OK with WHATEVER some one gets you, that's fine too!! I think the article was meant to be for some laid back, enjoyable reading that some have just taken WAY TOO SERIOUSLY!!

Furthermore, if people do have certain things they like as a gift, who are you to say that they shouldn't desire that. Each person has desires but not everyone desires the same things. I wouldn't dare tell you to like a particular thing. Each person is entitled to like or dislike and buy or not what they want to buy. LIGHTEN UP!!!

May 9, 2008 1:19 PM
 

Naia said:

Mara, your idea for a gift is a wonderful idea as it is something that comes from your heart. You are thinking of your mom and doing without having to spend any money.

As for a gift for mother's day I would just love to hear "I love you mom" from my boys who I have not been able to see. I hear it all the time from my husband and get the great smiles and kisses from my 5 month old but it still aches to not hear if from my 8 & 10 yr olds.

Keep smiling all mom's and remember they love you even when they don't say or show it.

May 9, 2008 1:20 PM
 

Suzanne said:

All that I ask is to not have to cook for anyone and, as an extra added bonus, to perhaps have my husband and kids clean the house.  Now, I know that second one won't ever happen in my lifetime....but it's a dream. ;) Anyone who spends hundreds of dollars on a mother's day gift is out of their bloody minds.  Just do something thoughtful for your mom.

May 9, 2008 1:22 PM
 

Sandra said:

My worst was a couple of years ago when I spent it without my son.  He was on his first deployment to Iraq and it was also my first Mother's Day after my mother passed away.  I got perfume and roses from my husband but nothing material could ever replace the emptiness I felt without my mom and my son.

This year will be my best.  My son just got back from his second deployment to Iraq.  He mentioned he has already gotten me three gifts and we have a Mother-Son date to go to the movies Sunday afternoon.  I don't even care about the gifts.  My gift is to have him back home safe and on post-deployment leave.

May 9, 2008 1:25 PM
 

tina said:

i think the best mother's day gift is the one that are home made. home made gifts seem the have the most meaning.  

May 9, 2008 1:26 PM
 

Kim said:

This will be my daughter's first Mother's Day.  She placed her son for adoption, so I plan to do something really special for her.  You see, not only is this her Mother's day, but because of her; another woman gets to have a Mother's day! :-)

May 9, 2008 1:30 PM
 

Cynthia said:

A good laugh is really what most mother's need on Mother's Day.  My kids remined me just last week, as I looked at diamond jewelry on display, that I had said I would kill Dad if he spent that much money for something like that.  They were right.  I am a very down to earth person (although the Laura Ingles PJ's WOULD be a little much)  and just love to get cards, flowers, taken to dinner, or the best, CLEANING THE HOUSE for Mother's Day.  Family is what it is really all about.

May 9, 2008 1:33 PM
 

Jen said:

To Mara, sweetie, your mom will LOVE the picture you made for her! Don't feel bad about giving it to her!!! These people don't know what they are talking about. If you took time to make something for her, she will know that you care and you wanted to do something special. Give it to her with pride and don't let these people make you think any different!

May 9, 2008 1:33 PM
 

poochie said:

the best mother day present i ever had was last year when all my children got together and made a family dinner and sat a joke and watch old comdies movies and talked about different events that happen when they were kids.when the family comes together with love and joy.

May 9, 2008 1:40 PM
 

Kay said:

My worst gift ever was from my soon to be ex ... he and his new girlfriend (my ex- best friend)wanted my son to chose whether he wanted to spend the day with me or spend the day with him and his girlfriend's kid at Disneyland.  My son was 8 yrs old at the time.  The day I had planned for him and myself was a drive along Pacific Coast Hwy, lunch on the beach and a circus.  What kid do you know would turn down Disneyland over The Circus?  I was furious that my ex put our son in such a spot where he had to make that kind of choice.  I could see in his eyes that he really wanted to go to Disneyland but he felt his obligation was to me.  He chose to spend the day with me but I could tell he would have rather been at Disney.  My son is 22 yrs old now, serving in the military and sends me flowers, calls me every Mother's Day ... and we discuss the circus!  :)

May 9, 2008 1:43 PM
 

Tara said:

I haven't received a mother's day gift yet, but honestly, I'd much rather have a homemade gift.  That goes for most all holidays,  I mean really, its more personal, if its a card, its something thats actually worth keeping, its straight from the heart, and always fun to keep and look at years later.   My mother always kept the stuff my sister and I made, and still looks at them from time to time.  Anyways, its always wrong to be expecting a gift or to be upset/angry because ya didnt get what you wanted.  OH, and Rachael Brownell, are you sure they are just jokes? Sure doesn't look like it. Maybe your just trying to cover yourself because your article didn't go over so well.   By all means promote greediness.

May 9, 2008 1:43 PM
 

Jessica said:

When I was a kid, Dad always sent Mom flowers with our names written in the card. (Not exactly my choice though) After I got married, hubby and I have sent her a teacup and saucer bouquet! Mom collects teacups so it allows her to enjoy the flowers, then add the new set to her collection. She can tell you who bought which ones, year, and occasion! But honestly, Mom is just thankful that all of her kids live close enough to go to church and have lunch with her on Mothers' Day!!!

May 9, 2008 1:48 PM
 

Jessica said:

This is my second mothers' Day. Since my daughter is only 2, a hug and kiss from her means the world to me!!!!!

May 9, 2008 1:50 PM
 

Just "MOM" said:

My son has started working for me in my business and can cover for me from time to time.  This year he announced that he is going to cover for me so I can have Mother's day off (I work every Sunday).  Even more special since it is Prom that night and he will be coming strait to work at 6 AM after dropping his girlfriend off at home.

May 9, 2008 1:51 PM
 

ac said:

This Mother's day my adult siblings and I are all pitching in to send Mom to a local spa for some concentrated "me" time.  We know it's something she would never do for herself and that my Father would not willingly spend money on because he thinks its frivilous.  But we all think the woman who raised us, cooked umpteen million dinners, drove us to school, sports and music practices, and fed our pets when we forgot to, deserves some special pampering.  We may even make it an annual event.  She's Mom and she's worth it.

May 9, 2008 1:55 PM
 

Chrissy said:

My kids are young (3 and 2) so they don't know it's Mother's Day. I am just hoping that my husband tells me "Happy Mother's Day" and has the kids do the same before somebody reminds him. If they buy me a present that's nice, too, but I just want some hang out time with the family.

May 9, 2008 2:01 PM
 

Girly08 said:

This would be my first mothers day & I went shopping for my husbands family, hehe, which was fun if not a little strange but he's busy at work so I don't mind. I sort of bungled it according to some of the articles I've been reading. I got mother-in-law the wrong thing I think but you know, when I was growing up we never even celebrated mothers day so this is all new to me. My husbands family would hold a grudge for months if they didn't get something... really, anything at all. So I guess it isn't about what you get as long as you just do it, lol.

As for me? There's nothing I want for mothers day. I'm 23 for goodness sake, and my little boy doesn't know how to say "mom" yet... Just talking about it makes me feel old, ya know? :)

May 9, 2008 2:01 PM
 

Tammy said:

This is the dumbest thing I have ever seen. Is this all we have to talk about?? My mother knows I love and appreciate her because I tell her. I am there for her and I take care of her the way she cared for me. If you really want to give your mom a gift that will honor her then give her your time, love and respect. Include her in your adult life the way she did you. I find it interesting that Rachael listed specific companies and products. Is she getting a kick back for the advertising??? This is no longer a day to honor our moms. It is turning into Valentines day. Just another commercial adventure for vendors to make money and we fall for it.

May 9, 2008 2:04 PM
 

DragonMom said:

I have 2 kids, one was adopted by another couple at birth and is now 19, the other I have and is now 5. The best Mother's day gifts I've gotten were a card from the adopted parents thanking me for sharing my daughter with them, and a home made picture frame from my son with our picture in it.

May 9, 2008 2:06 PM
 

Stacy said:

The best gift my Husband and kids give me is the Weekend off. They clean the house, do the yard work, and do laundry while I lay around and rest and go see my mother. To me Mother's Day should be about showing your mom that you love her and apprecate everthing she has done for you. Making sure your ok at night, kissing your booboos, helping you though you first break up, teaching you to drive, picking up when you fall. All the other thing that only a mom does for you that you really don't think about. My husband didn't realize what it was like to be a mom till I told him that I wanted the weekend off for Mother's day. Now he realizes what is to be a MOM. His words to me after the first day was I don't know how you do this everyday and work a full time jobs too. Now he realy apprecates me more and everything I do for the kids and him. I didn't really understand Mother's Day till I became one too.

May 9, 2008 2:09 PM
 

Karen said:

Mother's Day was started to honor the mothers who worked promoting peace.  I'm not sure what Hallmark cards or ANY gifts to mothers in general have to do with the original point of the day any more.  I've always thought that setting aside a day for obligatory pseudo-celebratory maneuvers was just weird.  Please don't honor me with fakery; I'm honored as a mother every day of the year simply by being one.

P.S. Rachael:  funny list!

May 9, 2008 2:21 PM
 

Jackie said:

I will be getting my mother nothing. She is not a good mother and does not deserve anything but a phone call.

Plus, I am a mother of 3.

The ideas....they are ok. All I want is quality time with my family.

I do not care about getting presents.

Also, in regards to the hurricanes that have happened.....we are sending help and they are turning it away. How can you help someone who is not willing to accept the help?

And it is very wrong of you to make people feel bad because they may want something on this day. You do not live in there shoes. You do not know how their days work out. They may be a fulltime working mom...not by choice...with 3-4 kids, not getting any time to relax. So on mother's day, you get that women a gift card and appt. to a pampering spa treatment.

The mom who is a baker.....get the baking needs.

HELLO?

When I get lotion I do not think I stink!!!!

May 9, 2008 2:23 PM
 

GoodGrief! said:

The thing about Mother's Day is... Women work their behinds off, every day.  Most women have to keep the house reasonably sanitary, provide for the needs of people who can't yet provide for themselves, see to it that there is money for luxuries like food, rent, and medical care, and perform minor functions like still getting up and going to work each day because one income can't provide basic necessities, let alone spare cash.  Regardless of how "egalitarian" a marriage or relationship is, it is still the female -- the woman, the mother -- who ensures the stability of the family.  And it's taken for granted that she will do this.

Newsflash... Women are human.  They like pretty things, whether those things be a hug from a chocolate-covered child, a sh*t-eating grin from an embarrassed s/o who says "Love you, sweety cause you had our kids", to a spa getaway or a fancy appliance, to a donation made to their favourite charity in their name, or to information on how to "adopt" a child in this country or a foreign one, and contribute to that child's welfare.

Women also like to spit coffee on the monitor as they giggle over posts about Bests and Worsts, as they read sarcastic comments from clueless, selfish, and defensive men, and as they daydream about what they could buy/accomplish "if".  They also love to read things like the post from the nine year old who apparently took some time and effort to come up with something really nice for mom, and they love to read about mothers in less-than-perfect situations who keep hanging in there.

You know what Mother's Day is really about?  It's about love.

So show it, to your mother, to the mother of your neices and nephews, to the mother of your children, and to EACH OTHER!

Happy Mother's Day!

May 9, 2008 2:24 PM
 

Jilliane said:

I have 4 sons, now grown, and I have lots of "best" Mother's Day gifts that they have given me over the years.  Every year there is one, in some form or another, that is the best.  When they were small, it was the things they made in school and brought home for me.  When they were a bit older, it was the homemade breakfasts in bed, or the day's when they all tried to get along and give me a peaceful day.  Since they've grown up and moved on, the gifts have changed...a couple years ago it was the card from one son in particular, the one that had been rather a handful in his growing up years, the one who required just a little more patience, understanding, discipline, and everything more than the other three, and the one that I was sure never listened to a thing I tried telling him.  The card said "Home is where the fridge is full, the washing machine is free, and the best Mom in the world is." It's got a picture of a house with a red heart next to the front door, and I still have it pinned up over my desk where I can see it everyday, and it is one of the things that I treasure.  As mothers, it's our goal and need to provide a place, a home, where our children feel safe, wanted, cared for and loved.  This card from this child in particular, as he's not the most demonstrative, means so much to me because it tells me all the things he doesn't always say.  Home is a place he can count on, that he appreciates all I've done for him, and yeah, he thinks I'm the best Mom in the world.  

This year, I received my Mother's Day gift early.  In March my youngest son arrived back home safe and sound after his 3rd deployment to Iraq.  The other two times he had been aboard ship, and although I worried no less, this time was different.  He was on the ground, in a combat unit, and it was the worst time of my life.  His safe return is all I need this year.  It was the only thing I truly wanted and now I have it.  The cards and plants and books I'll also receive will still mean everything, anything they give me does, but nothing else this year will compare to just seeing his face .  In the end, my children, and now grandchildren too, are gift enough.  

Without them, there is no Mother's Day.

May 9, 2008 2:29 PM
 

Uberhappygirl said:

Every year I go to church with my mother, then we go over to my grandmother's house. Then all 15 or so of us,(my grandmother, her 5 children and their spouses, and her many grandchildren go out to dinner. The grandchildren buy for our parents, and our parents pay for our grandmother. Sometimes flowers are exchanged, but thats about it. All of us spending the day together.

May 9, 2008 2:37 PM
 

mrs. chicken said:

Dear Bryan,

What your mother wants is for you to learn your grammar rules.

Grandmother's = possesive

Grandmothers = plural

May 9, 2008 2:42 PM
 

chowmom said:

I've only been a mom for 4 years, so I don't have a *worst* gift yet.  This year, I already know I'm getting brunch at a local Inn, a necklace from Red Envelope, a new Willow Tree figurine, and a massage GC!!!  My DH is so sweet!  Oh, and of course my oldest son made me a picture at preschool which I opened already and love and treasure!

May 9, 2008 2:52 PM
 

KJFlick said:

You are so full of crap.  My wife would love any thing I would buy her.  She is just that kind of lady.  Appreciative of any thoughtfulness.   Yes the last minute run to the grocery store to buy whatever crap the chains think appropriate, and in their warehouse.  But you can always get fresh flowers there, and again my wife would love that too.  YOU DON'T HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS.

May 9, 2008 2:57 PM
 

Uh. Megan said:

ok... im a kid.. who has a mom.. and how are kids suppoused to know what to get there mom... cause  those kids get inta like 5 n 6th grade.. ur lucky to even see them. that should be a presant it self

May 9, 2008 3:14 PM
 

Lorelei said:

This article is crazy. Who actually spends that amount of money on Mother's Day?

Mother's Day is to SHOW your mother that you appreciate her, not to buy her off.

Having a sleep in, breakfast in bed, and a homemade card is worth WAY more to me than any of this junk they are suggesting.

May 9, 2008 3:24 PM