I was recently accused of inciting a mommy war between the “stay at homes” and the “working mothers.” I honestly out-right guffawed. Because as a working mom who spends part of her time working from home, I’ve always felt sort of betwixt and between. And respected the heck out of both sides!
Not to mention the list of stay at home dads and working dads I know (including some of my fellow ‘Derby writers).
And now to show all you stay-at-home full-timers how much I think you’re worth, a little math from Salary.com. In the “real” world, you’d be raking in six figures.
Based on ten daily functions described by a survey of some twelve thousand stay-at-home moms (why they didn’t include dads I don’t know – those numbers are growing!), the average stay-at-homer should be earning $122,732 a year. In other words – that’s what they’d be paying someone else to do all of those duties.
The reason I love this number? Because everytime one of my stay-at-home mom friends tells me she feels like she should kowtow to her working partner, I can throw it at her. See, you’re not just worth something as a human being. You’re also worth something in the world of family finance.
My biggest contention has always been that those of us who work out of the home usually PAY someone to watch our children. So a stay-at-home mom or dad is saving the family that money.
Then throw in how many more take away meals are consumed in families where both partners work (because as Keri noted the other day, the finances weigh out – it’s cheaper to cook it than to buy it). Ironically, several comments left on Keri’s post came from parents who don’t believe a baking parent’s time is worth anything special. This survey begs to differ.
The Salary.com survey goes on to list eight other occupations filled by a stay-at-home parent, including “housekeeper, computer operator,
facilities manager, van driver, psychologist, laundry machine operator,
janitor and chief executive officer.”
The survey puts a working parent’s “at home” salary around $76,184. You have to tack on their actual wages to come up with a fair number – but I’d reckon you then have to subtract daycare, take away meals, etc.
So who’s better? Neither one. And I say that as a betwixt and between parent. We’re all just doing what works for us. But we’re all worth something – just ask our kids.
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