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Foster Mom Loses Job When Muslim Charge Converts

Posted by JeanneSager

A Muslim teenager's conversion to Christianity has prompted British officials to strip her evangelical foster mother of all responsibilities after ten years fostering kids for the government.

The woman, who has fostered eighty kids in the past decade, says she's being persecuted as a Christian. What's more - she says she tried discouraging the girl, now seventeen, from switching religions. 

Not named because of legal reasons, the foster mother told the British Daily Telegraph that she offered the girl alternatives to living a Christian lifestyle, despite her own church-going practices. The caregiver attends an evangelical church and says family services was aware the girl had chosen to attend with her. They were OK with it, until the girl was baptised. 

"I offered to take her to friends or family. But she said to me from the word go: 'I am interested and I want to come [to church]'," the woman told the Telegraph. Her case against the government - an attempt to regain her "job" as a foster mother (which did provide her income), is being funded by the Christian Insitute, which has charged the government with violations of both the girl's and women's right to religious freedom. 

I'd tend to agree that a child of sixteen making a religious conversion is markedly different from a child of five or six (it's one reason I've always argued for baptism later rather than at birth). Teens have some sense of the gravity of decisions, and they're also relatively open to change. Teenagers like to make big decisions and take some control of their own lives. The fact that this girl had a troubled childhood, pushing her out of her home and into foster care, would understandably make her more willing to make a change in her life - especially one that would please a caregiver.

Does that mean the caregiver MADE her do it? Maybe. Maybe not. But maybe this could have all been avoided if the government either a. placed her in a home with a Muslim foster family or b. provided some means for the child to attend Muslim services, then checked up to see why she wasn't attending. At sixteen, she could have answered for herself.

She has answered for herself since. The girl is back with her own parents now and says she supports her former caregiver. She's staying a Christian, and she doesn't regret it. 

So what do you think?

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Comments

 

coolteamblt said:

I don't know. I was raised Anglican, and I left the church at twelve. If I can make a religious decision at that age, why can't this young lady?

February 11, 2009 12:45 PM
 

Nakia said:

Why not simply interview the girl to make sure that there was no undue pressure (no coercion, bribes, or anything of that sort), and if they are satisfied that the girl is making a free choice, let the foster mom continue to care for children? Now, the girl's parents may, get upset over this, which is why I think the agency let the foster mom go.

February 11, 2009 1:06 PM
 

Sue said:

I think no good deed goes unpunished.

February 11, 2009 7:10 PM
 

ChiLaura said:

Nicely put, Sue.

February 11, 2009 9:48 PM
 

Brazen said:

Nakia, I agree that would have been the sanest course of action. The foster mother didn't necessarily have to pressure or coerce this girl at all. She must have been put in the foster care system for a reason, right? It seems equally likely that a kid from a dysfunctional, possibly abusive Christian home, if placed in a stable and supportive home with Muslim foster parents, would start to see Islam in a comforting and attractive light. Either way 16 is more than old enough to make her own religious decisions.

February 11, 2009 10:43 PM

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Jeanne Sager is a writer who lives in upstate New York with her husband, daughter, a dog and too many cats. She refuses to believe motherhood comes with pumpkin appliqued sweaters, and she';s not ready to apologize for having only one child. She writes about raising her kid in her own hometown and the mom stuff she's not embarrassed to own at her blog, Inside Out (http://jeannesager.blogspot.com), she's contributing editor of Grand Magazine, and she's a regular essayist here on Babble

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