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"Angels in Waiting" Apparently Still Waiting

Posted by Kate Tuttle

For all the ink spilled in the whole Octomom saga, not much has been written yet about the group that has offered to take over the care of the octuplets (free of charge!). Angels in Waiting, which was introduced to the drama via a Fox News interview also starring Gloria Allred, says it's willing to take the eight babies, keep them in "a home" (presumably not Suleman's), and provide the care they need as medically fragile premature newborns. 

All of which sounds fairly generous -- a point repeatedly made by various bloggers who are dying for Suleman to turn over them babies! -- until you read more about them. Angels in Waiting is not devoted to helping stressed-out, possibly mentally ill mothers of multiples take care of their kids -- their goal is to prepare babies born to meth addicts to be adopted out. From their website:

Angels in Waiting is dedicated to moving these special little angels into loving homes with Registered Nurses as their foster parents and then on to adoptive homes in which they could recover or stabilize, grow and now flourish; their troubled pasts overshadowed by their hopeful futures.

Founded by a registered nurse whose own life was changed through the care and ultimate adoption of a micro-premie born to a meth-addicted mother, Angels in Waiting  is clear about its mission: putting babies into homes, not with their birth parents, preferably with a foster mother who is also a nurse. And who works for Angels in Waiting! 

It's a little unclear to me how this model fits into the Nadya Suleman situation. Despite the seemingly endless questions about her ability to care for these babies, she has expressed a steadfast determination to parent all her children. If she proves to be unfit, as many have predicted, I have no doubt child protective services will step in. But CPS's goal is twofold: help the children, and help support the parent so that the family can be re-united. This is not the goal of Angels in Waiting, whose website is filled with gauzily religious testimonials about "tiny ones" and "injured ones" -- and which has a "donate" button on each page. One thing not made clear on the Angels website is how many babies they have actually helped, how big their operation is, or where donated money actually goes (though they do make a big deal about the need for scrapbookers to help create memory books for the angels).

As nutty and publicity hungry as Suleman has appeared so far to be, she has some stiff competition here. 

 

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Comments

 

Shannon LC Cate said:

Oh yeah, I imagine the adoption industry is just coiled to pounce on eight relatively healthy white newborns.  Goldmine.

Ick, ick, ick.

February 25, 2009 11:39 AM
 

Barb said:

They also gave her a fairly quick deadline (I believe it was this week, and Nadya hadn't responded to them at all, from what I saw on the Today show yesterday), which to me screams, "Let's pressure her into thinking we're her only hope."  

I, of course, don't have the answers as to what's best for that family, but it breaks my heart to think of all those children separated. Not only the eight babies going different ways, but also the other six not knowing their siblings, either. The whole situation is heartbreaking.

February 25, 2009 12:02 PM
 

maeby said:

white newborns? Isn't she only half white? The rest of her 6 dont look white and they have the same sperm donor as the 8. I know one baby is blonde, but i think they'll all end up tan (mixed race) like the others.

February 25, 2009 1:25 PM
 

Alice said:

I would rather see them seperated and alive than die altogether.  I think these kids would feel the same way.  Would you die to stay with your siblings?  Lets not be sentimental here.  Birth families are kept together everyday in this country and children die from it all of the time.  Sometimes it is best to be raised by a loving family who can care for you than stay with birth families who cannot care for you.  Would you let your child die to keep it with you?  Whose needs are more important here?  The parent or the child?  Should every drug addict, severely mentally ill or irresponsible parent be allowed to keep all of their children?  NO.  Our society puts the life of the helpless child first.

February 25, 2009 1:28 PM
 

Alice said:

Shannon LC if they are adopted by families in the US is will be through the State of California which is not part of the "adoption industry".  Usually there is no charge to adopt a foster child.  Is the "adoption" industry working with the "abortion industry"?  I know I got two of my kids from third world orphanages with dirt floors, no heat or clean water.  I paid my air fare, US immigation fees, my guides' fees, and hotel.  As for the "industry" they got a one time fee of 2000 dollars to translate my documents, file my requests and arrange my travel.  Hardly a profit if you ask me.

February 25, 2009 1:31 PM
 

ChiLaura said:

So maybe they should be more transparent about where the money goes. And maybe they ARE trying to pressure her into thinking they're her only hope. I'm surprised at this post. For all the shit babble is throwing around about Suleman, I'm surprised that the babble blog isn't thrilled to see the babies taken away from their mentally compromised mother and adopted by some loving families. Oh, wait, their religious? Must be a bunch of NUTS.

The condescension and cynicsim in this post are a bit troubling.  

February 25, 2009 1:51 PM
 

Sue said:

Yikes, Alice. No agency or entity has ruled that OctoMom is unable to care for her children. Many children are abused/injured in foster care all the time, it is RIFE with sexual abuse (not from the foster parents but from the other foster kids).

We can all have our personal feelings about her having so many kids, but I do hope she is able to keep her family together and parent them. That should be the goal of society, as long as there is no abuse.

February 25, 2009 9:06 PM
 

mel said:

U PEOPLE ARE NO ANGELS, GLORIA N THE OTHER NEGATIVE WOMAN. MY GOD. U HAVE NO POSITIVE NO NOTHING. I PITY U PEOPLE. TSK TSK. IM GLAD U ARE NO LONGER HELPING NADYA. U JUST MAKE THINGS WORSE.

March 25, 2009 7:04 PM

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I'm raising a toddler and a teenager in a leafy suburb just outside Boston. In between having kids I've been an editor and writer, most recently with the African American National Biography and the late great Africana.com.

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