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Did You Give Your Son a Criminal's Name?

Madeline Holler — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 22:26:00 GMT

I KNEW we should have gone with Michael!

My husband and I had protracted discussions on what we should name our new son. We went with Earl (shut up, it's cute!) for many reasons, including the fact that it wasn't super common. But according to the science, or maybe crazy science, we've predisposed the boy to criminal behavior.

A University of Pennsylvania study argues that boys with unpopular names may be more likely to break the law.

From Live Science (via The Daily Beast):

Results show that, regardless of race, juveniles with unpopular names are more likely to engage in criminal activity. The least popular names were associated with juvenile delinquency among both blacks and whites. ...

While the names are likely not the cause of crime, the researchers argue that "they are connected to factors that increase the tendency to commit crime, such as a disadvantaged home environment, residence in a county with low socioeconomic status, and households run by one parent."

"Also, adolescents with unpopular names may be more prone to crime because they are treated differently by their peers, making it more difficult for them to form relationships," according to a statement released by the journal's publisher. "Juveniles with unpopular names may also act out because they consciously or unconsciously dislike their names."

Earl, despite your future life of crime, Mommy will always love you. And totally blame herself for your actions.

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Baby Name Trends for 2009

Amy Kuras — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 00:01:00 GMT

They’re baaacck....

The ladies who write nameberry.com and a bunch of baby naming books have now graced us with the 15 hottest baby name trends of 2009. The biggest big-picture trend (their words, not mine)? Depression era names – not inspired by the current economic climate but by Mad Men. Yes, we’re supposedly going to start seeing names like Don, Betty, Joan and Peggy be trendy again.

But oh it gets better. “Plus stylish new occupational names - Gardener, Ranger, Miller - are likely to gain in appeal for both boys and girls as actual jobs become more scarce.”

Give your kid a job name because you don’t have one? So I suppose around here we can expect to see lots of little “Autoworker,” “Newspaper Reporter” and “Scandal-Plagued Ex-Mayor”s?

And the, no lie “trendiest trend-related trend”? Names that are rejected by trendy parents before they even get popular, because of their similarity to other popular names or association with high-profile celebrities. ‘Kay. People not wanting their kid to be the fifth Ava in first grade is somehow a trend, now?

And supposedly using nicknames is a trend that will cross the pond from England. Good news for my kids, both of whom go by cute nicknames of very, very traditional names. Which, again, trend? Or just about every baby I have ever known ever?

I will give them this though — they named the Boy Name ready to jump the shark as the “aden” names – Braden, Hayden, Caden, etc. I thought Jaden was the coolest name ever when my college roommate gave it to one of her sons – ELEVEN YEARS AGO. Now? It’s the Rachel haircut of names.

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Last-Minute Baby Namers

Madeline Holler — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 19:07:00 GMT

I'll admit, I've never had an appreciation for parents who wait "to meet" their child before figuring out the kid's name.

I've also had less than charitable thoughts about those parents so convinced they were having a boy that they didn't have a girl's name for back up, or vice versa. Just in case. Especially if the only thing confirming the baby's gender was some kind of wedding-ring-dangled-over-a-belly trick and not, you know, a DNA sample or an ultrasound.

Of course, all my judginess has come back to bite me. I'm hours/days/a couple of weeks (?) away from giving birth for a third time. And if it's a boy (we don't know, but apparently I'm "carrying low"), we're totally screwed.

I thought we had it all figured out until last night and, indeed, if it's a girl, we're set. But I had been wavering on our chosen boy middle name and thought I'd go over it one last time with the husband. I rattled off the name.

"Sure, it's fine," my husband said.

"Fine? The middle name ... or the first name?" I asked.

"Both. They're both OK," he said.

Just OK?

"They're OK," he repeated."The names are fiiiiiine."

My husband is content with giving his son an "OK" name, a "fine" name?

"But you picked that name ... and now you're just fine with it?" I accused/clarified. "Is 'fine' good enough for our son?"

"Sure."

Sure?

We hunkered down at his laptop and started the search, again. Hadn't we already done this months ago?

In hour two of the frantic search, I made the unfortunate mistake of suggesting we draw from his Polish heritage. Maybe we'd get some better-than-fine ideas.

So we Googled a Polish baby names site. Suddenly, he's doing that kind of jazz hands/name-in-lights gesture saying, "Vlodek! We'll name him Vlodek!"

On second thought, "fine" is good enough for me. Or what the hell: let's wait to meet the baby. Because surely you don't look at a newborn and think, "Vlodek, my son, my beautiful baby Vlodek."

Right?

Were you a last-minute baby namer? (Got any leftovers?) And what's the deal with naming the third child? The first two were sooooo easy!

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Return of the son of stuff YUPPIE parents like

Brett Singer — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 15:00:00 GMT

Because too much is never enough. And besides, didn't you want to see this photo at least one more time?

1. Organic everything: from a commenter. I've succumbed to some of this, partly because, living in Manhattan, the cost difference isn't as great as it used to be, and sometimes the quality is better. I also admit that I feel less guilt giving my kids "organic" pre-packaged crap than I do giving them "chemical-laden" pre-packaged crap. It's still crap, but it's ORGANIC crap.

2. Classes and activities: yes, from the same commenter. She said, "mommy and me classes" but in my experience it's much more than that. Around here, it seems like everyone has their kids doing something all flippin' day. A parent once told me that she didn't understand why Kindergarten went until 3pm; she wished it ended at noon so her kid could take advantage of everything Manhattan had to offer. I replied that I thought Kindergarten should go until 8pm. We don't talk much anymore.

3. Kids' music that parents can enjoy: All parents have benefited from the boom in kiddie rock. While I am of course very glad that children's music has evolved beyond Raffi (who really isn't that bad) and Kidz Bop (which is), sometimes this preciousness can go a little too far. Sure, anything by Dan Zanes or The Dirty Sock Funtime Band is better than Barney's Greatest Hits, but a little James Taylor, Peter Paul and Mary, The Beatles – lots of great "adult" music out there that kids might like.

4. Taking their children to live rock 'n' roll shows: "Alternadad" Neal Pollack brought his little one to see The Hives, a rather loud quasi-punk act. I spotted two sets of parents who had dragged their children to see Yaz at the Beacon theater (I myself was dragged by my wife, but that's another story). When commenters on Gawker are giving good parenting advice ("Neil [sic], seriously--ear plugs"), you know something is out of whack in the universe.

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Brett Singer — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 14:00:00 GMT

If you want to know why YUPPIE is written in CAPS, check out the comments on Redsy's post.

Also, a word of explanation for our younger readers: "yuppie" is a term that was coined in the 1980's. It means "Young Urban Professional." Obnoxious spin off terms include "buppie" (black urban professional) and "guppie" (gay urban professional, which is at least vaguely amusing). In general, I think that the term "yuppie" is (like myself) color-blind, so we'll just stick with that. (My color-blindness mostly means I need help choosing ties, but it also refers to non-clothing related issues.)

And now – the stuff!

1.   Fertility treatments: maybe this is a Manhattan thing, but I've seen several signs in drug store windows advertising help getting your health insurance to help pay to get you pregnant. My theory (unfounded and unresearched) is that there are a large number of parents having children later in life, and also a huge number of older dads starting second families with their second wives.
2.   Wooden toys: this is from a commenter, and it's totally true. I fully expect some "mompreneur" to start selling unadorned two-by-fours in colorful packaging. (Hang on, I need to copyright that idea.)
3.   SUV's: hopefully the price of gas will put the kibosh on these. There are other ways to schlep a family around town.
4.   Hybrid cars: for the parents who don't want SUV's. It's all about extremes, people.
5.   Feeling entitled to brunch: In some cases, even men want to emulate the Sex and the City gals.

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The bra for your butt

Brett Singer — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 17:00:00 GMT

Remember the manzier aka "The Bro" from Seinfeld? That was a joke. But the Brum, a bra for the female heiny, is real.

Yahoo! Shine covers (no pun intended) this latest trend in undergarments. As Jennifer Romolini puts it, "Butt is the new boobs. In fact, the hottest look in lingerie is actually something let's call butt cleavage and the best way to show off your butt cleavage is with a Brum."

BlackBook magazine offers further insight: "Anal cleavage has gained popularity this century with the rise of low-cut jeans (or should I say descent), the emergence of the whale tale, and most recently, posterior-revealing lingerie."

One of the two times I've been lucky enough to fly first class (frequent flier miles people – save them) I shared the flight with Victoria's Secret uber-model Adriana Lima. When we arrived in New York, Lima stood up and pulled her jeans down so that they revealed a little bit of what, on a fat guy, would be called Plumber Butt. On her, it was, well, something else. As far as I can recall she wasn't wearing ass-enhancing undies, but this was a few years ago so who knows. (And before someone says, "why were you looking at her butt?" it was first class, it was a small cabin, and she looked at me first! OK, no she didn't.) The point of the story is that there are indeed women who like to show off a little of what they've got going on back there (especially in New York, I guess), but is there a need for a specific piece of clothing to help them do it? I always thought that the thong was the preferred garment for showing your nether-cheeks. In fact, the Brum seems to cover more rear acreage than the traditional thong, although that could be in order to push out certain areas.

One commenter on Shine says that this is no different from the Miracle Bra, but to my male eyes it seems a little different. This also isn't the first product to act as a tush-pusher; Shine also covered Booty Pop panties, which are designed to make your booty POP(!).

So. IS this any different from a Miracle Bra? And would you wear a Brum?

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Weekly Check-Up: Laugh Your Yoga Off

Kelly Mills — Thu, 08 May 2008 23:01:00 GMT

I swear every day a new kind of yoga is created by someone. Guess one growing trend is laughter yoga, where you, you know, laugh as part of the practice. "'Kids laugh about 400 times a day, and adults only about 15,' notes Barb Fisher, a certified laughter yoga leader..." Yes, you can get certified to teach people how to giggle in a healing way, and once again, children hold the answers. Oh, help me see the world through the eyes of a child. Hey, if you aren't a class kind of person, may I suggest you read my stuff, cuz I guarantee to make you laugh as much as your average kid or I'll give you your money back.

I know I'm far too curmudgeonly for my own good, and why I'm picking on yoga with all the injustice in the world is beyond me, but how come we have to take special classes to laugh? And why do we have to sell it by pumpimg up the health benefits of laughing? (Which include, by the way, stress relief, muscle toning, and, um, help with digestion and constipation. See? Just thinking about constipation made me giggle right there.) I swear, soon we'll have to have special crapping yoga to keep us regular and cuddling yoga so the people in our lives feel loved. Anyhow, perhaps these classes are totally awesome and soon when celebrities are asked how they stay so thin, they'll swear it's the laughter yoga that gave 'em the six-pack abs. But we'll all know the truth: It was totally my writing that did it.

Eye-Roll-Inducing "Parenting Trends"

Amy Kuras — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 22:03:00 GMT

One of the first unofficial lessons of Journalism 101: if it happens three times, it's a trend. Or, if it happens to you and at least one of your friends, it's a trend.

So I tend to view stories like this one from Parents.Com about the top 10 parenting trends for 2008 with great skepticism, to say the least. And if you're a regular reader of Strollerderby (and you should be) none of these are news to you. I'll list them anyway, to spare you the nine zillion irritating ads that cover the screen when you're trying to go through the article.

"Creative" baby names. "Semaj" from James? Seriously, people? Just, no. Bill already riffed on this funnier than I can ("silent q" indeed).
Toy safety. Suddenly everyone wants their toys made in the USA. Good luck with that!
Working mothers bringing babies to the workplace. Again, please no. I already aired my feelings about this in a comment on Other Amy's post on the topic – and apparently am in the minority, in a big way.
Sophisicated nurseries. Can't argue with this one, anything I say would solely be out of raw, naked envy for people with money and taste enough to pull these off.
Famiies traveling together more — groups of friends going on vacation, so each set of parents can trade off kid-watching and grownup time. Again, this sounds genius.
Holding baby showers for 2nd and 3rd kids. H to the ELL to the NO. One baby shower and one wedding shower per person per lifetime. End of story. Anything else that's a gifting party, outside of really unusual circumstances, is greedy. Although looking at the comments on this post by Kelly, I totally want a blessingway now
Personalized baby web sites. No problem with these, but our set of faraway grandparents are my in-laws, who are in their 70s. And refer to emails as "letters." So, yeah, not sure how well that would work for us.
Birthday parties with physical activity themes. Don’t they all devolve into malestroms of screamy, running kids, themes or no?
More sentimental push presents for mothers. Rachael already ever-so-eloquently expounded on this.

Discipline — saying no to spoiled kids. This is a trend? A new trend? The hell? What is wrong with us?

I've never been especially trendy. Articles like this one make me glad.

Photo: Time

Trendwatch: Ever More Babies

Madeline Holler — Thu, 17 Jan 2008 13:37:00 GMT

Did you have a baby in 2006? Here in the United States? You're so trendy!

Turns out, the product of your 2006 childbirth might be the beginning of a new baby boom. Now, cautious as demographers are, they're only calling it a "boomlet." But still, they may drop the suffix if a few more years of dramatic rises in the country's birthrate continues. Here's what's going on:

From AP:

The nearly 4.3 million births in 2006 were mostly due to a bigger population, especially a growing number of Hispanics. That group accounted for nearly one-quarter of all U.S. births. But non-Hispanic white women and other racial and ethnic groups were having more babies, too.

This possible new boom is just in time (actually, a little late) for the old baby boom, which experts say started in 1946 (the first baby boomer retiree applied for Social Security benefits in October this year). Let's get those 2006-ers raised and in the workforce so they can pay for their fore-boomers who are going to live right up until the end of time (and someone needs to pay for them). In any case, the 2.1 birthrate means the population is now replacing itself -- an economically good thing.

Why the sudden boom(let)? There are good and bad reasons:

... a decline in contraceptive use, a drop in access to abortion, poor education and poverty.

There are cultural reasons as well. Hispanics as a group have higher fertility rates — about 40 percent higher than the U.S. overall. And experts say Americans, especially those in middle America, view children more favorably than people in many other Westernized countries.

"Americans like children. We are the only people who respond to prosperity by saying, `Let's have another kid,'" said Nan Marie Astone, associate professor of population, family and reproductive health at Johns Hopkins University.

You know how it looks like all of Hollywood (and Babble) is giving birth (thereby keeping Famecrawler alive in perpetuity)? It's actually Hollywood following the baby trend, not setting it.

Now, you didn't answer me. Did you have a baby in 2006? Well, where are my manners? A very belated and heartfelt congratulations!

(Grey's) Anatomy of a Baby Naming Trend

Madeline Holler — Mon, 07 Jan 2008 23:04:00 GMT

What kind of embarrassing is it when you realize that you named your kid after a TV character? Because nobody does that on purpose, right? It’s TV. It’s fleeting. It’s getting canceled next season. Nobody actually says, “We’re naming her Olivia. We’re big fans of Law & Order SVU!”

So all you parents of an Addison under the age of 2, tell me: where’d you come up with that name? ABC Thursdays, 9 p.m./8 central? That’s what I thought, you Grey’s Anatomy automatons! Well, prepare yourselves for cast reunions at your weekly playgroups, because your Addison is going to be fighting over crayons with a lot of Baileys, Izzys (Izzies?), Callies and Jacksons.

The fastest rising baby names in 2007 have some kind of connection to Grey’s Anatomy and its stars, according to Baby Center. Let’s start with Addison, the name of a hot OB/Gyn who was spun off onto her own series Private Practice. She jumped 20 spots in the name rankings to land in the Top 10 names.

And Isobel, the character played by Katherine Heigl, moves an average of six spots a year since the show’s launch in 2005.

Bailey, the name of the no-nonsense doctor with a heart of gold, was the fastest rising, jumping 39 spots.

Callie, new to the Top 100 list, is, don’t you know, the name of Dr. Torres on the show.

Over in the land of boys, Jackson jumped 10 spots and is now in the Top 10. Who’s Jackson on the show? Well, this is where Baby Center’s arguments for the show’s influence gets tenuous.

They say: Actor Justin Chambers (who plays Dr. Alex Karev) has a daughter named Isabella and a son named Jackson.

You know, I’ve been in the baby name business for at least seven years now and let me tell you, I’ve met enough pre-2005 Jackson’s to fully staff a city hospital starting in the year 2020.

While I’m at it, there has always been at least one Isobel in every park too – though rather than Izzie, the pre-2005 nom de play of choice was always Bella.

So maybe Grey’s Anatomy isn’t as influential on names as the website argues. Maybe … maybe! … writers for Grey’s Anatomy’s pilot went to a kid's birthday party in 2002 and named the characters after the guests who brought the best presents.

Now, tell me. Why did you name your baby Isobel?

Webkinz Shortages? Oh Darn.

Karen Murphy — Sat, 24 Nov 2007 18:42:00 GMT

Instinctively I stay away from the more annoying toy trends. Cabbage Patch dolls? Bleah. Beanie babies? Puleeze. Webkinz? Not in this house, thank you.

And hey, I'm not the only one who feels this way: "Webkinz are the most annoying trend since Beanie Babies, which were the most annoying trend since Cabbage Patch Kids. They also are among the most cleverly marketed products ever."

I can't argue with any of that. Especially the last bit, which is apparently why the things are in short supply.

A few months ago I saw a display of Webkinz at a home and garden store, of all places. The display was empty. At the time I chalked it up to the fact that it was a home and garden store and not a toy store, but apparently the annoying little creatures have a life of their own (which is I guess the point).

So have you and your kids jumped on this trend? Do you think they teach kids lessons of responsibility or are they basically crack for kids and a colossal waste of time? And what do you think of hot toy trends in general?

Call Me, 'K?: Kiddie Business Cards

Madeline Holler — Mon, 12 Nov 2007 18:01:00 GMT

I’m ahead of the trends, I’m ahead of the trends! The New York Post is reporting (here via UPI) that the latest mini-me trend for New York parents is business cards for their kids. Moms and dads hand them out on the playground to aid in the all-important play date arrangements. The pre-printed cards are actually legible (as opposed to eyeliner on a receipt) and returned phone calls have increased ten-fold (I just made that up).

Savvy stationery shops have created a special line just for kids – embossing slogans like “My Crib or Yours?” A set of costs around $60 per box. Sales have tripled since last year.

I’m never ahead of trends so I’m just breathless in bringing this to you. I made cards for my daughter after we moved last year and she handed them out to her friends at school. Sure, I did hers on my computer. And, true, the laser ink rubbed off because I printed them on high-gloss stock. Still! Cutting edge! I can’t recommend the kid card enough.

New! Trend! Fancy Shmancy PJs For Kids

Kelly Mills — Tue, 28 Aug 2007 12:29:00 GMT

You can almost feel your brain cells pop as you read this. By way of Jezebel, the latest must-have kid styley item is luxury pajamas. I guess more and more folks are forking over big bucks for designer sleepwear. I love this quote: "...parents looking for new ways to spend their money are no longer limiting that pursuit to the time when their children are awake." Now there's a problem I want. And if any parents out there are still looking for ways to spend their money, I have some suggestions, and they all involve a simple, tasteful check made out to "Kelly Mills, Blog Whore."

The quotes make this story. One pajama madame says, "...'the expectations appear to be higher than ever for your child to achieve academically, socially, athletically starting at a very young age. So we as parents want to give them all the tools necessary to do that, so that may include piano lessons at 2, dance lessons at 3, soccer at 4 and along the way the best of the best in everything from food to clothing.'" Fancy pajamas, it seems, are just one part of raising a child that will succeed in every area of life. Wow, we are slipping as parents! Also, another parent/pajama hocker says, "'When you are invited to spend the weekend at someone's house or they have a sleepover you want them to look good, you want to show them off.'" Whoa. When our kid has a sleepover we're more concerned that she doesn't freak out after getting a syrup high from too many waffles, and I think I sent her to the last slumberfest in (gasp) mismatched, hand-me-down Scooby Doo pjs. I get it now, my sleepwear laxness is ultimately dooming my child to failure. I may as well just hand her a fast food uniform to put on over her raggedy, formaldehyde-soaked sleeper.

Minivan Makeover: The Pirate Schooner

Stefania Pomponi Butler (CityMama) — Sat, 28 Apr 2007 16:03:00 GMT

We've talked before about how the country is going pirate-crazy, especially the kiddies, but now there is website devoted to all your parent pirating needs. Oh, yes. Yes, there is. It's called PirateParenting.com.

If your dream is to live the "Pirates of the Caribbean life" along with your family, now you can. First project? Convert your minivan into a pirate schooner. Why? Because not all pirates live near the ocean. Duh!

You'll need to gather up a few things before starting this project: a flag pole to use as a mast, an old barrel to use as a crow's nest, a swivel cannon that can handle a six-pound powder charge, oh, and a first aid kit.

Once your minivan is converted, it will need a proper pirate name. Consult the website's minivan pirate schooner name generator, and your Honda Odyssey becomes The Blind Clownfish. The best part about this whole deal is that if your little mateys aren't pulling their weight, you can make them walk the plank. Arrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

Airlines Actually Help Keep Your Kid Quiet? Tickets Please!

Mike Adamick (Cry It Out!) — Tue, 10 Apr 2007 15:31:00 GMT

On a flight to Michigan several months ago, Dana and I brought onboard food, toys, games, blankets, pillows, baby syringes filled with baby horse tranquilizers -- anything we thought might keep Emmeline calm during the four-hour flight. The only thing the airline did to help out was lose our luggage.

Turns out we've been flying the wrong airline (have fun with that bankruptcy, United!). Several international carriers are offering everything from puppets to puzzles to interactive televisions and children's programming to help make long flights easier for kids -- and the passengers around them.

Even the worst carriers (is it that obvious I hate United?) are getting into the act by including kids show on their miniature TV screens.

Where the hell were these perks when I was a kid? Sure, I occasionally caught a glimpse inside a cockpit, but I would have foregone the flashing lights, countless switches and crazy questions about Turkish prisons for the chance to pre-order my own meal and play Nintendo during a cross-country flight. That does it. We're definitely switching airlines.

Yo Ho Ho! How to Turn Your Darrrrr-ling Into A Pirate

Stefania Pomponi Butler (CityMama) — Sat, 31 Mar 2007 15:29:00 GMT

What is this pirate trend that is sweeping the nation? Suddenly dinosaurs and spaceships aren't cool enough anymore; everyone wants to be a pirate.

When we lived in Portland, Ore., the most popular band in town was a pirate band. (Two words: Luh-ame.) When they played our local farmer's market you'd trip over baby peg-legs in strollers and preschoolers with eye-patches and fake parrots on their shoulders while shopping for produce. You'd have to be careful when reaching for a basket of strawberries lest you get gouged by a hook.

Avast thar! Is it time for your kid to get with the pirate program? Start with the books, then the locution, then introduce the music (if you must). And, lastly, no pirate would be complete without the perfect ("slutty" if you're a girl, Yo HO HO, indeed.) ensemble. Me? I'm not so into the whole pirate scene. Singing sea shanties? Noooo thanks, but I wouldn't say no to a bottle of rum and a peek at some booty.