Strollerderby

Hope you will update with a link when the site is up. I will (hopefully) be a breastfeeding mama when my little one is born, but I want to support women who cannot or choose not to breastfeed. There's enough pressure surrounding motherhood than to not be in support of each other.

When I adopted, I thought I got a pass on this as well, then I read the AAP's latest policy statement that says that adoptive moms really should give it a shot.  Honestly!

I too would love this link. I chose not to breastfeed because of EXTREMELY horrible eczema. It came down to cranky itchy mommy who nursed or loving nurturing mommy who bottle fed. It was just not feasible to do both. But I tortured myself with this issue for the last 3 months of my pg and the first 2 months of my DS's life. I would have loved to find someplace where formula feeding discussed and not judged and where formula posts were not routinely deleted. At this point, we are moving onto milk, but I would still love to frequent and support women who went through what I did.

"It will help dispel the myth that breastfeeding is the only option for loving parents and prove, once and for all, that love is far more important than breastmilk."

Well...I like your optimism, but of course it won't do anything of the sort, because the people who truly believe those statements won't be swayed in the slightest by the existence of that website.

Everyone with basic common sense already knows that love is more important than breastmilk, so let's just celebrate what this site can do, which is provide parents who use formula can get support and information without judgment. That's enough reason for it to exist!

Actually, Erin, I will say that I started out a breast-is-best girl, but was forced to supplement with formula and mostly got over that. Granted, the lactavists might not, but there are still people on the fence, and it probably would be a help.

One thing they absolutely have to do, though, is never take a dollar from the formula companies because they'll never hear the end of it if they do.

As an adoptive mother who breastfed 3 kids I gave birth to previously (including one who had a tight frenulum & didn't bring in the milk) I really feel I've experienced a lot on the breast & bottle side of things (oh, & the pump). We spent a couple of days trying to use the SNS before realizing that with 4 kids this was too big an effort). Putting breast & bottle into the context of how life works best for a family is really important. That said, no discussion of breast & bottle can be complete without mention of the need for such things as real family leave & lack of flak for women who nurse in public etc. And the recent studies do support NOT putting formula into diaper bags at the hospital; there could be ways to subsidize formula for those who need it, but breast deserves a fighting chance for those able to try.

@ steffmarcusky

I think there's a huge difference between knowing that "breast is best" and believing that "breast is the only option for loving parents and is more important than love itself." The people who believe the first statement generally understand different families have different needs; the people who believe the second statement will never change their minds.

I am passionate about the benefits of breastfeeding, and equally as passionate about women having the information and support to do what works for them!

I am really excited to launch the site, and want it to be a place of comfort and information. Thanx so much for all your post so far. www.NoBoobsForBaby.com will launch within the next couple months.  Our hope is that it will have a feeling of warmth and some humor for parents and families who want to feel connected and respected for doing the best they can with the needs they have. Peace and Blessings Aimee

I think at the end of the day, women should just be happy to feed their babies!  I tried for 6 mos to BF my baby boy and he would not do it at all!  Argh.  And some silly young (19) mom decided to tell me she was a superior mom who actually cared about her kids by BFing her kids (yes - 19 and 2 kids).  She also went on to say that formula fed babies have a distinctly puffy look!  Please.  When I countered, she went on about how she had her problems and tried breast shields.  I wanted to say, a la Adam Sandler "breast shields - whoopdy f*ing doo!!!!  You want mine?  They didn't make my child any less traumatized by the breast!"  

Sadly, because she was so freaking myopic on this topic, at 4 mos, her child (born at 7 lbs) was 9 lbs and then at 6 mos, he was 10 lbs!!!!  10 lbs!  She let that child starve because she wasn't producing milk!  I wanted to reach through the internet and slap her!  I know my child cries when he's hungry, what must that child have done?  And wasn't it enough that the kid wasn't wetting more than 2 diapers a day and not gaining weight that she should have called her doctor before taking him to his 6 mos appt to be told by her doctor to actually supplement?  

That's what makes me sad over this issue.  Besides making mothers who can't BF feel utterly useless, it makes those that think they can, smug and stupid.  :(

I'm just thankful that I feed my baby.  And he's not puffy one bit!  :)

I tried breastfeeding at the hospital, but my daughter would not latch.  I wanted to breastfeed her so bad, but I tried and due to flat nipples and my daughter having issues with latching it was not possible for us.  Due to the stress of not being able to breastfeed I felt like this awful mother not doing the best by my daughter.  During this time I developed postpartum depression, honestly I believe this was due to my guilt for not being able to breastfeed.  Not being able to breastfeed made me feel like I was not a women or a good mother. I believe I felt like this because of what the media and the popular baby books say.

I wish during this time I would have found a site like this, I am glad that other mothers may be helped. Thank you for developing this supportive site.