I can't possibly be the only person who made the decision to become a parent with my heart as much as my head, right? I mean maybe I run with a remarkably touchy-feely crowd, but most of us didn't lay out pros and cons and weigh all the options and so on; we just did, because it felt like it was time and because the idea of not having kids felt so much more awful than the consequences of having them.
But this list from the Guardian in London made me wonder, along with the baby budget post I posted last week. They cite "Twenty Reasons Not To Have a Baby," and yeah, they are good ones - it wrecks your sex life and makes your marriage strained for awhile, you never have money to spend on yourself and your wants, your carbon footprint balloons, and the lack of sleep is truly astounding.
But, but, really? Isn't part of being a grownup the idea that you actually are not the center of the universe, and so such things as the marked decrease in spending on dining out and food for yourself, the lack of "me time" and the lack of sleep sort of pale in comparison to the idea that you're helping to nuture another human being to their fullest potential and engage in a relationship like none other. If you're seriously the kind of person who could be swayed by a list like this, maybe you shouldn't be having a baby right now. There are really no logical reasons to become a parent, and about a million emotional ones to do so.
Was parenting a logical or emotional decision for you? Can it really be simple logic?
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