I call it "caving", but you can call it whatever you want. You know
exactly what I'm talking about. Yes, it's our apparent inability to say
"No" to our kids and mean it. I know I have been guilty of this, and
worse, sometimes I can say no and sometimes it's impossible, which
makes me...inconsistent. (I know! You're gasping here from incredulity!)
But hearing "No" and hearing it often is good for kids: "What makes for happy and successful kids are kids
who know how to handle disappointment, who can delay gratification and
who persist at a task."
Can
you please explain this to my relentless seven-year old? Or the
three-year-old who pretends he doesn't know the meaning of the word and
then goes into a fake cry when it dawns on him I serious, a cry so fake
and yet still holding the power to squeeze my heart into a twisted,
dried-up shriveled mass of "I hurt my baaaabyyyy!"?
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