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What Burlesque Can Teach Your Daughter

Burlesque is not the first thing that comes to mind when I consider how to impart healthy self-esteem to girls. But Deirdre Timmons, the director of A Wink and a Smile—a new documentary about the resurgence of burlesque—thinks her 12-year-old’s exposure to burlesque has helped her have "no body image issues whatsoever." As she recently told Halogen Life, "I'd like to think it has a healthy impact on her being around on these women who are comfortable with their bodies."

Timmons was originally drawn to burlesque as a documentary subject in large part because of its deviation from mainstream standards of beauty. She says, “I think a lot of women started to see burlesque happening and thinking, ‘That’s my body up there. That woman is my age, and I thought I was supposed to stop being glamorous and sexy.’”

As part of her work for the film, 42-year-old Timmons studied and performed burlesque herself, which meant that her daughter became very familiar with the medium. “When I was learning how to dance myself,” Timmons said, “I was making my daughter write down the choreography, and I’d be like, ‘Should I bump here or grind here? Which way are my tassels twirling?’”

Depending on Timmons’ routine (I’m assuming she chose not to share a super risqué, striptease-type number with her daughter), that sounds to me like a wonderful mother-daughter bonding experience. Burlesque aside, it can only be beneficial for daughters to see their mothers fully devoted to and fulfilled by their work—particularly when the mother allows her children to share in her work life.

Not being an avid burlesque connoisseur myself, I can’t make a final judgment on its abilities to empower women. But judging from the movie trailer below (NSFW), the women interviewed certainly seem to be interested in burlesque for reasons I fully support: self-confidence, enjoyment, and embracing their eccentricities no matter what other people think.

Still, burlesque is about sex appeal—it’s wonderful for kids to know that rhythm, stage presence, and talent are not dependent upon having a certain kind of body, but you certainly wouldn’t want your daughter coming home with a feather boa and sequined underwear.

Judging from this trailer, would you let your teens or preteens see this movie?

Photo: Halogen Life

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Comments

 

Bunny said:

Ultimately, it's still about being sexy, feminine, and putting your body on display. Beats the Pussycat Dolls, but I'd love to see media for girls that demonstrates that they're worth more than their sex appeal.

May 1, 2009 5:22 PM
 

maeby said:

what Bunny said.

May 1, 2009 5:49 PM
 

martinsgirl... said:

you should watch the first documentary done by HBO on the Velvet Hammer Burlesque Troop. They were the first to bring burlesque back from the dead.

WOW!!! They are of all shape and sizes and are amazing women... or get the

book on Amazon! : ) Michelle Carr of Jabberjaw fame ( for those who live in LA

and are 40ish or so...) started it in the early 90's. wow, wow, double wow!!!

They so deserve their due for celebrating ALL women and changing so many

peoples mindsets. and i would love for my daughter to see that kind of sexuality than half the ads on tv or print these days! : )

May 1, 2009 8:47 PM
 

TolaniLucia said:

I wish people would call Burlesque out for what it is. Stripping with feathers. I paint pin ups for a living and I am very familiar with the burlesque world. Familiar enough to know that there is nothing here for my daughter at a young age to learn about.Later perhaps.That will be her choice. But  I always find it interesting that people can warp the history of a practice to suit their interest in it. Burlesque is a form of stripping hands down. It is as enlightening to women as bootie dancing or pole dancing. Yes these forms of dance can all be empowering in different ways but as adult entertainment should never be sought out sources of empowerment for our young daughters.

May 2, 2009 9:36 AM
 

Trixie said:

Hmm. I think the concept of burlesque, and the acceptance of all body types, is a good reason for young adult women (not young girls) to see this film. But judging from the professional dancers featured just in this trailer, it's really pretty much erotic entertainment by model thin women with perky breasts. How different is that from music videos?   I'd like to see the film, because of the first-person aspect with the ladies in the class, but I would never kid myself that it's any different than the typical use of women's bodies as entertainment or to sell tickets.   Why do we always have to be on display??

May 2, 2009 1:23 PM
 

Brett Singer said:

I think I'm somewhat with Trixie (and maeby and Bunny) on this one. Isn't it still objectifying women? I mean, I like looking at women's bodies, but I don't pretend that it's artistic or empowering for them.

May 3, 2009 12:15 PM
 

leahsmom said:

I understand - and agree with - the comments about how burlesque is about bodies and sexiness as much as it is about anything else - and really, shouldn't we be teaching young women that their bodies aren't something that we value them for?  

However, in a world where we do value sexiness and appearance very highly, and it's clear that this is the case - I'm in support of burlesque for at least putting bodies out there that aren't airbrushed and anorectic.  Given the way America is today, I support this as a balancing influence.

May 6, 2009 12:27 PM
 

A_young'in said:

I am the daughter of which everyone is discussing. I just want to add that watching these women struggle with themselves, but eventually overcoming their fears, and excepting themselves for who they are, has definetly not had a negative impact on my life. I do not want to become a burlesque dancer or a stripper, i still want to be a doctor.

May 6, 2009 8:41 PM
 

Flower said:

Dear TolaniLucia, each burlesque act has a story. The acts are not only about being sexy and "pleasing" men. Have you ever seen burlesque? Didn't think so. Also, if you have ever seen the audience at a burlesque act there aren't any creepy perverts, or a lot of men at that. This movie was showed for a bunch of women at an old folks home, and they looooved it. Burlesque is different in different places, so in some places you could see burlesque and it could be like stripping, where as in other places it is like old fashioned vaudeville.  

May 6, 2009 8:56 PM

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Hannah Tennant-Moore is a Brooklyn-based freelance writer whose work has appeared or is forthcoming in Best Buddhist Writing (2008); The Sun; Guantanamo: Inside the Prison, Outside the Law; Tricycle; Turning Wheel (as the winner of the Young Writers Award); and elsewhere.

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