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Why Are We So Shocked When Women Kill?

Posted by Kate Tuttle

We may never know why a 28-year-old Sunday School teacher, a woman described as a "mother hen," allegedly killed her own daughter's young playmate, but the Friday arrest of Melissa Huckaby in the murder of eight-year-old Sandra Cantu has rocked the small town in which both lived. Part of the surprise came from the two families' acquaintance -- they both had mobile homes in the same small Northern California town, and the two girls played together often -- and part from the rarity of a woman being accused of this kind of crime. The local police chief was quoted expressing surprise, citing FBI statistics on child murders. 

Huckaby is a pastor's granddaughter and the mother of a five-year-old girl. It was to her house that Sandra was seen skipping in the last known video footage of the girl, whose body was found in a suitcase owned by Huckaby in an irrigation pond. Although some of her friends and relatives are quoted describing Huckaby as a kind mother and maternal figure to her eight younger siblings, others refer to mental and emotional troubles.

When women kill children, it's almost always their own babies and kids, almost always due to postpartum psychosis (a much more rare and severe syndrome than postpartum depression). The kidnapping and murder of another family's child seems particularly chilling when carried out by a woman with kids of her own -- yet it's unsettling to realize how unsurprising we find it when men kidnap and murder little girls. 

Huckaby was arrested after a six-hour interrogation; police have no other suspect in the case. One can only hope that if she's found guilty she will at least no longer pose a threat to any other children, including her own. 

 

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Comments

 

Alice said:

Men usually kidnap and kill children after molesting them.  This woman did not molest the child.

April 13, 2009 6:18 PM
 

Bean's dad said:

It's not unsettling to expect that a murderer is a man, or to express surprise that a killer is a woman. It's simply basing one's expectations on observing the world. We're shocked when things are not as they usually are. Simple enough.

April 13, 2009 9:00 PM
 

Janice said:

Sadly, the latest I saw says she is being charged with rape with a foreign object.

www.sfgate.com/.../article.cgi

April 13, 2009 9:17 PM
 

Katherine Stone said:

Actually, when a woman commits infanticide it's almost never due to postpartum depression.  It's much more likely to be due to postpartum psychosis, which is different and MUCH rarer illness than postpartum depression.  And only a small percentage of women with postpartum psychosis ever commit such a crime.  AND, postpartum depression/psychosis only occur in the first year after childbirth, so these illnesses can't be attributed to women with older children.  

Please be careful when making such statements.  I know it's an innocent mistake on your part, but it's important to correct so that women with perinatal mood and anxiety disorders don't feel stigmatized. Thank you.

April 14, 2009 9:26 AM
 

Kate Tuttle said:

Katherine, thanks for the gentle rebuke. I made the correction in the text, and also want to note it here. When women kill their babies, it is most often due to postpartum psychosis, not postpartum depression. Women who kill their own older children are typically suffering from some other form of mental illness (think Andrea Yates, who drowned her five kids in Texas a few years back).

April 14, 2009 10:04 AM
 

diera said:

Andrea Yates' lastborn child was only six months old when she drowned them, so it still seems possible that she was suffering from postpartum psychosis.

April 14, 2009 10:26 AM
 

Kate Tuttle said:

Okay, I guess I was wrong about Andrea Yates. Sheesh, I can't win on this topic :)

April 14, 2009 10:32 AM
 

The Muser said:

Hey, thanks for making the correction. As someone who suffered from PPD, it's always frustrating to me when PPD and post-partum psychosis are confused. I really appreciate you fixing the mistake!

April 15, 2009 3:02 PM
 

Dr. Ann Blake-Tracy said:

Kate you were not wrong about Andrea Yates. Andrea was TEN TIMES more likely to be suffering antidepressant-induced psychosis (read the package insert) than she was Postpartum Psychosis, but that does not get the attention and compassion from society as rapidly as does the more publicly acceptable Postpartum Psychosis for some reason. So for legal argument Postpartum Psychosis seemed to lean toward a more positive outcome for Andrea. No question about the fact she was in psychosis, just the cause.  

April 15, 2009 5:30 PM
 

Ivy Shih Leung said:

Yes, thanks so much for fixing the wording.  There's still so much confusion concerning the postpartum mood disorders (PPD, postpartum OCD and postpartum psychosis), that it's no wonder so many women are afraid to speak up and get treatment.  I find myself having to defend myself and anyone else who has had PPD whenever these misconceptions pop up.  Nearly everyone I talk to doesn't know the difference between these illnesses, and I have to say it's absolutely maddening.  Only those who have experienced one of these illnesses can appreciate my frustration.  I feel like beating my head against the wall sometimes, I really do.

April 15, 2009 9:47 PM
 

Ivy Shih Leung said:

Yes, thanks so much for fixing the wording.  There's still so much confusion concerning the postpartum mood disorders (PPD, postpartum OCD and postpartum psychosis), that it's no wonder so many women are afraid to speak up and get treatment.  I find myself having to defend myself and anyone else who has had PPD whenever these misconceptions pop up.  Nearly everyone I talk to doesn't know the difference between these illnesses, and I have to say it's absolutely maddening.  Only those who have experienced one of these illnesses can appreciate my frustration.  I feel like beating my head against the wall sometimes, I really do.

April 15, 2009 9:47 PM
 

Graham Strouse said:

It's called murdering your child.

May 8, 2009 9:16 PM

About Kate Tuttle

I'm raising a toddler and a teenager in a leafy suburb just outside Boston. In between having kids I've been an editor and writer, most recently with the African American National Biography and the late great Africana.com.

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