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I have long heard this argument and buy it... to some degree.  

I still think that this high profile case is the exception.  Most high rate multiples are a result of medicated cycles with IUI or simple BMS (baby making sex)  I think this doctor was playing mad scientist and would have done this regardless of insurance, possibly regardless of government regulation.

I will be the first to admit, even if insurance had paid for my one feeble IVF attempt I would have wanted to put at least two back.  I have always been in love with the idea of twins.  

I also think couples need to get away from their desperation to be pregnant and focus on a productive path to becoming parents.  

When we were TTC I was very, very comfortable putting three back.  I did a lot of research, talked to a lot of well educated experts.  If I did it again I would still be really comfortable with three.  I would hate for the industry to become so regulated women go form having too much say to too little.

Money aside those fertility drugs are hard on the body.  Even if finances had not limited our attempt I don`t know how many attempts would have been good on my body.  Money is not the only reason to play the odds.

Changing the topic, but I STILL think there is more to the story.   A lot of things simply do not add up.  I am sure her medical records are fudged, we may never know the full story.  I strongly suspect more than 8 embryos were put back.  

Excellent post, Shannon. But, I think the problem goes back to the collateral damage from Reaganomics--regulation. The fact that insurance companies aren't regulated has created this entire vortex of those who play poker with their life savings in the name of parenthood. And then there's the issue of regulating who gets to buy from this invitro clinics. I wonder whether any questions were asked like "what means do you have to support your child? How many other children do you have at home? And what parental plan do you have?" Parenthood, as you and I both know, isn't an activity you engage in on a wing and a prayer. It requires a vision, a flexible one at that, but a vision nevertheless. I'm not so certain Suleman had one other than wanting to be a mother and to have a family.

I'd like a moratorium to be put on the word "Octomom." She has a name! "Octomom" is wrong on so many levels. Please, babble, stop.

Thanks, Shannon, for refraining.

I know the clinic I went to asked why we were there but since I had already given birth once, I'm guessing they assumed they knew I knew what I was doing.

I'm wondering why I should even be asked this question or questions....If I could have gotten pregnant just by having sex, really, no one is saying much of anything to me, but should I require help???  Then anyone is allowed to ask anything???  

I'm all for children being born or given to people who want and love them, and know what they are doing.  But take the most financially stable decent people and spring a newborn on them, and I'm betting they'd be surprised by it all too.

I think it's all about what the inquiries are, and what rules are used to take this information and make clinical decisions about it.  Some questions or rules could be too intrusive, discriminatory, and inappropriate, others actually helpful.