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Why Cops Should Let Casey Anthony Attend Caylee's Funeral

Posted by JeanneSager

I've tried not to watch the Caylee Anthony unfold, shaken by the fact that the little girl was just two months younger than my own, digusted by the news that her mother was the prime suspect. But when I saw that cops will not be allowing Casey Anthony to atend her daughter's funeral, I couldn't not look. I couldn't not think about it.

I confess I would make a horrible juror. In my mind, Casey Anthony was convicted the day media reported she waited two months after Caylee's disappearance before reporting her missing. As far as I was (am) concerned, she did it. 

Now, all that remains of Caylee, forever two years old, is a skeleton, found last week near the Anthonys' Florida home. No date has been set for the funeral, but the Orange County Corrections Department has already determined they will not allow Casey Anthony to attend - because of the gravity of the charges pending against her and the security risk (imagine, someone wanting to hurt a mother like that?). 

If Casey Anthony killed her child, I'd rank her with any other child abuser/molester/murderer. She deserves little. But there is that if. In the United States, we are still guaranteed that "if" until a plea of guilty is entered or a jury or judge returns with a verdict. Right now, Casey Anthony is innocent, and she will not be able to say goodbye to her little girl. It's a pain, I, as a mother, can't imagine. It's why I think she should go to the funeral.

Of course, I can't imagine killing my child either. So let's just say my suspicions are right. Let's imagine Casey Anthony is proven guilty - beyond a reasonable doubt. I still think they should send her to the funeral. Because the mother who kills a child has apparently lost all sense of the sanctity of life, of the power with which she was blessed, of what it means to be a mother. A mother who kills her own child deserves to have to say goodbye. 

Image: ABC News

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Comments

 

Alice said:

So a man who kills his wife should be allowed to attend the funeral?  If you were murdered would you want your murderer to attend your funeral?  She said goodbye when she snapped her neck for fun.  Screw her.

December 24, 2008 3:14 PM
 

Sherry said:

Let her go to the funeral?  Seriously?  Okay, let's pretend for one minute that she didn't do it. It was Granny that reported the child missing, wasn't it?  Seeing as how the mother didn't even bother to report the child missing at all,  I would say she isn't particularly interested in the fate of her own child so why would she need any closure or to say goodbye?  

And if she did kill her,  the funeral is for the loved ones left behind to grieve and remember the person. It is for their closure.  A funeral is not about the murderer and is not part of  his or her punishment.  It is about the person lost.  Why should the person who caused that loss be allowed to be there?  

December 24, 2008 5:26 PM
 

Brett Singer said:

The only problem I have with this is the "innocent until proven guilty" thing. I mean, it sure looks like she did it, but to announce that she won't be allowed to attend the funeral when it hasn't even been scheduled? Why say anything about it all until the issue actually presents itself?

December 24, 2008 8:58 PM
 

maeby said:

casey doesnt WANT to go to the funeral. she cant face what she did. after she murdered caylee she never went back home, she lived with friends and a boyfriend. she couldnt face going back home and seeing caylees pictures and her room. when leonard padilla bailed her out and she got to go home, she didnt spend the night in her room or caylees because it had "memories" of caylee(pics). her parents said on the news she slept at the foot of their bed the whole time. shes allowed to have pics in her cell, yet she doesnt. not one single picture of her daughter. she cant bear the sight of her. She most certainly does not want to go to the funeral.

December 24, 2008 9:11 PM
 

c said:

I wouldn't want my mother to come to my funeral and shed her fake tears for the camera if I was Caylee, Casey doesn't deserve to say good bye, even if she didn't kill Caylee, she clearly has no love for that child, she should have to live with what she did, let it haunt her, forever.

December 25, 2008 3:12 AM
 

GabbyL said:

Casey Anthony had NO respect for her child when she was alive.There no way she should be able to honor it now.The only reason Casey would ever have for going to the services would be so that she would be out of jail for the day and nothing more.She's so wrapped up in herself that she would not even be thinking about the poor child that she killed.To her it's been about Casey since day one.Let's not let her rob Caylee of her day to be remembered!

December 25, 2008 8:09 AM
 

Paula said:

Okay dumb ass, even if Casey was given the opportunity to attend her daughter's funeral, do you think she'd really want to?! She didn't want a daughter, she got rid of her like she was a piece of garbage. The only thing she wants is a get out of jail free card! Her caring about the search for Caylee was just a ruse but now that the ruse is up and everyone knows Caylee is no longer. She'll need to find another way to steal attention to herself and her "hot bod".

December 25, 2008 11:46 AM
 

Momtoo said:

Casey already said goodbye...the day she MURDERED Caylee

December 25, 2008 11:50 AM
 

Angie Powell said:

Casey will burn in hell.She doesn't deserve to live.

December 25, 2008 8:50 PM
 

Angie Powell said:

Go to  hell Casey!You deserve to die! oh yeah,you don't even have a hot bod!You are a rode hard bitch that hasn't ever been hung up to dry!Burn IN HELL!

December 25, 2008 8:53 PM
 

hal said:

It was not 2 months it was 31 days. And not she should not be allowed to attend the funeral.  

December 25, 2008 11:23 PM
 

Knitty said:

For once, I agree with the majority.  Casey Anthony can burn in hell, etc., and should NEVER be free again, not even to attend her daughter's funeral.  Normally I'd be howling about "innocent until proven guilty" but damn... I don't think I've ever seen someone so clearly guilty.

She murdered that innocent baby so she could spent her time bar-hopping and showing off her "hot body" (ha), and she'd use her baby's funeral as a media event.  *$(!) that.  The funeral is to honor Caylee's memory and for the benefit of the people who loved her.  

December 26, 2008 1:45 AM
 

Laura said:

Apparently I know far less about the case than anyone else posting on here, which is fine with me. I don't know how horribly she did or did not treat her daughter, or if she didn't want her, etc. What strikes me is the utter contempt and hatred on here. Doesn't anyone believe that people can change or truly repent for their actions? Even if she did kill her daughter, who are any of you to say that she is beyond redemption and repentance? Your hatred is sickening.

December 26, 2008 1:28 PM
 

Marcie said:

If you don't know much about a case, why would you write about it? Your post is based on nothing, rendering it worthless.

Perhaps you should write about things you know.

December 26, 2008 4:24 PM
 

Hahaha said:

Laura, miss a chance crow from her high horse?  She won't let something like not knowing the first thing about the case in question stand in her way.

December 26, 2008 7:09 PM
 

Diana said:

Why would you write a post if you apparently have not even bothered to get the facts first.   And you are right about one thing,........there is HATRED for Casey Anthony.  She never loved her daughter, only herself and her numerous hit and run boyfriends.  I am sure if she were allowed (and she doesnt even want to attend) someone would "take her out".  She is the most hated woman on the planet, and her Mother is a very close second!!!

December 27, 2008 4:17 PM
 

redhedgrl said:

although im not sure if a mom who kills their child can be redeemed...everyone has a right to their opinion.  chill pill time marcie!!!

December 27, 2008 6:15 PM
 

Realistic said:

Has no one here read a profile of a sociopath?   Casey Anthony doesn't feel any emotions.  When she cries, she is crying for herself not for her daughter.  No one in her life is more important to her than herself. She is narcissitic, self absorbed and an exhibitionist.  She is also a habitual liar and steals money from whereever she can get it.  When you hear her lies to the police on tapes, she cannot help herself.  She is living in a world where everything she does is justified in her mind.  Her daughter got in the way of her having fun.  Too bad the grandparents didnt take custody of Caylee.  The mother, Cindy, being a nurse was obviously in denial, because Im sure she realized her daughter was not quite right. I looked up the definition of a sociopath/ physcopath and Casey Anthony fits the profile to a tee!!!  Even if she went to the funeral the tears would not be real, because she can't feel any emotion for what she did to her daughter.  The tears would be for herself.  She was jealous of the attention her daughter got from her grandparents.  Her ex-fiance even said that the reason they broke up was because she thought he loved her daughter more than herself. And Cindy Anthony wrote something on line that was later removed regarding her daughter being jealous.  So it does no good to call her a monster, even though she is....because she can not help herself.  She falls into that 1% of women who get this disease and end up doing something horrific to their children.  

December 27, 2008 11:08 PM
 

Nita said:

Realistic,

Very well stated, and I agree with everything you stated with one exception.  A sociopath has a personality disorder, not a disease.  Which in this case is a good thing, she can not claim to be mentally ill, and proclaim innocense.

IMO, after reading every single page of the evidence released, and listening to all the interviews (police and FBI) etc..... there are two possible scenarios, both lead to Casey causing the death of her child.

1. Caylee died accidentally, but at the hands of her mother.  Possibly left in the trunk while Casey had her fun elswhere, or overdose of some meds used to knock her out.

2. Caylee died at the hands of Casey who went into a rage over having to care for her, which was interfering with her party plans.

She then convinced herself of an alternative reality...and refuses to grasp on the actual reality as it would expose the real Casey, and narcissists cannot tolerate any criticism.  

JMO

December 30, 2008 2:33 PM
 

Realistic said:

Nita

You are absolutely correct....it is not a disease and it is a personality disorder!!! I stand corrected.

 I agree with #1 of your theories.I think she tried to medicate her so she could screw her latest boyfriend or go out and exhibit herself and she overdid it.  Another possiblity....she forgot her in the trunk because she was drunk or doing some kind of drug and Cayley died while in the trunk.  Who knows how long she was in there while her mom was getting tattooed or screwed or whatever else she did!!!

   I know everyone hates the grandparents and blames them somehow for shielding their daughter.  I listened to 2 hours of Cindy Anthony talking to the FBI and it was so sad.

She has been trying to make some kind of sense out of all the lies her daughter is telling her.  She has convinced herself (or she had at one point) that what Casey was saying were clues to Caylees where abouts.  She convinced herself that maybe she was being held against her will and that Casey was protecting her somehow.  I dont know what I would do in the same situation....I think she really doesnt want to admit that her daughter could have done this horrific thing to her granddaughter.  I find the grandparents pathetic and it breaks my heart to see them so desparate.  I also listened to the interview the father had with the FBI and I think he knows in his heart that his daughter is sick and is just going along to protect his wife.  

  Nothing in your life prepares you for this!!! So sad for everyone.  Poor Caylee....too bad Casey didnt leave her at home.  She would still be alive.  Casey on the other hand is beyond any help, for there are no medications for her personality disorder.  Jail for life is where she need to be. Then she can never hurt anyone else.

December 31, 2008 12:12 AM
 

Realistic said:

Does anyone know what all the hulaballoo is about Brother Lee having taken video pictures of the crime scene???  I got home late and missed the news....what is going on.  They say that this new evidence could change the whole case?

December 31, 2008 12:25 AM
 

Wondering said:

I hear you, But Casey has already been to Caylee's funeral.

Caylee's casket was a plastic bag.

December 31, 2008 12:34 PM
 

Deb said:

Really do you think,that Caylee would want her there! I think not. She done said her goodbyes,the day she killed her beautiful daughter. Casey belongs in the BIG HOUSE !!!

December 31, 2008 5:09 PM
 

M- said:

Casey absolutely should not be allowed to go to that beautiful little daughter's funeral or memorial!

No one need worry about Casey's punishment....

She will have to answer to "GOD" for the rest of her life...

She will be punished plenty from him!

January 1, 2009 9:51 AM
 

star cat said:

i am concerned that casey will use the funeral to further taint/manipulate the jury pool, media to further her cause - to prevent her conviction for murder of her child.

January 3, 2009 3:30 AM
 

leah said:

Is the possibility that the mother may be mentally ill even taken into account?  I would say that if Caylee had been an infant, this would be an extreme case of post partum depression. At two, however, it's a very different case. I strongly feel that any mother who would kill her beautiful little girl had a reason for it. That reason could be poverty, abuse, or more likely mental illness.

January 7, 2009 5:00 PM
 

Dawn said:

funny isnt it that these mentally ill parents never kill themselves first before they can kill their innocent trusting children, no they are not that mentally ill are they !!!

January 8, 2009 9:28 AM
 

Sara said:

Well in the event that 'GOD' isn't around to punish Casey, I imagine the legal system and all of the executioners on this webpage will.

Should she go to her daughter's funeral? Even if she is innocent, it is still up to her custodians- the police. She is currently being held by them, and its their call. They know more than anyone else about the progress of the case (even the experts on this forum), and more than anyone if she is guilty or not.

All I can say is that all the hatred, rage, and ignorance in the world won't bring that poor little girl back.

January 8, 2009 6:45 PM
 

Anita said:

No she should not be allowed to go to little Caylees funeral,if it wasnt for her Caylee would still be alive.Why would she even want to go,she never cared about that beautiful little girl,men and partying were all she cared about.Ionly hope she gets the death penalty,so little Caylee will get the justice she deserves.

January 11, 2009 12:34 AM
 

mama said:

Laura dear, Most people find the hatred that it took for Casey to Chlorform and then asphyxiate her helpless baby girl 'sickening'. But, hey, who are we to display such ignorant responses in the face of your obvious superior enlightenment? Alas, you will show us the way. Just remember not to actully kick the bodies of victims as you step over them in your rush to publicly defend the perpetrators. But remember also that when people do not respond in a way to reflect and highlight YOUR "compassionate" nature you do not need to pull out and post the old standby words such as HATRED. Really, that word is so overused. Can't you be creative and use another one to signify your high-mindedness? By the way, shaking your finger at people here for expressing angry views, yet showing concern for the feelings of a sociopath is really twisted logic. Expressive blogging VS. Infanticide. Which one sickens you? You seem not to have any problem in showing judgement and hatred for typed words on a page and the people who post them.  

January 11, 2009 3:39 PM
 

mama said:

I tried to post a moment ago, doesn't seem to be taking it. No she does not need to attend. This is now about Caylee's memory, not poor widdle abused and misunderstood Casey.

January 11, 2009 3:48 PM
 

Erica said:

Someone please tell me how cadaver dogs missed the body when they were searching the first time. I do not think Casey is mother of the year but I personallly do not buy the states case. Also please leave George and Cindy alone.They are grieving grandparents.

January 19, 2009 5:30 PM
 

lotory said:

she desire just what she gets no mother did this to her daugtherneeds to be at the funneral. why havent she came with the truth if she didnt do it now that the bodyhas been find.

January 20, 2009 10:44 AM

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