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Male Blogger: Laboring Mom Not a 'True Emergency'

Posted by JeanneSager

You're about to give birth to your second child. Your contractions are three minutes apart and holding steady. Oh yeah, and your car is stuck in bumper-to-bumper traffic. What are you going to do now?

According to a blogger at the Volokh Conspiracy, you call an ambulance and meet them at the next exit because, well, he doesn't consider this a "true emergency." Excuse me, David Bernstein, do you want to deliver a baby in the middle of the Mass Turnpike? Methinks you'd be yelling "help, emergency," about then. 

I hate to take anything into the "man" vs. "woman" range, but this is one of those examples of a guy climbing on his high horse to tell us how a pregnant woman's body is going to work. Hate to tell you buddy, even WE don't know how the whole birth process is going to go. Bernstein's prime evidence for why he thinks Jennifer and John Davis were reckless and refused to just call an ambulance? The baby didn't come for another five hours. 

Think of that. A baby that came in its own darn good time. No wonder they call the site the Volokh CONSPIRACY. 

Alright, maybe I'm taking this a little hard. I actually have never had the frantic drive to the hospital. My labor had to be induced to encourage my daughter to come out of her comfy little cave. I agonized about the possibilities because of the area where I live and the timing of my due date: we're nearly a half hour from the hospital, and I was set to deliver right around the Memorial Day holiday in a highly trafficked tourist area. 

I also dealt with a highly put out male co-worker who wanted to plan a vacation, and couldn't believe that our editor couldn't pin down a date when I'd begin my maternity leave. I was still working the day before I went into the hospital to have a nurse begin my pitocin drip. Trust me, I tried my darndest to get her moving earlier. She had the same stubborn streak then that makes for such pleasant morning interactions now.

Or maybe it's simply being a parent that made me feel for the Davises. In the Boston Herald article Bernstein took to task for its pro-parent tone, Jennifer Davis says her husband maneuvered into the breakdown lane to continue the rush to the hospital. Two state troopers gave them the go-ahead to keep going. A third, however, detained the couple and went back to his cruiser to look up John Davis' driving record (six traffic infractions in twenty years, by the way), and made them wait until he was done writing out another motorist's ticket. He then quizzed the contracting Jennifer, making her unzip her jacket to prove she really had a pregnant belly under there. He finally issued a citation before letting the couple go - the $100 bill arrived in the mail the other day. 

The Davises, by the way, had actually pulled over to ask the trooper if they could continue in the lane to the exit where they'd get off and choose another route to the hospital. This was hardly the case of a trooper pulling over a speeding driver in the breakdown lane and diligently investigating suspicious activity. This was a police officer forgetting his mission is to protect AND serve. 

Yes, I'm taking the side of the parents in this one too. Now what do you want to bet David Bernstein will find a conspiracy here?

Image: Boston Herald

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Comments

 

maeby said:

i was "just 7 centimeters" dilated according to the nurse, then oooh about 15 to 20 seconds later the babys head was out.  

it happens. I was also only contracting every 4 minutes until the last few minutes. That guy needs to STFU

December 5, 2008 1:15 PM
 

Colleen said:

The thing is, they had the option of going to a hospital (with a well-regarded maternity service) in the next town over.  They decided to drive 25 miles in rush hour traffic to a non-major Boston area hospital because she wanted to have both of her children at the same place.  Which, 90% of the time, I wouldn't have a problem with.  But when they make the decision to drive illegally in the break-down lane, putting themselves, their daughter, and all the other drivers on the road at risk, it's an issue.

December 5, 2008 1:24 PM
 

gpgirl said:

I think I'm a little lost. Why is it bad to call 911 for an ambulance in this situation? Maybe I don't understand the whole story, but that seems like a good idea. (If she started delivering in the ambulance, there would be trained professionals there to help her, and it would be more likely that other cars would get out of the way of an ambulance than of a car.) Why does calling 911 make it less of an "true emergency"?

There was only one time in my life that we needed an ambulance, and they came in about 2 minutes (My husband was still on the phone with 911 when they arrived.) Maybe not everyone has had that situation.

December 5, 2008 1:45 PM
 

gpgirl said:

OK, I finally read the Volokh blog. He does NOT say this is not a true emergency. What he says is this,

"If it's a true emergency, call 911 and meet the ambulance at the next exit!"

In fact, the trooper offered to get them an ambulance twice, and they declined. If they would have just accepted the ambulance, it seems like he wouldn't have ticketed them. (At least that is the implication from the Globe article.

I'm sorry, but I think you twisted this to have him say this is not a real emergency. What he is saying is that, if they felt it was a true emergency, they should have called 911, which I agree with.

December 5, 2008 2:12 PM
 

amandamaren said:

I disagree with a lot of these comments. If they are fortunate enough to have health insurance, it would not have covered the ambulance ride(non-life threatening), leaving them with the bill. The others leaving comments in regards to that must be extremely fortunate to not even have to worry about that. As for the hospital choice, it's probably safe to assume they chose that hospital ahead of time, had a doctor or midwife who was working out of that hospital, and that is there business- AND they did not CHOOSE to drive in rush hour traffic...I doubt they had any choice about when she would go into labor.

I also think driving through the break down lane to make it to the hospital in time is a lot less of a risk then being stuck in a traffic jam while birthing, when you have no idea if there will be any complications.

December 5, 2008 2:32 PM
 

Maria said:

I had a perfectly average 7 hour labor the first time around. The second time around I had mild labor for 2 hours and as my husband wnt out to warm up the car so we could leave for the birth center my daughter was born on the living room floor. The paramedics arrived about 10 minutes after my daughter was born with teh cord wrapped around her neck twice (my husband and father took quick action to get her breathing).

Babies are unpredictable--I would have asked my husband to drive on the shoulder too.      

December 5, 2008 4:53 PM
 

gpgirl said:

amandamaren, I see what you are saying. The one time I needed an ambulance, I was fortunate enough to have insurance that covered it. (Although the copay was $100.) If you don't have insurance that covers this, I can see why you'd want to avoid this cost.

However, they did choose a hospital that was 30 miles away from their home, in a direction where rush hour traffic was possible. (I used to live in Boston, and there is a good portion of the day where there is heavy traffic, so they should have known this was a possibility.) There were many hospitals (with good reputations) closer to their house. If you cannot afford an ambulance, you should probably not put yourself in a situation where you would need one.

I know, I know, I am being cruel and heartless, but I really think people need to be responsible for their decisions. I loved my old OB, but when we moved 15 miles away, I found a new one that was closer.

I still think this post was very off the mark when it said the Volokh blog said this was not a true emergency, which is not at all what it said. One could argue that an ambulance is not the right way to go, but he never said this was not an emergency. I really do not like it when words get twisted around to make a point.

December 5, 2008 5:12 PM
 

daniel said:

First: the lane is meant for such emergencies.

Second: the contractions were only 5 min apart and bad things can happen during the course of a birth, especially on a highway, hence it's an emergency.

Third: they asked permission and already got it twice

Forth: I can understand a brief delay to ensure the woman is indeed pregnant but that's all... anything else is clearly endangerment and mental anguish, of which I hope that trooper is sued for.

Fifth: You can't give a ticket to someone who already got permission (twice) for what he just got a ticket for... hopefully they remember the other two cops' names.

Sixth: It was a wise decision not to accept the ambulance... They would've had to wait for the ambulance to get there, move her into it on a gurney, and then continue on the exact same lane at the exact same speed to go to the hospital, thus placing the mother and unborn child in additional risk and trauma.

December 6, 2008 12:33 AM
 

gpgirl said:

Many people have commented that it would take too long to wait for the ambulance, and it would be faster to just drive. But remember, if something happened while she was in the ambulance, she would have EMT's right there. Also, as they are driving to the hospital, the EMT's can take her vitals, call the hospital ahead of time, and she would go straight from the ambulance to a room. If they drive themselves, they have to park, walk in, and then tell their story to a nurse, and probably have to wait in a hallway while they found a room. The priority would almost always goes to who comes in via ambulance.

I totally understand if it was a cost issue, as ambulances can be expensive without insurance. However, I don't think the time argument is really valid. (Of course, they probably were not in the right frame of mind to think about all these factors at the time. However, since they chose a hospital so far from their house in a direction that was likely to have traffic, they probably should have thought about it  a little beforehand.)

I am really not trying to judge them or say they are bad people. However, it amazes me how some people set up such complicated situations for themselves, when there is a simpler alternative. (Choosing a hospital close to home.)

December 6, 2008 3:34 PM
 

bostonmama said:

The hospital you "choose" to deliver at may also be a cost issue.  My health insurance only covers delivery at a particular hospital and if I delivered anywhere else after 36 weeks even in the event of an emergency, it would not have been covered.  

December 6, 2008 10:14 PM

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Jeanne Sager is a writer who lives in upstate New York with her husband, daughter, a dog and too many cats. She refuses to believe motherhood comes with pumpkin appliqued sweaters, and she';s not ready to apologize for having only one child. She writes about raising her kid in her own hometown and the mom stuff she's not embarrassed to own at her blog, Inside Out (http://jeannesager.blogspot.com), she's contributing editor of Grand Magazine, and she's a regular essayist here on Babble

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