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Keep Kids Creative - Play With Them

Posted by JeanneSager

Who makes up holidays? I’m fine with the religious (Christmas, Yom Kippur, etc.) and the secular/quasi-governmental (Labor Day, Memorial Day, etc.), but whoever earned permission to dub today Hobbit Day and this Wednesday Punctuation Day needs to get a day job.

 

Of course I’m going to sound like a bit of a hypocrite when I admit today starts my own celebration of National Keep Kids Creative Week.

 

Author/illustrator Bruce Van Patter, is trying to keep the fourth week of September officially dedicated to removing the imprint of kids’ butts from the couch cushions. He started in the fall of 2003, and now hosts a Website full of ideas to help families who are stumped for ideas of their own.

 

I can do him one better. If you want your kids to be creative, get your own tuckus off the couch and let your imagination run wild with them. A survey commissioned by HearthSong late this summer found 62 percent of parents admit to playing with their kids less than an hour a day. One in six parents don’t even spend an hour a week engaging in some sort of playtime.We’re a bunch of lazy you-know-whats.

 

OK, I’m climbing back down off the horse. The air was a little thin up there. Some days, I just don’t want to play with my kid. I can only let a pull-back car loose to fly across the floor so many times before I want to pick up a book. And I have as much fun filling a bucket with sand as I do watching paint dry. Go ahead, play me a sad song on the violin.

 

Oh, but wait. I gave birth. I’m a mom. So playing with my kid is . . . . (wait for it) . . . my job. So we’ll be celebrating with a rousing game of let the toy car crash into the wall 50 times or so followed by a thrilling trip to the sandbox. Hey, she’s happy.

 


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Comments

 

Veronica said:

I don't think it's a parent's "job" to play for hours on end.  Little baby monkeys play with other little baby monkeys.  Kittens play with the other kittens.

Just sayin.

September 22, 2008 3:55 PM
 

Knitty said:

Oh, here we go again.

Playing with your kids is not your "job."  Your job as a parent is to ensure that your kids are safe, clean, fed, receiving an education, etc.  Kids are perfectly capable of playing on their own, or (gasp!) with other kids.

Keep in mind that this whole "you MUST spend endless hours playing with your kids or you suck" idea is very, very recent, entirely cultural, and carries more than a whiff of privilege.  Plenty of parents are too busy making ends meet and meeting their children's basic needs to get down on the floor and roll around with the little ones for hours a day -- does that make them "bad parents?"  And what about parents who do really odd things like keep their children out of school (see this week's Bad Parent) because they fear school will sap their child's precious creativity?  Does she deserve a gold star for motherhood because she spends hours he should be in school playing with him?

I personally play with my daughter because I enjoy it, but my own mother never, not even once, got down on the floor to play with me.  She cooked, she cleaned, she bathed us, she gave endless hugs and kisses and read us stories and listened with endless patience, but playing?  Not her thing.

And she was a damn good parent.

September 22, 2008 4:52 PM

About JeanneSager

Jeanne Sager is a writer who lives in upstate New York with her husband, daughter, a dog and too many cats. She refuses to believe motherhood comes with pumpkin appliqued sweaters, and she';s not ready to apologize for having only one child. She writes about raising her kid in her own hometown and the mom stuff she's not embarrassed to own at her blog, Inside Out (http://jeannesager.blogspot.com), she's contributing editor of Grand Magazine, and she's a regular essayist here on Babble

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