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I guess my husband isn't as annoying as the imaginary ones she has cooked up or the husbands of her friends.

But being a single mom is probably better than being unhappily married. I like my husband. Someone to help out and do the cooking and take out the garbage.  I hate taking out the garbage.  And vacuuming! And it doesn't hurt that he's easy on my eyes.  

Call me smug!

I'm pretty lucky in that my husband and I seem to hate different chores.  Most of the time, I do the ones he hates and vice-versa.  I guess not all marriages are like that.

Single mom: openly relieved to be the only one in charge (which may be part of the reason I'm single ;))

I like having a partner.  When I was so sick I had to go to the ER he took me and watched our newborn for me while I was in the hospital.  He brought her up twice a day to nurse and pick up my pumped milk.  He helps so much more than I know.  He is their other parent.  I like a democratic family.  I like my child having two sets of grandparents, two heritages to learn about.  My husband never complains about my cooking or cleaning.  That was the 50's, not today.  

JJ my huisband is so much like yours!!

My mum was a single mother and she openly admitted how happy she is that she doesn't have another child (aka husband) to care for

I was single for four years with my oldest...hated it.

I'm glad I don't have to do this alone, because I'd suck at it.  

It was quite an animated discussion on Motherlode! I posted to say single motherhood works for me--in fact, I love it. It's an intensely individual decision and how easy it is depends so much on the resources you have. The thing I took away from that discussion is that all parents deserve to be supported, not judged.

I am married to an active duty United States Naval officer.  He has been underway (out to sea) for more than half of our 8 month old daughter's life and approximately 1/3 of our 3 and a half year olds life.  As a result, I have experienced single Mommy life and married Mommy life.  

Sometimes it's easier when he is away because the girls and I get into our routine and I only have 2 people relying on me.  On the "bad" single parenting days, I yearn for his assistance and comforting presence.  On the "good" single parenting days, we're ok although it's sad that he misses so many experiences and celebrations.  The girls miss their Daddy when he is away, as do I.  Sometimes when he is around, I feel like I have a ton of extra responsibilities and commitments but I am usually glad he is here.  He is a good Daddy and quite helpful, partially because he is trying to make up for the time apart and partially because he loves them to pieces and wants to have a positive influence on their lives.

Having experienced both positions, I prefer to have him here.  We made our family together and I want him to experience life with them as much as his duties allow.  That being said, every person needs to do what is right for them.  To all the single Mamas out there, I salute you!  It's a tough job, especially when it is all Mommy, all the time.  And to all the Married Mamas out there, I salute you too!  Having a partner around does not necessarily make it any easier.      

So much depends on the people involved.  I didn't want kids until I wanted a family with my husband.  He's not a big child, he is a grown-up.  I think a lot of people never grow up, and being married to one of them would make parenting an actual child harder.

I have been in both, married 17 years, 3 kids, he left now I've been a single mom 5 years.  I love being a single mom.

If I were married to a loving, helpful man, that would be nice too.  It's hard work, but us tough moms just get tougher with this challenge :) (especially those of us with severely disabled children:)  God bless you all

Mary of Marysfreebies.com

ive been both as well and although i was single with my fist, i dont think i could do it with the three now. It's nice having someone help out, but it does seem to come with more work. sometimes i feel like i have 4 kids. i guess it really comes down to how well you and the other parent mesh.

and we totally have cereal for dinner and leave our gym clothes on the floor sometimes ;)

Single mom here, most of the time liking it.  Lots of times I'll see my married friends doing extra chores, not being able to make decisions on the own and having extra obligations...those are the times I'm happy to be on my own.  Then there are times when my friends husbands watch their kids while they go out and play, sleep in or run out on a quick errand and I think...that would be nice.

Ultimately, if I could afford a few extra hours of childcare and a housekeeper to come in twice a month, I would say being a single mom is bliss.  AS it is, it's still pretty great.

I don't think its a black or white answer...most days, I am happy that I have "backup" in the form of my husband and love of my life.  Only very rarely have I felt that I'm dealing with two children instead of one.  I suppose that if he wasn't as hands on and involved as he is, I may feel differently, even if as a couple, we were happily married.  But its not a question I've had to address myself, personally.  

I think women should stop marrying immature boys. That would help. I married a great man who is a huge help with the kids and the housework and the cooking. The always-available sex is nice too. I was single with my first one and with my husband for the second two. I don't know how I would have done it without him. Especially with the last one. I had a 5 year old, 1 year old and a newborn who came via c-section. There is no way I could have safely managed that household. My husband is a wonderful. Even when we don't agree, I am glad he is there.

I am married to an active duty alaska as a navi officer.

I think women should stop marrying immature boys.

married women is also happy because she got a licence of the sex.she want kids after married she orn it but unmarried dont born