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Teens Make Pregnancy Pact -- Wha???

Posted by AmyinMotown

I know teen girls are not always the most rational of people, but, WTF?

Apparently a group of 17 girls at Gloucester High School in Massachusetts decided they would make a pregnancy pact with each other. A pregnancy pact. Not, you might think, a "let's not get pregnant and graduate and maybe even go to college" pact, no, this pact was to get pregnant and raise their babies together.

None of these girls were older than 16.

According to one of the school officials, they noticed something was amiss when there was a huge spike in girls coming in to the nurses' office for pregnancy tests. Many came in multiple times and several seemed more upset when they weren't pregnant than when they were.

One of the fathers is allegedly a 24-year-old homeless man.

This brain trust was looking for unconditional love, said community members and classmates (none of them would be interviewed for the Time story).  Because little babies are such givers, really, always concerned with what their mom needs and wants, happy to sleep a little more or stop crying already because it's all about YOUR needs. Right?

Oh, but there is more than enough stupid to go around here. Community members got up in arms, not over what these girls did, but over the school nurse and principal suggesting that providing birth control without parental consent might help stem this tide. Both ended up quitting in protest.


Better yet? Some blame Juno. Yeaaahhh.





 


Comments

 

MissB said:

Yes, incredibly stupid.  But I can't help but be a little bit awed by these girls.  Were they really trying to form some maternal Utopia where they took shared responsibility for each other's children? I should have formed a pact like this with somebody.  I'd really like to go grocery shopping by myself today.

June 20, 2008 10:53 AM
 

skinnymom said:

This is really sad. I have a two-year-old who loves me unconditionally (except maybe at bath time), but I'm old enough to realize that she's not going to be two forever. She's going to be 12 before I know it, and may well be an obnoxious teen-ager. Who are these girls going to turn to when their kids hit this age?

June 20, 2008 11:17 AM
 

DLY said:

"She's going to be 12 before I know it, and may well be an obnoxious teen-ager. Who are these girls going to turn to when their kids hit this age?"

By then they'll be grandparents.

June 20, 2008 12:27 PM
 

mtlmama said:

wow, that's some serious lack of sexual education. Can't they at least show these girls footage of a woman in labor or engage them in a conversation about breastfeeding, stretch marks or baby poop? I would bet that those girls would change their minds fast if they knew the reality.

June 20, 2008 1:58 PM
 

Cassie said:

Totally blame Juno.  Look how cool she was pregnant.  I also blame their parents.  No access to sex education adn they are dumb too.  None of these girls were going to college anyway.  Reatarded people dont go to college.  The fathers of the babies shoudl be rounded up and jailed.  They would down here in the South where such behavior will get you 15 YEARS in prison even if consensual.  Where are the cops?  

June 20, 2008 5:21 PM
 

Mom2Two said:

Where is your brain, Cassie?  My best friend's sister is developmentally disabled.  I object to your use of the word retarded.

June 20, 2008 9:16 PM
 

steffmarcusky said:

Actually, about the birth control - unless the guys were using it to ensure that they weren't part of the problem, the free birth control wasn't going to get used.

Seriously, though, what f*&%ing idiots. The parents can't be much better.

June 20, 2008 11:11 PM
 

simone said:

I like that NBC is spreading a good message to teens about not getting pregnant. I will have my brothers and sisters watch Baby Borrowers. I think it starts on June 25th at 9pm!

June 21, 2008 7:28 PM
 

Jennifer said:

I'm a guidance counselor at a middle school, and at the feeder high school the girls are doing something similar. It's disturbing, and what's worse is my county's policy of "abstinence ONLY". Yeah.. that's not exactly working! Having a new baby myself, it is so sad and frustrating trying to work with this generation of young people!!!

June 21, 2008 9:18 PM
 

Wydog said:

Cassie--

How did Juno make pregnancy cool?  She was a pretty sad girl.  Did you see the movie?

Simone--

Do you really think reality tv will give a good message?  I hope so, but I'm skeptical.

June 22, 2008 4:57 PM
 

Angus said:

A few things, Juno cannot be blamed for this because statical trends take a long time to show up -- so if this is the first bump in 15 years, we need to look at legislation, trends, etc. from the past 25 years at least. Popular media influence in the past two years wouldn't be showing up in stats yet.  

Also, I remember being 16 and someone was fighting with one of the group on a daily basis, they are clearly not in their right mind if they think they will stay good enough friends to raise children together.  Especially given the fact that they will be freakin exhausted and won't have the time or energy to curl their hair and paint their nails everyday.

And finally, someone should tell teenagers that some women poo on the table while they are in labour.  And someone else, a stranger! will clean it up.  That outta just about take care of it!

ps

one of my friends had anal and clitoral tearing.  Have fun with that one 16 year olds!

June 23, 2008 1:28 AM
 

chyna823 said:

Blaming Juno is ridiculous. Any kid who is that influenced by a movie or celebrity already had problems first.

June 23, 2008 1:58 PM
 

amandashea17 said:

Blaming Juno is like blaming rock/ rap artist for kids who commit suicide. Or violent video games for those who commit school shootings. You can't blame them. I saw Juno and it didn't make me want to have kids. Also, saying JLS is a role model is just wrong.

June 23, 2008 3:54 PM
 

Gary said:

if we want to start pointing fingers at the media, more kids should watch Baby Borrowers, where young couples get to experience what it is like to have kids without getting pregnant.  they are 'loaned' a child that they feed and care for over the course of a couple days, and they return the baby and realize what kind of devotion it requires...

June 23, 2008 7:47 PM
 

Lora said:

I think your all really unfair

Im 16 and have a baby girl and shes probably saved my life. Teenagers can make good parents and other teens like myself do understand the responsibility and because of that ive turned my life arounf and its turned me into a much better person.

Lora

x

June 24, 2008 6:25 PM
 

AllisonWonder said:

I have thoughts about this, generally along the same lines as other commenters on here. Pregnancy pact = dumb idea. I don't doubt that there are teens out there who turn out to be excellent parents, but these girls obviously have some screwed-up expectations about what pregnancy, birth and parenting are like.

What I really want to say, though, is that the use of the phrase "brain trust" just made me shoot Pepsi out my nose. Thanks.

June 24, 2008 8:55 PM

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