Strollerderby

Helicopter Parents -- Now With More Spying Capabilities

Posted by Madeline Holler

Ugh! Please don't let me become one of these!

The New York Times ran a story over the weekend about parents who, in short, need some hobbies. Because instead of macrame and collecting antique cookie tins, they're spending their time, energy and money on spying on their kids' every move -- you think I'm saying that metaphorically, I'm not -- at school.

Schools are adopting one of the scads of software programs that allow parents to go online and check out what grade Maddie got on her history test that day. Some programs will send alerts to Mommy's cellphone. One mom prints out her kid's daily grade report -- highlights the shitty grades and lays it all out on Jr.'s desk -- yet, goes ahead and asks him what he got on his test. Isn't that some kind of domestic entrapment?

Oh, come on, you say. They're a great way for parents to keep track of pending and incomplete assignments. True! It's far too much to expect the actual students to learn to manage that -- and to suffer the consequences when they can't. Parents can also log on to see whether a kid was late or absent from class, and get updates on any discipline issues. Those programs build the parent-teacher dream team!

Go ahead and say it -- I'm too old-fashioned. I might as well send my kids to a one-room school house, so resistent am I to adopting these modern, necessary kid spying tools. I shunned the nanny cam as well. We just kind of trusted our babysitters and listened to our kids.

What's your take? Are these programs they key to your child's success, or pretty much a guarantee that the professional workforce 15  years from now is going to be filled with idiot Americans who can't make it to the board meeting without their aging mother's encouragement and/or admonishments?

 


+ DIGG + STUMBLE

Comments

 

BBBGMOM said:

No way, no how.  My kids are bound to mess up here and there.  They will probably lie to me now and then.  But that's for us to work out.  If I had so little faith in my children (and my own parenting)... I don't know... I'd just hang it all up now.  

May 5, 2008 3:05 PM
 

Laura said:

As a teacher and a mom, my reaction to reading about this was:   Are you NUTS???  Sure, it's important to keep an eye on your kid's academic progress and encourage her, but grilling her like this will only a) damage your relationship and the trust between you (and probably lead to her acting out in some other way), and b) make school and classwork even more of a chore and obligation -- dampening even further whatever love of learning grade- and test-crazy schools have left her.

May 5, 2008 9:04 PM
 

karrie said:

Good fuck, where does the NYT find these people?

I plan to be involved and interested in my son's education, but cannot imagine having the time or inclination to monitor every single freaking grade or assignment. He'll need to learn how to fail and generate lame excuses along with the rest of us. Otherwise, he's going to have a hard go of it at college and the working world.

May 6, 2008 10:35 AM
 

Kate said:

My mother in law used to check my husband's grades. For college. After we were married. Yeah, we put a stop to that pretty damn fast. The worst part was, she could do it without his permission or consent, because we were at a private university who sent grade reports to parents, even for married students. Ridiculous.

May 6, 2008 12:31 PM

in

GROUP BLOGS

  • Strollerderby

    The smartest, funniest, most exhaustive parenting blog in the blogosphere.
  • Droolicious

    Modern design for modern parents.
  • FameCrawler

    Your daily baby celebrity fix.
back to blog homepage