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Controversy: Dressing Newborns

Posted by asflutz

Two posts this past week highlighted novelty clothing for babies:  Brett's post on high heels for newborns, and Madeline's post on the "I'm an accident" onesie.   And I was a little surprised by how many readers were offended by these items, some even going so far as to predict dire outcomes for these young sartorial victims - such as emme, who foretold, "These will be the 14 y.o. moms of the future."

 Look, dressing babies is and always has been about the parents, not the babies.  If all we cared about were what our babies would want, we'd probably dress them in footie pajamas all the time, or maybe just cotton sacks.  But we don't, because we know how our babies look reflects our own personality, aesthetic, and worldview.

For example, my favorite T-shirt to put on my two-year-old son says, "I still live with my parents," which I love in all it's beautiful irony.  Of course, Aaron has no idea why it's funny, which is probably why he's starting to reject it in favor of shirts with animals on them.  For another example, my sister just announced her intention to go out and spend money on clothes for her newborn when she literally has eighty pounds of girl baby clothes sitting in our attic passed down from my three daughters.  She just doesn't like a lot of it - my sister, that is, not her daughter.  I'm sure Molly couldn't care less. 

So, I have to agree with Sara, who pointed out, "Putting an infant in high heels is not at all the same thing as putting a toddler in high heels."  When they come out with string bikinis for preschoolers, or shirts that proclaim "I'm an accident" for kids old enough to know what that means, I'll be the first to rail against them.  But I don't think there's anything wrong with having fun dressing your baby - as Archaea said, "I don't know that it's any more harmful than sticking foreign objects into a child's ear lobes, gluing a bow to her head, or putting colored enamel on her little nails!" 

 


Comments

 

Mom2Two said:

The high heels just looked silly to me.  And it's also silly to think that a baby whose parents put them on her will grow up to be the next Britney or Lindsay  But the "I'm an accident" onesie is obnoxious because I think that's a horrible word to describe an unexpected pregnancy.  Much like "mistake."  My second child was not planned, but we refer to her as a "surprise."  IMO, an accident is something that is bad.

My son has the "I still live with my parents" tshirt too and I think it's a riot.    There is a fine line between funny and icky.

June 13, 2008 12:33 PM
 

Karen said:

I did dress my kid in footie sleepers until he was almost 9 months old. And yes, I was mocked. Even my friend's 3 y.o. asked me why he was wearing his pyjamas.

June 13, 2008 1:56 PM
 

Jenny said:

I dressed my kid in footie jammies till she was 6 months old and piercing her ears seemed a little extreme to me too. But really I also wear what is comfy and don't have any extreme grooming rituals involving flat irons or deep facials so I suppose it's still all about me and my style - LOL!

How about parents who are soo counter culture and alternative they give their kids mowhaks and have them wear little Ramones shirts... to be... um... different? Will these kids grow up and rebel by trying to wear Lacoste golf shirts and khakis?

June 13, 2008 5:57 PM
 

Yvie said:

I dress my toddler in a way that he is comfortable with it and at the same time a little bit stylish. But I wouldn't go all the way into styling him according to who we are as parents. :D

Well admittedly, I tend to enjoy putting him on a white tux on his christening day, so cute.

June 16, 2008 6:59 AM

About asflutz

Amy S.F. Lutz's work has appeared in dozens of literary journals, including Cream City Review, The American Poetry Review, Puerto del Sol, and Mid-American Review. She and her husband have five children. Amy and her sister chronicle their adventures in communal living in their blog whoelsewantstoliveinmyhouse.com

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