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  • Kids Under Pressure

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    I suppose it's hard, as a parent, to find that nice balance between encouraging our kids to excel and grinding their little souls into the dirt with a "BE THE BEST!" set of expectations. But wow, I read this story of anxiety-riddled little kids terrified of letting their parents down and thought, "Ugh." How sad is that, kids faking injuries so they don't risk failure on the sports field? Or having a sport go from fun to frightening just because mom is watching? I guess I'm lucky my kid could give a rat's ass what I think of her t-ball performance, because I'd hate to send her into this kind of panic just because she dropped the ball.

    At the risk of getting all afterschool special on y'all, one of the lessons we've worked on as a family is the whole idea of mistakes as an opportunity to learn. And I loved what Jessica had to say on this topic a while back. In my other job as a trainer, I sometimes see adults who have been so traumatized by aggressive coach parents that they are afraid to even attempt anything athletic. I wish these grown ups could have played on my kid's t-ball team, where there is no such thing as keeping score and it's not uncommon for the batter to hug the first base player on the way to home.   


  • Child Pose Works for American Kids Too

    Last week, we told you about how kids in Japan are taking after-school yoga classes to dissipate some of the immense academic pressure and bullying that are a big part of their young lives. That made me wonder about how many kids in our own country are taking yoga as an anxiety-reliever and how many American parents are standing just beyond their children's mats, twitchy and yelling at 8-year olds, "Warrior pose! Airplane pose! COME ON! You know that one! Jesus Christ, get it together!"

    The good news is that the New Age has indeed hit the U.S. (in case you haven't visited Oregon or Berkeley or your local vitamin shop) and yoga classes are bountiful for school-age children to get bendy, work out their frustrations, have some healthy activity and possibly experience some enlightenment. And of course, not every American parent is one of those assholes on the sidelines of a soccer game (or ice rink or yoga class) that you'd personally like to take a cleat to.

    All snark and fear of my son one day being involved in organized sports aside, I really do like to hear about classes like this one where kids are doing yoga. And even if the teacher seems as if maybe she popped four or five too many tabs of Triphala before class, the kids clearly feel a bond with her that is important for teens and 'tweens and even toddlers to feel with trusted adults that are not the people who take away the car keys and change their diapers. I am all for opportunities for children to stretch their bodies and their experiences and to learn how to breathe deeply. Yoga for kids, both here and in other countries, can only do us all good. 


  • Homework Stressing Out Kids

    homework helpI ran across an article online where a mother was wondering what to do. Her daughter, who was in kindergarten, was getting really stressed out over her homework. The problem is her child is a perfectionist and the mom was wondering if she should ignore the problem or help the little girl with her homework.

    I think it is clear that if your child is having problems with homework you should help them. Fortunately the author of the article agrees. 

    At first when I read this I thought the mom was asking if she should do her daughter's homework for her. I want to say I am four square against that. The kid will never be self-reliant if you take on her responsibilities this early. I'm glad that wasn't the question, but I am concerned about a child getting that worked up about her kindergarten homework. I'm no child development specialist, but I think beyond just helping her out this mom might want to check into relaxation techniques to help her daughter calm down. If she is this jacked up about her homework now, she is going to have a nervous breakdown when she gets to long division.

    Who is giving kindergarteners homework anyway? I never got homework when I was five. Did you? 


  • Effects of Fighting on Children: Not Good

    Argue in front of your kids? You are a bad bad person.  Well, actually, you're human.  And you suck.  But really, some of the fighting (or "rowing" as the Brits say) might be helpful from the "this is how real people live, Junior" department, only if you don't get out of hand.  Chair-throwing anyone?

    A study in Wales finds that children often blame themselves for parental fighting and as a result kids frequently experience failing grades and exhibit other stress indicators when they are unsure about causes of parental conflict.  Not surprisingly, the less parents communicate effectively with one another and their children, the higher the kids' anxiety.

    Lesson learned.  If you want your child to do well in school, at least have the decency to shut the bedroom door before you get your yell on.


  • Lessening the Impact of Divorce on Children

    Divorce is one of life's greatest stresses (second only to death of a spouse).  And for kids, the stress is amplified as one parent moves out and other routines and caregivers shift.  Many children are often left to fend for themselves emotionally during divorce, as parents become wrapped up in their own financial, emotional, and relationship issues.

    Parents going through divorce are well-advised to watch for signs of stress in their kids, including failing grades, withdrawal, and fighting or tantrums.  To ameliorate kid's divorce-related stress, parents can refrain from arguing in front of the children, or saying nasty things about the other parent, keeping consistent routines, and making sure kids maintain contact with both parents.

    Divorce is a horribly stressful time but it can be less so if parents remember to put kids first, which is always much easier said than done, don't you think?



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