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Ohh, Baby - Orgasmic Birth Video

Posted by Brett Singer

Some things go great together. Chocolate and peanut butter. Milk and cookies. Childbirth and orgasms.

What, you disagree? You think that it's unbelievably weird to be thinking about sex while your child is being born? What are you, a stiff?

There's a scene in Edward Albee's play "The Goat or Who is Sylvia?" (which is about a man who -- SPOILER ALERT -- cheats on his wife with a goat) when the father (who is having an affair with a goat) is comforting his son and talking about becoming sexually aroused at a certain inappropriate time (when a baby is bouncing on your lap). His friend enters and overhears the conversation, saying, "Is there anything that doesn't turn you people on?"

That's what I thought of when I saw this video. What possible good can come from reaching orgasm while you give birth? Why does it have to be either insanely painful or insanely pleasurable? Why not something in between?

If somebody wants to give birth outside of a hospital, that's their business. (Unless they want to do it RIGHT outside a hospital, on the street. That seems like a bad idea.)  Madeline Holler just wrote a terrific essay on home births. But why does it need to be a sexual experience? And before you say, "Don't knock it 'til you've tried it," let me be the first to tell you that trying it isn't an issue, because it'll never happen.

Here's the video. You tell me what the creepy factor is. For me, on a scale of one to ten, this is an eleven. But maybe I'm just uptight.

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Comments

 

Lila said:

On the surface it sounds "creepy", but if you watch the entire commercial, the bigger picture isn't as disturbing.  Christine Northrup gives some legitimacy, and the other commentators appeared in The Business of Being Born.

In this instance, perhaps you're uptight.  

July 7, 2008 12:35 PM
 

froggemom said:

I don't think its creepy.  At first it hits the creepy button, but once you listen and open your mind to the concept, it seems quite possible and natural.  We've been socialized to equate birth with pain and hospitals, so we think of it as something needing intervention, help, science.  But in reality it is what women's bodies are built for.  

July 7, 2008 1:17 PM
 

marcy said:

No, you're uptight.

July 7, 2008 2:22 PM
 

Nicole said:

I haven't watched the entire video, slow internet today- but maybe I'm old fashioned in that I don't wish to associate orgasms with my children. Birthing a child certainly puts them in close proximity to the pleasure zones and I for one would love to disassociate that.

July 7, 2008 2:39 PM
 

Sapphire said:

I think it's just plain creepy!

July 7, 2008 4:02 PM
 

Lindsey said:

Creepy? It's not that the women are thinking about sex while giving birth, it's that the birthing triggers sexual responses. It's incidental! Then again, maybe you haven't found the G-spot, and don't understand how the two coincide.

July 7, 2008 4:03 PM
 

Krystal Reye said:

It does sound creepy at first, but after ready and watching the video it makes perfect sence. I have two daughters and one son and I gave birth to them without any pain meds. I would do it all over again in a heart beat. It's an awesome experience.

July 7, 2008 4:12 PM
 

mmk said:

I understand this.  My labor with my second child began with me waking up from a sound sleep to an orgasm.  I was confused but amused by this and soon my labor was underway.  I had an easy and natural and totally joyous childbirth experiance with a man whom I loved and trusted.  Later I thought about the orgasm and it made sense to me.   Your uterus contracts during orgasm.  Your uterus contract during childbirth...so what I was experiancing was my first childbirth contractions, and before it became painful, it was pleasurable.    

July 7, 2008 5:47 PM
 

Andrea said:

i think that it is very disturbing...to think of your child being there while you have an orgasm i mean come on ..it is disturbing and i am a very open minded person.

July 7, 2008 7:58 PM
 

Stacie said:

The concept isn't creepy.

The background music is. Eew.

July 7, 2008 8:12 PM
 

Petha said:

There certainly are elements to it that are creepy, I found some of it cringe-worthy, but then again, there were some very  empowering elements to it too. Maybe it evens out...

July 7, 2008 8:18 PM
 

Mel said:

Well, it never seemed fair that the men have orgasms in order to produce children and the women just have to be there to get pregnant then endure the pain to have a baby. For those who don't want to associate orgasms with their children, I wonder how on earth they mentally block the fact that babies are produced by semen and semen is produced by a male orgasm!! So, although I was initally appalled at the women who I thought were taking a pure experience to a disturbing and disgusting level, after some thought, I, (a mother), agree with the video that the woman should make it the most relaxing, joyful, spiritual, and loving experience possible. If an orgasm happens as a result, it happens. It is only dirty if the woman is TRYING to have an orgasm. I mean I personally would be embarassed if it happened to me...but then again, I have heard a LOT of embarassing birthing stories, so this seems minor in comparison!!

July 7, 2008 9:02 PM
 

Tamika Dukes said:

I didnt find it creepy, but from experience I cannot say that giving birth naturally is orgasmic!  This is just me, I have given birth naturally to 6 of my eight children and I did not find it orgasmic until afterwards with my last daughter.  The happiness that her dad shown during her birth made me feel connected to him in a different way.

July 7, 2008 9:20 PM
 

Jeanine said:

Having worked in women's health for the last 10 years, I have witnessed nearly a thousand births. The birth sounds women make often do sound like those made during sex. While they sound similar, they are quite different. To me "orgasmic birth" may refer to those sounds as indicated on the video clip, but more so to the joy of the most intense point of pleasure and excitement, the birth of your child and the relief that comes in meeting him or her when your work of labor is complete.

July 7, 2008 11:42 PM
 

ziiksmom said:

Thank GOD this came out, I've never seen this experience aacknowledged before now but in 2000 I gave birth to my 3rd child, and in 2002 my 4th...each time I experienced very orgasmic feelings and I didn't feel like I could express them as such. I played it off as pain and wondered about it until this very time...Thank You!!!

July 7, 2008 11:50 PM
 

tanishaR said:

this is insanley wrong i dont think you should associate any type of sexual anything when it comes to children i mean when your child grows up and asks you how was the experience of birth are you gonna tell them that they gave you the best orgasm of your life......ewwww how nasty sounding is that?!

July 8, 2008 11:13 AM
 

Ayana Sanjuro said:

Ewww this is so wrong what kind of woman would do that!?!

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July 8, 2008 12:58 PM
 

Andrea said:

I don't think it's a matter of a woman "trying" to have an orgasm during birth any more than you "try" to have an orgasm during sex but our stimulus response system is fairly simple and where the baby passes is in the area that has to be triggered for an orgasm. I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Our bodies can have a pleasurable experience without it being sexual- e.g breastfeeding.

July 8, 2008 2:15 PM
 

L.J. Williamson said:

So it's "wrong" to have a pleasurable and transcendent experience of childbirth, which means that pain and difficulty are "right."  How puritanical can you get?

July 9, 2008 4:53 PM
 

Tyena said:

I think if i could have or knew how i would have liked to have an orgasmic birth it wouuld have been better than being in pain.

July 9, 2008 9:29 PM
 

Brandon said:

Well, im all for women not having pain in birth.....but using your kids body as a gigantic dildo just seems wrong. Besides.. if women learn to enjoy 18" long, 5" wide things passing through their vaginas, whats even a nice thick 9" wang gonna do? Were all gonna be screwed.

July 18, 2008 2:54 AM
 

Angela said:

I have had 5 births-6 children and never as part of the birth experience did I feel at all orgasmic! All of my childrens births were very easy,I had 6 in 8 years so I guess my body was experienced and worked better but really-- sex never entered my mind and I quietly thanked God that my husband did not want to be in the delivery room. Mr Calm and Cool until the twins--we had no idea-- and that really was a comedy not a sexual experience.

July 18, 2008 4:44 PM

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Brett Singer is a writer and father living in Manhattan with his wonderful wife and two terrific sons (referred to here as Thing 1 and Thing 2). He writes about music for the Boston Phoenix, parenting for Babble and daddytips.com, and other topics for anyone else who will have him.

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