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Playdate Outcast or Just Rude Freaking Mammas?

A friend had something weird happen to him at the park the other day, and I was curious to see if this was par for the course mom-friend behavior or whether this was, say, a little rude.

Basically, he befriended a mom at a nearby park and after a few days was invited to join in an impromptu picnic, and then, at said lunch, the moms started planning a beach trip. My friend, who by then had thought he was one of the group, grew excited until he realized they were planning on going without him.

"I suppose it doesn’t occur to them that I am sitting right there, another at-home parent in the market for daytime activities. But remember the old rule not to invite people to something in the presence of people who aren’t invited? Well, they didn’t."

Tacky, rude or peachy keen?


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Posted May 12 2008, 11:29 AM
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Comments

 

Manjari said:

Rude, thoughtless, insensitive! They should know better. That is exactly what we teach our kids not to do.

May 12, 2008 11:47 AM
 

K said:

Teh suburbs, let me show you them.

May 12, 2008 12:31 PM
 

Anisa said:

so rude.  poor guy!

May 12, 2008 12:36 PM
 

chyna823 said:

Utterly rude. He needs new friends.

May 12, 2008 2:11 PM
 

anonymous2 said:

Agreed--thoughtless and rude!

May 12, 2008 2:45 PM
 

froggemom said:

It isn't the most polite behavior, but I have to admit that I talk about social events in the company of people who aren't invited.  For instance, I'm the organizer of a meet up group and I have close friends as members.  We will often make plans for lunch or another outing while in the company of other members who aren't invited to join us.  We never tell them they aren't invited, we just make our plans and move on.  

May 12, 2008 2:50 PM
 

Erin said:

I read the original post, and I think Dad's response is unfortunately oversensitive. Neither the original woman nor her friends were there to meet him or make him feel included. He just happened to be at the park, and a woman he knew only casually invited her friends over to meet him. Unless he expected that they focus entirely on him and forget any previous conversations, it seems only normal that they would continue to discuss previous plans and schedules during their time together. Was their behavior Emily Post-approved? Probably not. But it was also completely normal, and if he would like to be included in the NEXT beach playdate he should probably let the unintentional snub go.

May 12, 2008 3:50 PM
 

Manjari said:

Hmmm... maybe I should have read the original post first.

May 12, 2008 4:25 PM

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