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Mommy and Mama Now Legal in New York

Posted by Shannon LC Cate

Good news for parents and children in New York state!  In keeping with the state's ruling last year that same-sex marriages made out of state (in Canada, for example) had to be respected, the state health department now says that both parents in such marriages will be listed on the birth certificates of children born to them.

Any child born to a married woman is automatically considered the child of her husband--even if the woman conceived with donor sperm or other means (ahem) in which her husband is not the baby's biological parent.  But in the case of children born to lesbians with partners who plan to parent with them, second-parent adoption is usually required (if it is, indeed, available) in order to secure the non-biological mother's rights.

With the new plan in New York, second parents will be immediately able to have access to and information about their children in the hospital, an invaluable privilege, as I'm sure those of you who've clocked NICU time can attest.

Now come on, New York, don't do this by halves.  It's time to start performing those same-sex marriages so couples don't have to elope to Massachusetts any more.  You know you could use those gay wedding dollars in this economy!

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Comments

 

Nancy said:

Sadly, even when the option to have both same-sex parents on the birth certificate exists it is usually advisable to STILL get a second parent adoption.  This is because legally adoption is still the gold standard for establishing a parenting relationship and if the family travels outside of the states where the option exists, the birth certificate may carry much less significance.

I'm still pleased to see the state of New York move in this direction.  I just wanted to be clear that both parents being on the birth certificate does not remove the need for second parent adoption.

December 17, 2008 11:16 PM
 

get real said:

And 18 years later, the little moppet sues to learn the identity of her biological father. Enjoy.

Point is, kids care about the bio-facts even if their parents insist that it doesn't matter. It matters, and they have a right to know, so why not deal with them honestly from the outset and save everyone some future trauma?

December 18, 2008 11:49 AM
 

Shannon LC Cate said:

get real:

Where exactly do you read above, anyone claiming that "bio-facts" don't matter?

Your point is irrelevant.  Whether or not children are told the identity of all their bio parents has nothing whatever to do with who their legal parents are.

Plenty of people have open donor relationships now.  Whether they do or not has no bearing on the issue of whether the parent of a newborn can have access to the baby in the hospital.

That's a separate issue entirely.

December 18, 2008 12:16 PM

About Shannon LC Cate

Shannon LC Cate, PhD is a lesbian housewife and work-from-home mother of two girls via domestic, open, transracial adoption. They are both under five and already too brilliant and beautiful for their own good. Shannon lives, writes and assembles tricycles in Chicago, Illinois.

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